why do people do this

why do people tell me who my husband is dating?!

I wake up in a good mood and someone on facebook chat immediately tells me that my husband was going out with my an old mentor of mine!
like WTF!?
I feel totally anxious and jealous!

I hate those feelings!

We've been separated for ages but man, have some sympathy. Is something like that supposed to brighten my day!?

We were together for 20 years, have 3 children together...

It pissed me off specially because I used to really like her and look up to her, she is also beautiful. When I knew her she was married.

I deleted her off facebook a couple of months ago cause I noticed she never said one peep to me.

Errr I HATE HATING

 

you may have heard this before but, you can't trust anyone. It's best in life (at least for me) to not depend or "look up" to someone. So when they do something that pisses you off, which they will. It will be no surprise and you'll handle the hurt a lot better.

 

I think the real question is why you feel anxious and jealous.

 

people change,circumstances change...if you were a black hearted you could bang someone that would piss him off?..


....he would probably really hate me?:devil:

 

It's allright, at least you can ruin some friendships of that other woman by gossiping to her friends that she's screwing a married man.

Hey, I think Im getting the jealous chick routine down.

 

Small lives like to spread misery...somehow it seems to give them a bit of power or importance... they are like the chiggers of life, an intense annoyance that soon fades.

 

You can't trust that anyone will meet your idealistic vision of what a friend is,
but there is no reason not to be friendly.

 

am i the only one that cant stop thinking
''holy shit...warm is single now?she is way hot..'':devil:

 

^^^

I'd like to see a pic. It's nice putting a face to a screenname.


Anyways, I don't know that I'd really want to hear that kind of thing, regardless of how I felt about my (ex)partner. If someone is telling you this kind of thing Warmhanded, you should tell them that you don't want to hear it.

 

Hello,

maybe you are more angry because of your feelings and not because of him dating someone? Unpleasant situation, BTDT.

Regards
Gyro

 

Because people love to gossip and they don't care who they hurt

 

I didn't mean not to be friendly.. just not to be surprised by the actions of close friends.

 

I didn't accuse you of anything. Just commenting on the nature of suspicion.

 

But they are afraid of being found out because it is not polite. That is why they whisper when the subject is around.

 

you should be happy for him


then find one of his friends you always liked and screw his brains out

 

^ This

 

maybe take this with a grain of salt. you don't know that he really is dating her. if he has seen her, it could mean that they are involved, they are thinking along those lines, or that so-and-so just saw them having lunch or something, so now they are "dating".

How long have you been separated? Was there a general understanding that it would be ok for you to date other people while separated? Was there any hope that you were going to get back together?

seems like if they in fact have been dating, they at least owed it to you to tell you what was going on

 

Oh Warmy, you're so hot you don't need him or your stupid old mentor.

 

no need to hate hating. hating is awesome. be a hater

 

wow, thanks for all the feedback.

We have been separated for over a year, it will be two years in oct.

No we havent said we arent going to date anyone, I just dont need to know that he is! I told this friend that it upset me, made me anxious. She apologized. Part of me thinks she should have known better though. I've been feeling kinda insecure since my dad passed away a few weeks ago. I saw him at the funeral, then he started calling me... wanting to "talk" but I dont want to make things more complicated. I think if I had a super awesome trustworthy booty call it may not bother me as much, the men out here are shit ... I dont know why it bothered me about him or her.... I know I dont want him ... lots of bullshit always ....

sigh

good points and great feedback thanks.