When is Enough... Really Enough????

How much do you forgive in a relationship, before you just say "ENOUGH!! It's over!" If you catch your lover in a lie, because he/she 'was afraid you couldn't handle the truth', can you get past that, rebuild trust, and continue to function healthfully in the relationship? Or, are you leaving yourself open to be played??


Fellas & Ladies...let us know your thoughts!!!!

 

I guess that vaires with every situation and person. You always kinda know in your heart when enough is enough. If a woman keeps getting played because she would rather be unhappy than alone then she stays. When it's not worth it anymore she leaves.

 

I had someone pull that line on me ones.. he had kissed a girl 1.5 years before and bragged to a lot of people about it but didn't tell me 'because I wouldn't understand it and wouldn't be able to see it in perspective and weren't able to handle the truth" Plus that he didn't want to lose me or hurt me..

Well.. I was pretty pissed of.. not for kissing some girl ages ago.. but for me being the only one not knowing.. and for him making a descision for me.. plus lieing, since I think he cheated and he always said (even after he kissed her and I didn't know about it) that he would never cheat.

I tried getting over it, but I couldn't. I felt like he disrespected me big time, so I broke up.

... And started a relationship (which lasted for 2 years) with his best friend.. hehehehe

serves him right

 

as soon as you see no future in the relationship. like the other person is too wacked to be the mother or father of your children.

 

I agree with Jeph. Lying, in any form, is acceptable once. The second time, it's over.

 

apathetic i become apathetic.

 

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BrownTripleQQ~ you post some interesting and thought provoking threads!

i'm speaking from the experience of having lived with a liar of that sort for too many years. it's passive aggressive behaviour, and it's not ever going to change. once a liar, always a liar. if someone doesnt trust you enough to tell you their truth, then there's never going to be a healthy relationship, no matter how much the non-liar tries.

 

Thank you. I've been through a lot. I'm a survivor of domestic & family violence and believe in justice. Each topic that I create come from things that I thought of when I was going through my domestic or family violence situations.

Again, thanks.