what to do, what to do?....

so i just met my husbands cousin. she told me she was a vegetarian. i get to her house to hang out...and she eats fish!!! i dont want to say anything to her to make my husband uncomfortable, but thats not vegetarian....

 

just bring it up later by saying 'i thought you were veg' and go from there. do it while you two are alone.

 

why do you have to mention it? Why does it matter what she calls herself?
I ate fish, but no meat and called myself a vegetarian. If anyone challenged me I told them they were free to call me whatever they wanted. I don't eat fish now...and people can still call me what they want.

 

bella it matters for those of us who do not eat fish and those of you who do complicate our lives by claiming to be veg but still comsuming dead animals...*rolls eyes and suggest you read a few of the "am I veg posts".*
I like Lunatics suggestion although I personally have no problem with being as upfront as possible and getting it out the way with everyone else around and explaining that they are actually pescatarian, they quite often are happy to find this term as they haven't heard it and are happy to find something that describes exactly how they eat. You can do it ever so diplomatically too however I tend to come straight out with it as I find that people will respect you if you can show you know what you are talking about. Families are always tricky though and this might enter the situation as an unexpected element so you would need to play it as you see it as to whether you do it this or that way.

 

kewl. drumminmama u helped alot. i actually dont like the whole"im doing it for the animals" and then makes a tuna sandwich and eats it....thats the only prob i have with it...i wouldnt say anything otherwise and to be quite honest i like having a veggie(even if only semi) in the fam.

 

yeah ..i felt bad for the poor girl last night...went to applebees and her cheese quesidilla had bacon in its sauce

 

Personally I think you should mind your business. Its her lifestyle.. and I believe she still has the right to call herself a vegetarian (just not a strict one) and I know a lot of you think differently and I totally understand that. But she is allowed to eat whatever she wants.. have a conversation with a fellow vegetarian but don't 'confront' her on this 'problem'.

 

i agree with MagicalFireLady...
and, why would it make your husband uncomfortable?

 

to magical fire lady and crayola , you can believe what you like but if you can't communicate it effectively to others then what the hell good is that? I could call a potato a tomato but if I am referring to a tomato and you are thinking potato we are going to get a bit confused about exactly what salad we are making! The terms that have been discussed here and in so many threads in this forum are socially agreed upon ones as is the whole of the English language. These have been around longer than us and although English is an evolving language, as is any that is in use, it really helps people who use these terms to explain their eating to others if others respect those terms, as discussed elsewhere.

 

...I don't need you to *roll your eyes at me* but appreciatte your effort at patronizing me. My diet is cleaner than you can ever imagine...I just don't feel the need to go around and label myself constantly or try to sound better than somone else. Live and let live man.

I just think that it's better she has a family member who is striving to be a vegetarian as oppossed to somone who doesn't care and eats a boat load at meat. Maybe just spending time with her, or cooking together will present educational opportunities that don't make her give up and pick up a steak because she feels belittled...everyone can use a dose of grace once in awhile.

 

I am not labelling myself, just trying to make it clearer to people who ask me what I eat exactly what it is that I do or don't eat, by messing with terms you make it harder and therefore through a slight feeling of frustration I roll my eyes, I truly have no idea what you eat but you did say you were on the raw food thing in another post so it sounds like you are very pure and clean, something I don't claim to be at all and I have never claimed to be better than anyone else based on what I do or don't eat. If that is what you understood by my post then maybe you read into it something that isn't there from me but rather from your interpretation? I really am just interested in it being really clear and simple about the different things that people do or don't eat and language plays a crucial role in this.
The second part of your post is great by the way!

 

Maybe just strike up a conversation about how you'd always thought the term for someone who eats no meat except fish was pescetarian (pescatarian?), not vegetarian.

 

ew yeah ive made that mistake

 

theres a big difference betwen vegetarian and pescatarian...but i am to the conclusion that shes confused about what to call herself...she told me that shes an ovo-lacto-pesca...i said oh pescatarion, and she said, no vegetarian...so yeah shes confused...

 

well i found why she eats fish...omega 3 fatty acids...any help there??..

 

Flaxseed, rape seeds, walnuts, and tofu (oh my!)