What It Means to Be Involuntarily Single

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-apes/202112/how-someones-personality-can-keep-them-from-a-relationship

Interesting read that points out some of the character traits common to those who are known as involuntarily single. These ppl are generally defined as those who are open to being in a romantic relationship and consistently make efforts to be in one,but who for whatever reasons have great difficulty in achieving it.

People are so mean and cruel now... Its no surprise why so many are alone

 

My wife is coming to the end of her dementia and is on palliative care in a care home.

This is going to turn my world up side down and all read have some problems trying to cope with the fast approaching situation in which I find myself.

I am trying my best to keep on smiling and not let her see how desperate I feel inside for us both.

I find it very hard and finically and mentally draining for me. To the point that some days, I am not able to see my wife in this state. But in my mind I think to myself, that is just one day slip through my fingers, due to my weakness and just depresses me more.

 

I am so sorry buddy

 

That very good of you to say, thank you.

We've had a fantastic life together

It's just not the closing stages we thought it would be.

But we have been so lucky together, more than sum.

We must all try to make the best of what we have. Wether that be two weeks or in my wife and I, a life time together

 

That's awful news Joe, I'm sorry this is happening.

How long have you been together?

 

My wife and I have been together for 35 years

We both thank you and everyone with their very kind words and thoughts for us both. Over here in the UK

Times are hard for us both, but, we think off all the others that are not as fortunate as my wife and I. Are thoughts are with them all.

Thank you newbi-one, Native Vee, 6sailor9, Bazz888, Nudist Ted and everyone

 

You're welcome!

That's a long time, I'm glad you've had that time together. At the same time it probably also makes it especially hard to part.

There are some dementia-related resources in the UK that might be helpful. It's ok if you're not interested in those, but I thought I'd mention that.

 

Thank you newbi-one, for you to take the time to think of my wife and I.

She is in the last stages off dementia and is not eating much at all now and having palliative care.

If someone else sees your information it could be a great help to them.

The dementia started about 5 years ago, but was very good at hiding that from me. Until I started to notice she couldn't remember how to use her mobile or the TV remote and got very frustrated and angry.

My wife and I would like to thank you for your time and hope the contacts you and others have provided in this thread will be of great help to them all, as well as family and friends.

Joe and my dear wife from here in the UK

 

Joey im so sorry

 

Thank you Native Vee.

IMG doesn't work with my mobile, but thank you All the same

 

That's awful, I'm sorry.

reading-well.org.uk (no www) has a list of books about healthcare topics that have been vetted by healthcare professionals. This link has some titles about dementia, including things like personal stories of people who have lost a loved one to it.

Reading Well for dementia - The Reading Agency

There are also some titles there about grief:

An Introduction to Coping with Grief, Second Edition
Sue Morris

There are other titles there about about grief if you scroll down to the "Common Feelings and Experiences" section in this link:
Reading Well for mental health - The Reading Agency

A quick search for "Dementia support groups in the UK" turned up a lot of results.

I hope there will be something in this that will help you Joe, but if not I hope maybe it could help someone else.

Wishing you and your wife good things.

 

Thank you, I will endeavour to put sometime aside to have a look at the information you have so kindly furnished for me

I will be at a loss without out my wife when the time comes and must try to hold myself together as I live alone and we didn't have any children through are own choosing.

I do my best to keep my mind on other things as well.

Thank you once again for your time. It is much appreciated and with some that I chat with here on HF, has been a great help too

Joe