what is wrong with this chatmail transaction?

ya skip it if you think I've made too many.



*So girl finds ME on facebook. Used to work with her/etc. We sort've flirted, but I eventually could not figure her out and things ended.

(I was dumber then than how dumb I am now).

She sends me a request on Fri. I accept it on Sunday, treading carefuly. I do her the favor of sending her a message (I'm interested as well) --

--That's it. Haven't heard shat. More proof I should just never text girls. Ladies, da fuuuq is going on?

Why do you ladies piss on every guy that texts you back appropriately and doesn't cold-shoulder you for days or weeks (ON PURPOSE YOU BIIITCH)??

Sorry to the non-Bs: Is there anything worthy of wrong on my part? The last line was obviously a convo/answer begger, but is it that big of a deal to a girl?



This ain't fair -- (wo)man up and tell me, 'cuz you have a genuinely interested nice dude here who just can't seem to communicate shit correctly to your peoples. And your peoples got me fucked up.

 

lose the ''for real for real''.its lame

why did you not answer her question a simple yes or no....its also weird that you drew attention to the double hang out question

obviously you knew you had already asked her to hang out...she knows too...she became weirded out

maybe you are a bad flirter

 

for the sake of the thread, keep it coming --


but why am I the only one scrutinized here? notice she never gets ignored 'cuz of one off comment? I worked a whole summer with this person too, so she already has a good idea of what I'm like!

Women & this courting system is fawking crazy. I take all the risk, take all the damage, and my confidence and insecurities are the ones under observation?

#SocialStraightUpRobbery bro.

 

Obviously, she wants to be raped by a big, tall, rich, smooth, muscle-bound guy. Bigger, taller, richer, smoother, muscler-bounderer than you.

All you get is the ol' bait-and-switch silent treatment while some dude she's just met who's got all the qualities that make you insecure is bareback double-dipping her and cumming in her mouth, right now!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3CgkWmKJLuE"]Daft Punk vs Kanye West (Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger) - YouTube

 

To reply in all seriousness, I think that question is like asking religious people why they believe in god, or why monkeys don't fly.

Watch women go silent when you ask why men "should" pay for the first date, or why men "should" be taller than them, why men "should" call first, etc. All of that without submitting to a man's authority as soon as the going gets tough, of course. Then, cry rape.

"I wanna be raped, I wanna be raped, I wanna be raped." Then, send the guy to jail for it.

There is no why. You're going by an honor code that is a false sense of security. It's just in-yo-face hypocrisy.

She got her little power trip, and off she went. And the white knights just love to watch you fumble. Try to slap a bitch (as well you should), and the white knights with tiny little weeners will mob you.

I suggest, forget the hoe and get a shotgun. It's war out there. The only way to get the girl (or, any girl that you're likely to wanna fuck, anyway) is to exercise power over men.

 

Perhaps she doesn't perceive 'hang out sometime' as courting but just as an invitation to hang out some time? I guess you have more insight on that since you worked with each other... I don't see the big deal (yet) to be honest. You replied to her friend request after 2 days, it has not been 3 full days since your message. If it just a friendly get in touch with each other again there is nothing wrong except your expectations it seems.

 

Man I hope you right, but everytime this happens I'm reminded by all the fine points Cherea is making.

As someone who's open, honest, up front and shitty at playing games - to a fault (ain't it funny this is a 'fault' in our society??)

they've been the exact traits I had to drown in water or else risk getting treated like above.


I literally have to curb-stomp that side of me to the ground so the dumb bitch doesn't "have her alarms go off."

WHY, are you #### attracted to honestly just one type of guy. It's very fucking sad.

It seems evolutionary guys turn into jaded assholes who just frequent bars/clubs to only get physical with girls. It's the only source of fun I have left with vagina at this point.

uke:

 

What is up with that!@
Is it lack of ability for critical thought?

Or is there a horde of females that know they want some asshole dominiate dick, but don't' want to admit it online?

I don't get why a girl can't just split biases and explain some of this ish to me.

Silent treatment there, silent treatment here. Our race is forever doomed.

 

You know the answer to that, but you're in denial.

It may have been precisely how our race survived and thrived. In an environment saturated with stupider, stronger predators...saber toothed tigers, hyenas, packs of wolves, all sorts of bacterial and viral microorganisms, slithering reptiles, and poisonous insects, etc.

Where death and suffering were cheap, and survival rare and expensive. Where camouflage, deceit, hiding, ambush, raw strength, and random chance were the only laws. Where you either had strength or faked out strength, OR faded out of the gene pool...

Where being an inch taller meant spotting a feline a split second earlier, and having resources meant enough calories and proteins that your mate survived 9 months of pregnancy instead of 8...

The weakest, most resourceful, most social, most hypocritical species rises to the top and subjugates the strongest, stupider competitors for scarce resources (including female eggs within the same species).

 

IF you are sure this is the case, why not look further? Because you have convinced yourself all girls are the same? They are not. Perhaps it is a self fulfilling prophecy and you are too aware of your 'flaws'? I just don't experience it like you or Cherea seem to experience it and I'm a typical nice guy as well.
I experience it mainly as a confidence/not looking uncomfortable issue so that's why I'm speculating you are too aware or overthinking it (like: am I acting not too nice now or what in earth should i say to that while still be funny/interesting etc.). You should not be busy with that thoughts to the extend that it shows in your apperance/behaviour since then you will look insecure which make for negative associations you can't blame a girl for getting (you get and react to negative associations too right?). It is as simple as being yourself and acting (and being) comfortable and go with the flow which I admit is at first easier said than done.

 

Exhibit A, eh. It's interesting because despite this lopsided system, men choose to work 10x harder (to get laid) and piss on each other just to even the odds. Maybe women subconsciously know this and this is why they stfu whenever this is discussed. We struggle, they continue to win.

 

You don't struggle, man. I never play the game, I'm just sincere and not lame. I also rarely aim to 'hit on a girl', stuff just happens when you are chill. This does not works for all guys naturally but especially for real nice guys (nice in the objective way). It does not matter if you're nice or not but if you are clueless or seem that way guys and girls will stamp on you. If you are sincere in your communication you have more succes when you are insincerely fake being nice while you actually only being nice because you want to hit it off. So, just wondering: you are one of the nice guys, ok. But are you faking your niceness when you're hitting on a girl? Cause they sense and judge that (can't blame them).

 

Could definitely be true. I think it's a couple things. I've learned long ago I AM extra self-conscious. This is simply a result of high awareness/intelligence. It's not going to go away.

#2 it really is communication style and women tropes. Unfortunately I am of the communication style that pushes all the wrong buttons. I have my moments but when you have a highly aware person, who is also over-personal and self-conscious, it gets a little difficult to say "fuck it" and put on a cool face.

But I think the point is women are forgiven for being themselves and even given permission to be a non-responsive party in this shitty dance.

On top of this things are made easy for them and the power of rejection is in their hands. We men keep playing to it, sure, if I could reverse history, I would. ...


*And not "all," women, there's been a few 7s who due to lack of options, are more grounded to reality that don't use my niceness, or insecurities, or HUMAN traits as weaknesses. But I am not settling.

 

7s? You don't rate them right? With not playing the game I also mean you should not hang into those gender profiles even if the majority of women may do so. Are you looking to love the majority of women? Then I pity you If you are looking for one that suits you in more than one way then why not play by your own norms and rules right. And another thing about this by society created standards: don't blame them on the ladies. Cause really the ones who take maximum advantage of it do not seem like a good party and the ones wo don't do that are not responsible for the current states of affairs either. Only stupid men AND women keep playing into it. And you seem to be one of them

 

dude...there it is right there...you actually think your ''dumb bitch'' attitude doesnt show through when you are talking to girls

it does....

even if you find a woman you will end up blaming her for all your grief just like you are blaming ALL woman right here


have you tried dating in the over 200 pounds category yet...you may have better success with a woman with less expectations out of life

 

That's the welfare state and feminism, for ya.

End state involvement in marriage and child bearing, legalize prostitution, and lower taxes to 6% and watch women act right and reply to your text messages religiously. You'd never thought you had this much mojo.

 

rollingalone, roll along. why are you still bitter because I called you old 3 weeks ago? sad, man.

 

wG

 

^ probably because you put on an asshole front. good job on getting laid. I've sent 1, maybe 2 pms ever here. You have 6 pages of "friends."

 

oh give up on the insults.... it doesnt become you

its not society or women in general that have a problem....its you...and you have a horrible attitude towards women

i love women....i have a thing for skinny ones but i still have plenty love for ALL women


so...you gonna call me more names now or can i ask if you have sisters?...my sisters obviously helped me appreciate females growing up

you seem to have a hate on for all babes