What is love?

I am a young guy and can never picture myself being in love with anyone, except maybe family. But I just dont understand love and I have never gotten a tingly feeling or sign of love I dont think. Can someone explain to me what love is and when you know you are in love?

 

"what is love?"

baby dont hurt me. dont hurt me. no more.

<3 haddaway

 

^^haha, i frigging love that song.

But erm, you just know when you're in love. I can't explain it, it's too hard.

 

I asked a serious question and you responded with an immature answer.

 

Hah, Yer expecting to get serious answers right away out of HipForums? Come on man, settle down and wait a while. Don't go lashing out at the silly hippies who are only trying to brighten yer day.

On the subject of love, don't expect to just feel love instantly. Love is something that develops over time. Love isn't as primal as emotions, so you won't feel something like the hot flash of anger or the painful tightness of sorrow, love is beyond emotions.

I sat here for like 20 minutes trying to describe what love feels like, and I really can't. Love is amazing and I pitty those who never experience it.(Heh, I sound like a damn pussy, I know..... it is a side effect of love :H )

The only advice I can give is that love is deeply rooted in friendship, if you search for love based only on physical attraction, you'll never find it.

 

It's missing them and thinking about them when they're not there. It's still getting that tingly goosebumpy feeling about them, even when you've been together for years. It's being able to tolerate in them all those irritating habits that drive you nuts in other people. It's being able to have a full on screaming argument, but still know at the back of your mind, that everying will be okay and the make up sex will blow your mind. It's knowing that you can tell them anything. It's having a bad day and knowing that, at the end of it, they will be waiting. It's silent, crushing, comforting hugs when you're upset, and kisses that make your spine melt, just because you know you're the only one who gets them.

 

To think about him every single minute. He is not with me but he is still here. I can feel him around. HIs smell, his touch. Im living in this dream and I dont want to wake up. I want him to be with me 4ever...

 

Unconditional,undying loyalty and devotion.

 

dammit, I was gonna say(type) that.......

 

its sweet, but it hurts. you've other alternatives. but u gotta figure that yerself

 

Why does love have to hurt? Before I felt in love for the first time (6 months ago) I thought love is just a great feeling and it is! But also it hurts badly. even if there isnt reason, if you are in love youll always be worried if something bad happened

 

It hurts worse than anything. I am jealous of thems that dont know what I am talking about.

 

My biggest mistake is to think I'm in love when I'm actually just in sympathy

 

my biggest mistakes is to let anyone in that close to hurt me.

 

that is not a mistake.
The only thing that make me feel alive are those feelings

 

hmm - I used to be 100% open about everything I felt with someone - now I feel a bit like a card player - trying to save the aces till last - trouble is I'm crap at cards.
I'll leave this thread - I'm in danger of giving love - a bad name.

 

So. What is love for you? A feeling that you are trying not to have again only becouse you have been hurt before? I mean... I cant tell you anything, Im just asking. Im in love now for the first time and I hope Ill never be hurt

 

Love is no hurt. It is no pain. It is when what little he makes you suffer is a product of your own mind in turmoil. Remove your own turmoil and try to breathe the love that he/she offers completely and whole.

It is gentle, kind, never ever loud, never impatient, never uncaring. Always relentless and always devoted. Love is gentle reminders to each other when one forgets. It is your heart breaking when you know and feel that he is troubled. Love is hearing and loving when he laughs and when he cries. It is demonstrative and warm.

It is understanding with no words spoken. It is finding comfort in silence.

Love is also acknowledging that what you share may not last. Love is acknowledging life and death, and understanding that your cycle together is only a circle. Never linear. It is understanding that the only ends you have are the ends and barriers you have fenced yourself up with. It is unlimited and yet, limited.

Above all, love is patience. With yourself, with others. Love is limited when you can understand that letting go is crucial to maintaining your own strength of character. It is respecting yourself. There is enough love from one person to fill the universe.

Romantic, indescriminate love without self-respect is tragic. It is giving without understanding. Drowning without understanding. Living without understanding. And not understanding what love is, nor how powerful yet simple it really is.

Love exists in the shadows, like a vine feeling its way silently across the walls. It is the air you breathe that we often take forgranted. Loving someone should be free of anger, impatience and selfishness. It should be knowing yourself and a willingness to learn more.

If you cannot with that person, if they are quick to anger, self-pity, impatience, jealousy, the love becomes unhealthy and it will destroy the both of you. Remember that people can only change themselves and you cannot exorcise all the demons of a loved one. They must find their own way.

Love others but love yourself above all else. When you choose to put yourself before others, it will be a powerful choice and humbling experience, never helpless.

 

Pain is very close to pleasure......

 

Damn, you are so right!