What is it that attracts you to a person ?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by kpbluey, Feb 24, 2009.

  1. kpbluey

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    To be in a relationship with ( not a one night stand), ?
     
  2. MaryJBlaze

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    spiritual, physical, and mental connections....


    nice eyes, nice bod, great smile, good sense of humor
     
  3. mariecstasy

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    bahahahhahahha, or that^^^^

    :Dmarie you're fiesty today.....
     
  5. mariecstasy

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    Yeah...I tend to get that way when I get introverted. When you see me on here a bunch, I am in that week period when I can't handle interacting with people....because everything pisses me off. So I have to entertain myself through my fiestiness. I can't take it out on people so I have to sublimate it into humor;)
     
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    outgoing, smiley, polite, lovely eyes, love for music and history. :)
     
  7. mariecstasy

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    truthfully though....it is all about the connection. I'm with Mary on this one.

    I like someone who has heart:) Makes me laugh! Loves nature. Loves life. Poetic. Sensitive. Depth of character. Intelligent.

    Body type doesn't really matter to me because I am no prize
     
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    I tend to do the same thing....

    I vent a lot on here through sarcastic meaningless posts, keeps me sane and level IRL:)
     
  9. MaryJBlaze

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    ultimately if the person can make me laugh my ass off, and I'm somewhat attracted to them physically...

    we'll have some good times

    :cheers2:
     
  10. mariecstasy

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    well yeah, attraction is necessary....but for me, most attraction comes through their character. Though I have been with some that weren't that attractive physically to me....and I found every excuse to get outta the relationship. So I guess I fool myself.
     
  11. kpbluey

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    I tend to think that most guys (bi) go for appearance and body image over anything else, they have a hormonal issue that makes them like that, more so than other factors in attraction?
     
  12. MaryJBlaze

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    most attraction comes out of a persons character, but in my reality theres about 10-20% that is based on physical attraction/chemistry...

    there has to be something there, or else I just can't bother, they go straight to the friends barrel....which is probably a much better place to be given my lack of ability to navigate relationships
     
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    hahaha....you funny. Most men in my life have always been friends. I have a hard time seeing them as anything but a friend once they have become one.
     
  14. bluesafire

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    Me three! :D
     
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    i agree :) ... that does it for me :D:D
     
  16. bluesafire

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    I think for me I'm very attracted to intelligence, wisdom, kindness, uninhibited sexuality/sensuality, good sense of humor, honesty, talent/creativity, ingenuity, passion, a FREE SPIRIT, and someone unconventional and emotionally mature. I feel really lucky because my husband embodies all those characteristics and he's really my dream man. Plus he's good looking which is a bonus.:p

    But, I've learned that I can be very attracted to someone who is not considered good looking by society's standards, although they must be attractive to me in some way. There's a certain look in the eyes, a sort of intelligent intensity that I find irresistible. Also, what really really melts me is capacity for deep love and compassion.

    What I find interesting, though, is as far as sexual attraction you just never know what or who will make you tick. I think it's a matter of chemistry which you really can't predict. I've seen good looking guys with very unattractive women (and vise versa) , and sometimes there must be something there between them. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
     

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