What do you do when this happens?

Okay, this is a question for the ladies and for the un-ladies, or as you call them, gents.

What would you do if your siboyfriend or girlfriend asked if she/he could go out for a night with someone opposite of their gender who you do not know?

Now what would you do if this other person was someone who your gf/bf's friends tried to set him/her up with not even a week before. Also, what would you do if you knew that your significant other was going to be drinking and getting high without you, and with this other person???

 

Well, I would first wonder why my boyfriend would want to do that I mean, are they friends, er, nevermind I see that you stated it was someone whom they were almost set up with..
I would question my boyfriends motives and again wonder why the hell they wanted to go get messed up with someone who they were almost set up with, rather than staying and getting messed up with me..

would it just be the two of them? cause thats a big negatory for me

 

Well... my mom has a gay friend... they hang out sometimes... but... he's gay. Plus he also works at a church and is a librarian and doesn't drink except for maybe like... one beer if they go out for a drink at a restaurant/bar... haha... plus I go with them a lot of times.

 

Dude. You're in your PRIME. Move on to the next lady.

 

yea I wouldn't tolerate that one bit...nope nope nope

 

that pretty much sums it up for me.

 

I think I'd wonder why I wasn't allowed to come. If it was because I already had plans, like working, that's reasonable. If it's just the two of them, and we'd just started dating, I would be nervous. A new relationship tends to start on pretty shaky ground. Unless this isnt' a new relationship and that person's friends are complete morons for trying to set up my SO when they're already dating someone.

But if they're going out with a few friends, including that other person, and I can't make it.... whatever, they're allowed to have their own life. I guess it depends a lot on how much you trust your SO and that other person.

 

Hell no. Say "buh-bye babe!"

 

Co-signing. Did your SO at least ask you if you wanted to go? or was it a "I'm going out for drinks and drugs with this guy I almost went out with and you're not allowed to go" kind of thing? If it was the latter, I'd be thinking perhaps this is not the person to be with. But if they asked you and you couldn't make it, then..well like Ihm said, it depends how much you trust your SO. Do you know this other person??

 

Well, my girlfriend told me that this guy found her on our school's facebook site thing (whatever the hell that is) and he started IMing her. Her friend and her roomate knew the guy, and they asked her to come drinking with them over at the guy's room, but they were secretly trying to set her up with him for free drinks. That's how it started... the next thing I know, I started remembering the last time my girlfriend drank, and how she puked all over me and my bed and shit, so since I knew where they were, and since she was running almost an hour late, I figured I'd stop by to meet this guy and cast a scornful eye on the two bitches trying to set up my girlfriend with this frat boy fucker.

What I found was my girlfriend, behind a locked door, and no one was answering it. I got pissed, walked around through the neighbors' door and found her out of the room and dude was holding a bowl with smoke coming out of it. I almost kicked this shithead in the face since he was rather stoned and propped against the wall at prime stomping level, but I saved it and caught up with my girlfriend in the hall. She seemed nervous and confused, but she started walking toward the elevator and asked me to come with her.... As soon as we get outside, she is leading me by the way, then she pulls me aside and starts yelling at me and calling me possessive and shit. I think I was pretty slack about letting her go at all, let alone after I waited an hour on her and walked in on that shit. I should have just dropped her probably, but she's been one of my best friends here, so I wasn't about to just kick her to the curb.

Anyways, now it's a week later, and she told me that this same guy asked her to go out to his frat house with him drinking, and she wanted to know how i felt about that. I told her that if I met the guy, it'd be cool perhaps, but right now I really don't wanna deal with this shit, so I've got a lil' plan of attack now that my other best friend gave me. Not only will I handle the situation, but I'm gonna get this guy feeling all nervous and panicked simply by telling my girlfriend that I want to meet some of her friends since she knows all of my friends. Next time he tries to ask her out, then we'll both go over and I'll drink his alcohol and fart on his couch and laugh as he realizes that I'm the man with the big nutz. Then, when it's time to go and I've drank all his booze, I'll take my girlfriend back and ride her like a pony till the sunrises! That's called karma... and ain't that a bitch?

Anyways, I just hope that this works out because she's been really awesome to get to know, and I don't want this fucker interfering with what we've got. I know I'm in my PRIME and should probably move on, but there's just something telling me not to drop it quite yet.... I dunno why....

 

You really shouldnt be pissed at the guy.. granted he sounds like a asswad, but she is the one going over there and wanting to hang with him ya know.. And why the hell are her friends trying to set her up if they know shes with you?
Im my opinion, I dont think you should dump her cause it sounds as though you two have a serious relationship and its hard just to throw something away like that when she didnt mess around or anything..
to me it sounds as though she needs some new friends and not ones that want to cause chaos and problems with your relationship..

 

Does the guy even no she is dating you? If so, THEN I'd be pissed at him. If not, I could understand his reasons for inviting her. But still, I wouldn't want her to go unless I went to. THat's just me though.

 

Yeah... I have to agree with you two... I'm not pissed so much at the guy as I am at her friends (these are two that she almost NEVER talks to... at all! That just makes me pisseder). I don't really know if the guy knows 100%, and my gf said she would talk to him and figure out if he was just going to hit on her or if he was going to be her friend. However, stuntdragon dude, you and i are on the same page... it's all about the lack of respect. If he does know, and he's still trying, then I'm gonna kick him in his muthafuckin teeth, and after i knock his ass out, i'll whip out my piece and cock whip 'em in tha eye. The next day he'll be running around and someone will eventually ask : "Dude, what happened to your face? Why is your eye all black"

and then he'll have to tell them about how he was tryin to steal someone's girl, and how he got dickwhipped by the hippie... and then I shall reclaim my throne as God, and smile upon all creatures....

 

HAHA dude what school are you at? Looks like you aren't too far from me...need any help, I'm here for ya.

 

you should go and tell him that so and so is your girlfriend and that you are telling him this once and if you find out he tried to pull anything, his ass will be no more...

 

hmm. why would she want to go drink with him..... without you?

 

I just don't think your girlfriend respects you, and I question why she would be doing this multiple date-thing with this guy in the first place. If she really wanted to be your girlfriend, she would have zero interest in hanging out with this guy. Add to that the fact that when they hang out, they drink alcohol and do drugs... :$ Bad combo, man. You know how girls get (yeah, guys too) when they're fucked up: they fuck. They do things that they secretly want to do and now are uninhibited about doing. Chances are, she'll go along with this guy when he starts to grope her or push her head down to his crotch.

I also think that if her friends have been trying to set her up with any guy, that doesn't happen for nothing. It happens when chick-friends are aware that their chick-friend wants to be on the market! Perhaps your girlfriend has given them the indication that she wants someone new and to be on the lookout.

I would lay it out for this girlfriend of yours, explain that if she wants to go out with you, it's you and you alone. Tell her you won't tolerate two-timing or cheating of any kind, you want exclusivity and if she can't handle that she's cut loose. She how she likes the ultimatum.

-Jeffrey