Ok i need some advice. Me and my boyfriend are in an open relationship because we both want to experiment with other people, but love each other to death. So with that said a couple months ago i was supposed to mess around with one of my friends when she came home from university over the Christmas break, but her girlfriend found out and got really mad( might i add that i was lead to believe that she was ok with it). We didnt end up doing anything and she went back to school and we kind of drifted as friends because its hard to keep in touch when you live far away from each other. Anyways, she came back home after school let out and her birthday was just this past weekend. WE both had a lot to drink including a shot of tequila each. So i went up to the washroom and she flowed, claiming that she needed to have a heart to heart with me and eventually this heart to heart was full on making out in her upstairs bathroom with her girlfriend in the house. We both were sworn not to tell a soul about what had happened, and just as we were making out more her girlfriend knocked at the door and i left claiming and acting as if nothing had happened. Later she ended up getting upset about and i was called to reassure her that nothing had happened. And she said, ok i just dont trust you guys alone together. I started noticing that she was staring at me a bit more than usual after that. after sobering up a bit everyone but her me and a few odd other people were still up and she nudged me and said she was going to bed. I told her i needed a bed to sleep in and she led me to a room with a person already in it. When she was on her way out of the room to go to the room with her gf in it she kissed me again, just a small one, not an im drunk lets do this for teh hell of it, it was like a nice simple but soo complicated kiss. And we left it at that Now, me and my bf want to hang out with her, a few days after the fact and she wont come over. Claiming that shes nto in the mood. I think shes avoiding me but i dont want her to. I dont know if i can talk her her about it just yet because it just happened and i dont want to make it weird. even though it could already be. I want to know how she feels what do you think?
tell her that. tell her you want to know how she feels yadda yadda yadda and you want to know if she would be interested in the opprotunity to have whatever you and your bf want to have. nothing wrong with asking. if shes distant, just let her be, shes a gf and shes probably afraid her gf will do something because shes is the one in the middle right?? Kinda shoved away in a corner really.
Yea i know, i really do feel bad about her girlfriend. But like i think its just too soon to ask her how she feels, like one thing in my mind is that maybe she is confused to and isnt sure what to do. Im sure she loves her gf, but what does she feel about me you know? Like my main thought is what was that last kiss, it was like she would kiss her girlfriend that way or something
You and your boyfriend are in an open relationship....your friend isn't. While the makeout session may have you wanting more, stop and think about what you are doing (or want to do). Her girlfriend does not trust you guys together because obviously she can't. Are you ready to destroy their relationship? Is your friend? The friend needs to back off because she knows her girlfriend does not approve, and you need to take the offer of physical intimacy out of the relationship you have with her. None of this is fair to the girlfriend because she seems to have made her feelings clear to you and your friend. What your friend is doing is wrong (kissing you when she knows her girlfriend does not approve) and avoiding you is how she is dealing with it for now. Leave her alone until ALL you want from each other is friendship, or she is single and you can continue what started in the bathroom.
No i totally understand that what we did was wrong. But its not fair to imply that i should give up my friend because she has a girlfriend. Im not saying i am going to act on any feelings i may have for her or let her act on hers if she has any. I mostly just want to know where i stand without making it weird between her and i. I also mentioned that we had both had a lot to drink and i wouldnt not have done anything like that while sober.
