what did i get myself into?

i've been dating this girl for 5 months now, and i mean we don't fight or anything like everything is good but like i've been getting really bored with our relationship. when we hang out we basically sit on her couch and watch shows of her choice and cuddle, it makes me feel like i have a vagina... but i love her. she wants to talk on the phone like all night every night and like i mean sure that can be okay at the beginning but like sitting on the phone with her not talking about anything when i could be doing things like smoking bowls or jacking off because she didn't get the job done... she is also bipolar and randomly bitches at me for short periods of time and continously apologizes, and i'm nothing but great to her the least she could do would to atleast show me some action but the most shes done was give me two hand jobs in the beginning of our relationship, when both times i had to ride to her house at 12 at night because hes anxious about parents comming in when these things happen even though my parents never bother us, which is probably why she always wants to go to her house but yeah her house is like 30 minutes away to bike and basically made me go there just to get a fucking hand job. i know i always come here for advice and i know it may sound like i'm bitching and pissed off and i know most of its not her fault but it's a lot to deal with sometimes and sometimes i think i might be happier without her but she's like emotionally dependent on me and she would like break down...

 

sounds like u need a new couch if it makes you feel like u have a vagina.

she sounds like trouble. how old is she? and u shouldnt be afraid to break up with her because shes emotionally dependent, because she'll only get more and more as time goes by. (well unless you date her well into adult years when she matures.) two handjobs in 5 months sounds :/ lol is she like religious or chicken or nervous? and also, ur only 16, u dont need any kind of serious relationships at all at this point in life, so don't take it too seriously. imo.

 

she is not emotionally prepared for a real relationship.

really, the hard part is figuring out how to let her down gently. she sounds like a basket case. talk to her parents if you have to. at least theyll appreciate you are being honest. "look, ive been dating your daughter, and i think she may need help. i dont feel we are in the same place maturity/ relationship wise, and i dont want to hurt her (because you sound like you don't) but i dont know how to handle this." BAM ask them for help, they are the ones who will have to 'catch' her when shes so upset about you. shes worried about them catching you up to something, and even if she hates you over talking to her parents, if she has half a brain she'll forgive you.

there should be a girlfriend (and boyfriend) basic training course. sex, (or sex related acts i suppose) is not everything. and making your bf/gf watch only crap you want to watch is abuse. its not reciprocal. wasting the time of said person is also not endearing. we all have other crap to do, who wants to waste time on bullshit?

anyway, thats my 2 cents.

 

i like your signature.

Well i used to get bored with relationships alot, when i used to date people.

I think if your not interested anymore, move on. you only have one life, why waste it being bored with someone your not that into anymore? things change - it seems as if you should try to find your true soul mate, who will fulfill you and make you happy.

But you also said you love her.

So its ultimately your decision; do you love her enough to try to make it work, or do you wish to meet other people who may be a better fit for you?

If anything, you should still try and at least be her friend because of the co-dependancy. I'm very co dependent and i was a mess when all my friends left me.
Just meditate and the universe will provide you with the right answer.


-may the stars grant you good luck on your journey through life...

 

One step forward, two step backward

 

you're 16.. be happy you're getting any action at all

 

Jo k er : I want you


I know you want me too...

 

who the fuck is that?

 

have you tried just fucking her real hard? .

 

girls are like new computers, takes a getting used to them, after you beat em around a little..

 

get rid of all the junkware and rebuild it?

 

haha,, Idk I got me a girl from china. Toshiba... To bad it was ToShiva..

 

thats a good point about it getting worse. she's "nervous" and no she doesn't believe it god at all, i've always realized i didn't need it once i had it.

Mother's Love she is always sad or depressed and i always end up having to comfort her so i have no idea what she would do without me... this is a facebook message she sent me last night "you are probably snoring right now... or wetting your bed. but i just wanted to tell you that i love you so much and i'm so so sorry and it wont happen again i'll make sure of it, i don't care what it takes i never want to put you through stupid shit for no reason because you are amazing, you truly are, and you deserve better. i love you so much, and i'm so fucking lucky that you are mine because i couldn't ever ask for anything more. and i'm so proud that you're doing really well in school because that means that there's a great chance of us being able to be together forever sooner. i love you, and i hope you know that whenever i start pointless shit it's really not your fault at all, if i make you think it is i'm so so sorry because it's really not and i love you and i need you. i really hope i never do it again because i need you and i love how you know how to tell when i like something you do and i love the things you do and there is nobody else on this planet who is as amazing as you. i love you, goodnight"

you're right pyschedelic flower she get crazier for me by the day..

 

haha install some anti-virus programs and youre good to go.

 

Do you think what she says about you is genuine? Do you think she means it?
She sounds a little like she is projecting unrealistic love onto you and I'm not sure if it is healthy.
Women like her seem to show love and hate with the same intensity so perhap have an argument with her and see how she reacts.
If you are the best thing since sliced bread then she should not blow an blood vessel...and have a reasonable argument with you.
Basically see what is and isn't real and see if it is worth carrying on.

 

plug and play...

 

In the time it must have taken you to write this you could have whacked off. Jus' saying.

 

you could try to make it work, keep in mind that love and hate are not mutually exclusive. a real realtionship involves recognizing how much you love someone, in spite of the reasons you hate them. i got back from a trip with my mom, and had to wait forever for hubby to come get me. i was so mad, but when he walked in, even though i was mad, all i wanted to do was hug him. reciprocity (?really, thats an actual word, and i spelled it right? go figure) is vital in any relationship. is she not allowed to date yet, because you wont get a balanced relationship if you cant GO somewhere. most girls have no basis in reality at that age, and maturity levels have plummeted across the board. you should try to go do stuff together. just dont leave her with no one to lean on. she has no grip on reality. she watches too much tv (almost everyone does, so its not a streatch, but it doesnt represent real life)

a lot of people think that relationships have to be happy all the time, and that is so unrealistic. she should only apologize if shes really sorry about something. shes not sorry she kept you on the phone all night, it made HER feel good. shes not sorry she made you watch chick flicks, it makes HER happy. put the reciprocal thing on the table. tell her you feel you are being taken advantage of for emotional support. you do care about her, but you could be her emotional support from the 'friend zone' and at least you could find some nookie elsewhere, if thats really important. but if shes not allowed out of the house, if she is not permitted to date, it will be an uphill battle.

 

yeah, Mother's Love is right on this, talk to the folks