Hi i am new here as a registred member,but i'm reading this forum for a while now. I'm in a rather special situation at the moment. It's like this: I got a really good friend and we are getting very close wich is a good thing offcourse, but our friends say there is "love in the air" alltough she says to me that it's only friendship. She had a relationship for allmost 2 years but they broke up a couple of months ago. She doesn't feel anything for that guy anymore but he wants here back and gets jealous alltough they aren't a couple anymore and so on... She is still cares about him and don't want to hurt him to much. She told me one day she really would hate to tell him if she had another relation. And the way he acts towards her I really can imagine that to. A couple of days ago she was at my place. and we were on the couch together lying very close to eachother, she started to caress me a bit not on any special places or something just on my hand but a while later we were caressing eachother more and more, not only on the clothes but also underneat them. it went from hand to arm and chest, belly... But she asked me a couple of times (not that night or something) if I didn't have any feelings for her (more then friendship), it really seems that she doesn't want that because she says she really hopes it isn't. I was wondering if maybe our friends are right about it and there is something more then friendship in the whole thing. Is she maybe supressing her real feelings or am I just seeing ghots here and is there nothing more then a friendship...
well, that sounds like their is love in the air, but shes afraid to admit it. she could be scared to get with another guy, 2 years is a long time. but i could be wrong. it definately sounds like something is there with you two tho
hmm tonight she told me it meant almost as much as a relationship to her , but because it isn't it meant a lot more ...
Let me tell you, at that age, girls often look for a guy, usually a friend, as a no-strings-attached sexual outlet for their frustrations. Many girls that age assume that guys just want sex, and believe it or not, girls do to. The problem is, teen guys are more likely to fall for a girl that is giving them pleasure, because they assume it is love. It is part of the age, nothing to be ashamed of at all. I say though, if you can't be comfortable being a "fuck buddy" without a serious relationship, tell her the truth, don't assume anything. If she does really care, she will listen and understand. If not, you will probably still have a friend in her, but one of your rather unintelligent hornier emotionless friends might start telling you every little detail of what he does with the girl. But alas, you will do what you wish. I had to learn that the hard way, but I hope you will take what I have said as some wisdom.
i really want to believe you but knowing the girl, and knowing she is still "pure" (still after 2 year relationship) i don't think it is sex she wants.
All I can say is go with your heart. I was in that boat several times and was hurt badly several times over. My cousin however, dumped her bf at 16 cause he was a dick, but got with her current husband of 11 years the next week.
oh my god. that was ME 5 years ago, no joke. she feels something for you for sure but she won't admitt it, or she hasnt recognized it. make your move before it is too late, once your established as a good guy freind she won't want to lose that regardless of how she feels about you in other ways. she's playing it safe, it's up to you to take the chance
Make your move and go go go !!! When a girl likes you it is very easy (weather she wants to admit it or not), to get her to develop emotions, you just have to say/do the right things... and NO I Don't mean LIE about how you feel to get her to like you, tell her how you feel. Honest, is my opinion, is an extremly powerful tool. Especially when mixed with emotions.
hmm some new stuff happend ... she told me she doesnt want our friendship as it was before this, but she'd rather have a good friendship like we have then a new relationship i don't know but i'm starting to think she's afraid of having a new relationship but maybe just mabye deep inside she wants to ... :& it isn't getting any easier ...
pffffff its over , she said to me she wanted to stop with whatever we had , and just go on like good friends , she is affraid of losing me as that good friend so that we go back to "just friends" I don't know anymore now is it really how she feels or not pfff this just sux
dude, send her some flowers or do something special if you can, that has always seemed to work for me, but do it slick, don't talk for a few days, send her some roses with a note telling her you want to meet somewhere and if she shows let her know how you feel....if she doesn't just play it off like you were bieng a good guy and wanted her to know that you weren't upset at what happened, however it turns out you will earn points......from a true pimp...hehe
Be her friend. Doesn't mean the door is closed forever. It's better to have a relationship later on when you have foundation of a solid friendship. It's never over.
Yeah i didn't mean "over" in that way , what we had the last weeks is over those special moments and stuff, she is backking off for some reason although she told me she didn't want to , but she said "its better that way"
Listin It sounds to me like she's lonely and misses someone treating her as the graceful creature that all women are, no offense but It sounds as if you were the rebound guy?! I mean I'm sure she'd a very nice person, and never ment to treat you with disrespect, we all go through "the rebound" phase in the healing process. I think it best to let her figure out what it is she wants. If she wants a relationship, then coudos to the both of you, but if it's this hold me, Kiss me, make feel special; so I can treat you like a replacement, then you have to be strong and guard your heart. They say it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them. So if she was with him 2 years, then she needs a year to heal.
