Let me first start out by saying, I love my significant other more than I've ever loved anyone before and I would do absolutely anything for him. He's a sweet, caring, thoughtful, loving, honest, and loyal man and the biggest blessing I've ever gotten in my life. However... He calls me every two hours practically. And it's driving me NUTS! I hate talking on the phone and have mentioned this to him NUMEROUS times. And what do we talk ABOUT? Oh, nothing, usually. Every once in awhile we'll get into good conversation (our conversations are much better in person), but, usually he just kinds of sits there on the phone. I hate that, so I'll be like "Well, I'm going to get off here, since you're not saying anything." We say our goodbyes and a couple of hours later he'll be calling me back again...with very little to say. I enjoy him and his company...but...sheesh...I think it's going a little overboard. OK...I'm done venting. Thank you for reading.
ugh.. i used to have this problem and it sucked. do you knwo why hes doing it? it could be a numebr of things... he could be insecure and wanting to 'check up on you', he could be feeling a bit lonely, or maybe hes just a guy who lvoes you so much and cant bear to go a couple hours without hearing from you. in any case, make sure he knows your devoted, which i am sure you do what you can. if hes the jealouse type, you really cant change that. in the case that hes lonely, maybe help him find a hobby or soemthing he can do to keep him busy when theres nothing else going on. painting, writing, playing music, or even maybe a job if he doesnt have one.. basically anything. but dont be too hard on it, which it doesnt sound like you are. you have found one of the few guys who DOES call, so embrace it. maybe just tell him straight off, "i really dont feel like holding this phone up to my ear, can we talk later?" hopefully he doesnt take it the wrong way and accepts it. good luck with everything!
He's REALLY not the jealous type...and he has PLENTY on his plate to keep him busy...so I guess it's just that he misses me and just LIKES talking to me. I tend to get fewer phone calls when he's at home during the evening because he has a gallery in the basement of his house, so he's always working on art stuff. And he's got a solo art show coming up in May he's getting ready for. I notice, it's mostly during the day...because he's at work and gets bored. Well...I guess I shouldn't complain too much...is missing me a crime? Nah.
I think it's kind of rude. After all, what if there was an emergency and someone needed to get ahold of me?
Is it a cell phone? Maybe put it on vibrate & check once an hour (at least) to make sure you didn't miss any important calls? Are you really busy? Maybe stay busy doing something & if he calls and it's important, then talk. If he's at the point where he's just sitting there breathing and you both are saying "yeah" over and over again just to fill up silence (I've been there too!), then it's time to say "I'm busy with ______, I'll talk to you when you get home." When I don't want to talk to my bf on the phone, I try to leave my cell phone off, but turn it on 5 minutes later, then put it on vibrate. I check it every half hour or so. Most of the time I'll be in class, driving, or going grocery shopping for us so I don't have to worry about those awkward moments. I just call him back (if I miss the call) & tell him I'm busy and will call back if he REALLY needs to talk. The only problem is when he is drunk and calls. Luckily for you, it doesn't sound like your dealing with drunk dialing. (I swear his cell phone needs a breathalyzer! ) Peace & Love
Haha.... that sucks, Annie. But it's also pretty cute. I don't know what I would do. Probably I would tell him something along the lines of, "I'm really sorry, sweetheart... I'm in the middle of [insert task here], but how about I give you a call as soon as I'm free tonight... around 4:30?" That way he knows you're going to call at a specified hour and (hopefully) won't keep calling you in between now & then. Anyways, good luck! Haha.... ~Peace
