Too desensitized from masturbation?

Ok here's my problem: I'm 23, and up until last week I was a virgin. So, yea, for 12 years or whatever I've just been masturbating and thats the only way I've ever gotten off.

So last week I'm having sex with my girlfriend and I just can't really get into it... It's difficult to stay hard, and I just don't feel the sensation that I do when I'm masturbating. Anyway, she got off three times! But I just couldn't finish, which left me feeling kind of shitty.

We tried it again today and I still couldn't get off inside her, but I did when she went down on me and used her hands.

Is it possible that I'm just way desensitized from masturbation, and now that's the only way I can really get off?

 

Keep thinking that and it will be true! Don't fall for the thought. Hey, more guys fall limp on the first few tries than the world will ever know. It is almost natural. Sooo ready to make the 'right' impression that they are way too nervous. Keep at it until it's part of your life and things will work out. When you are finally not even thinking about it, ol barny will stay rock hard. The penis is a fickle friend! Sounds as though you've got a patient and helpful partner. That's ingredient Number One! Stay with it and her. One day when you least expect it, voilla!! Meanwhile quit jerkin for awhile, though none of us would produce babies if wanking caused 'desensitization.' Meanwhile, think of all the fun you're going to have. Are you going down on her? Usually puts extra starch in me - just the taste and smell harden me for the forseeable future. Give it a long go and goodluck.

 

I doubt very much that your cock has gone numb from wanking, most likely you have mental issues about performance. Things like worrying about not being able to please your partner or not being able to climax during sex puts mental pressure on yourself. You have to learn to relax and let nature take over.
There is a possibility that you don't love your partner and are unable to orgasm without love being in the mix. That was/is one of my problems, I found that I was unabel to come during casual sex because I didn't love the person I was with, however when I found my soul mate things changed and it is very rare now for me not to blow the load during sex. Now and again I still have that problem but that is more to do with not being able to block out stress sometimes, plus having kids in the house don't help.
Q: What is the most sensitive part of your body while masturbating?
A: Your ears!!!
I just put that in there because I was talking about having sex with kids sleeping in the next room, hard to totally get into it when you have to keep an ear out for when they wake up. Oooh the joys of parenting.

 

Lots of guys are the same, just get her to bring u off afterwards, and with practice u'll get there eventually anyway, just try different possitions.

 

You were a virgin and you got your girlfriend off three times in your first experience?

Maybe you couldn't finish because you knew she was faking it?

 

Don’t feel bad. I just turned 42 a few days ago and it seems that the only way I can ejaculate is by my own hand. The wife doesn’t care for oral sex and won’t suck my penis to orgasm anymore. (Sometimes I wonder if she’s being that bad on her skills on purpose - I came in her mouth one time when we were dating and she nearly threw up). Also I had to give up masturbation for 2 weeks to stockpile for us to have our son now 7 soon to be 8. Now a days when we have sex she expects me to ejaculate or stop in 5-7 mins. She’s pre menopausal so there’s that dam too hehe

Anyway it will get better. Try giving your masturbation a little break and see what happens. Good luck =)

 

Try giving masturbation a break for a week or two and see if it gets better.
When we masturbate we engineer the best possible sensory experience we can. Sex feels good but might not hit the spot in exactly the same way we do to ourselves.
Also, some ways of masturbating are worse. A friend of mine told me he used to put a sock on his penis and hump his bed. He said that completely screwed up his sense of pleasure and he had to break himself of that before he could cum in a pussy.

 

I used to have that problem until I backed off of masturbation unless I purposely do it and let my wife catch me. Yeah I still get very horny while I'm alone. I just don't give in to temptation. Back off some and don't give in to temptation. If you watch a lot of porn. Back off of that also. Give it a few weeks and you'll be able to keep it up. Beware that it might or might not work for everyone since everyone's chemistry is different.