First of all, Im sorry for my English, its not good because Im not native speaker. Me and my gf were together more than 4 years, we lived in the same apartment. Our sex life are fine and may be my need is more than her. About 1 year ago, when we discussed about our sex, she came up with the idea "three some" with another girl and she tried to convince me to do that. After a while, i agreed to do but we couldn't find any girl which she liked (because we are Asian so this three some is may be is new in our experiences). Since then, I have had this idea all the time and I really want to do it and like every time we went to club, I think about it and we tried to get a girl. But until now, we haven't done it yet. At the moment, we have met a really nice girl, she is hot and she is up with three some with us, and of course my gf likes her. But the problem now is my gf don't want to do it any more, she wants to do 4some with this girl and a guy or else She won't do it. I don't know what to do now. About my self, I think it is really difficult for me to stand there, watch my gf got banged by another guy. I think Im a kind of jealous people in sex. I feel uncomfortable if my gf is too close with another guy. What can I do now? The girl we know, she just live next to us, 2 apartments away in the same building, we meet her everyday, some time we have dinner or lunch together. And At weekend, we talk about sex stories and all the adult experiences with 3 or 4 more guys who they are my friends. And this girl told the whole group that she wants to have three some with us but she doesn't know how to tell us. Yesterday night, our group had 7 people and we went to a bar which was very nice. Me, my gf and this girl were dance together, and they danced very sexy with me, my gf turned me on and this girl stayed, danced with us closely whole night. So can you guys help me out here? Should I change my mine to have 4-some (but I think this will be really difficult for me). Or SHould I forget about everything about it (this way Im trying and I think it is difficult also, if you guys know how can forget, please tell me) Thank you very much
Either tell her to try the threesome first (with the girl) to see if she even likes it or tell her you are NOT ok with another guy in there. She can't force you to do anything, if you feel you don't want to do it then DON'T do it. If there's even a lingering doubt about it then DON'T do it. It's not something you want to regret or have ruin a relationship. If she gets mad at you and wants to do it anyways then tell her to hit the road, she wouldn't be worth keeping anyways. hth
If she's changed her mind then thats really the end of it, if you want to be with the other girl then break up with your girlfriend and move on. Women will say alot of things in the heat of the moment, but alot of us have trouble sharing too. You said that you wouldn't want to watch your girlfriend get laid by another guy, what makes you think that she wants to watch you fuck another girl? She changed her mind for a reason.
Honestly, I don't think you're mentlly ready for a relationship like this. You want to try new and exciting things. You want to experience 3-somes with your girlfriend and another girl but what about her? You think it's okay for you to get pussy from other girls but she can't sleep with other guys? I understand why you're jealous and its good to be jealous sometimes. If my boyfriend was jealous I would respect his concern and I'd never do it if it upset him. We are swingers though and it can't be one way. If you feel uncomfortable in a 4 some then don't do it. It would only destroy your relationship. Have a chat with her though. If you don't want her to sleep with other men, let her know. But unless she's really getting off on the 3some thing, then you might just have to sacrafice that too. Who knows, maybe she's just doing it for you. Maybe not, but some girls experience a g/g/b 3-some just to please their boyfriend. Regardless, if she sleeps with another guy or if you sleep with another girl, you're still taking risks. But please, just keep things fair. If you have any other questions or thoughts, please e-mail me at azahazexxx@gmail.com. I'll be happy to answer your questions or just to chat. ~Aza Haze
Thanks for all replies, I talked with her and we didnt think about that until now, she told me last week that she wants to kiss another girl and she wants me to watch. What can I do? I tried my best to forget about this story but...
If it were me I'd tell her I don't have an issue with her being with another girl and she has my blessing but she should consider that I will strongly object to her being with another man and she should think about that before she takes the relationship down any new roads.
Be honest at talk it over thoroughly. From what you wrote, it seems like you just both jealous. I think that's ok. As long as both of you are jealous at the same time or not at all.
