The Real Definition of a Slut

How do you truly define a slut? There have been threads that touched on this a bit, but none that really focused on defining the term. Is a slut simply anyone who’s promiscuous? Can a slut have rules, standards, and turn people down sexually? Or is a slut someone who will fuck anyone without regard?

Do you believe a slut is defined by a person’s sexual behavior alone, or does mentality towards sex and/or other variables come into play as well?

Please discuss….

 

Off the top of my head I'd say a slut is shamed by whatever causes her to act the part of what she believes is a slut. Where as a 'Wild Woman' takes pride ln her 'wildness'....

 

I tend to define a slut as a person in a relationship who engages in sexual acts with someone other than their partner. This would be without the partners consent or knowledge.

The term for me has nothing to do with the number of sexual partners, but rather how able they are to effectively cheat. I would never consider someone who swings, or is single and is able to go out and enjoy sex with others (group sex or other), or in an open relationship a slut. All things considered, I find the term pretty much obsolete.

 

a cheat is yet another critter and yet a lower critter than a slut.

 

Yeah, you've described a cheat. A slut can be a cheater, but a cheater doesn't have to be a slut.

 

I think it goes by the individual. I had a friend who was considered a slut by many, she would cheat, sleep with others partners behind their backs and had a pretty nasty attitude towards it all. She had slept with 40+ men by the age of 18, but I honestly feel a lot of her sexual/promiscious behaviour was due to her very low self confidence, I think she just wanted to be wanted. She would use men though, and would have a few on the go at one time, she got money from them, sex on demand, lifts to where she wanted to go, a few men (including my best friend at the time) fell in love with her and would do anything she asked.

People began 'shaming' her after she was caught naked in a park with two brothers taking it in turns. I was the one who found her, then the group I was with followed seconds after. She liked sex, but preffered the attention. She lied a lot too, for money or to get her own way when a situation was turning bad...

My other friend also loved sex and had slept with many people but no one called her a slut because she was not publicly throwing herself about and was not using men for other things such as money. So maybe it is down to that, the attention side of things, doing dirty and promiscious things to get sexual attention even if it means hurting or purposely using close friends and sometimes the men involved or cheating?

I know of people who have been called sluts and have slept with a small amount of people but because they are extremely flaunty about it they get shamed. I personally dislike shaming or labelling people though, so I cant really answer the question, just say what I've experienced.

 

Easy. A slut is a woman who behaves as men would like to behave.

 

"slut" is a largely meaningless derogatory phrase, generally used on a female that the person using the phrase doesn't like. the general assumption is that it is something to do with sexual appetite or number of partners, but in its actual usage it doesn't seem to be massively correlated or even often connected to that at all (how many of us know/knew someone labelled as a slut who really has/had very quiet sex life?) . beyond that, there is no concrete definition, its generally just a synonym for "bitch". in that it's an all-purpose (usually, but not always) gender-specific insult.

curiously, it creates a peculiar double standard, in that the term itself is largely meaningless, but once attached to an individual marks them as being undesirable for an indefinite period of time (the "school slut" at my school held that title for most of my academic career there, but i don't remember her engaging in any form of sexual activity the entire time) . so no-one wants to be labelled a "slut" because its generally considered a bad thing to be, but no-one can agree on what one is, so its difficult to know how to avoid the charge.

if i was to say that there was some kind of consistency of meaning (which in general there isn't, much like "bitch") then i'd say it has to do with the perception of female sexual agency. being female is about sexual and social passivity, if you're perceived as being sexually or socially active, you can come under the heading of "slut". perception is the key here, how many people you sleep with tends to be less important than whether or not you are seen as seeking out sexual partners (which is why the term is sometimes used to describe provocative clothing, even though this is not really related to fucking. wearing clothes that are seen as being intended to inflame the desires of the opposite sex is described as being "slutty" because it is often percieved that you are actively seeking out partners, or encouraging them to approach you.) so there's the obvious gender double standard.

the idea is that men are meant to be active; women passive. a "slut" is someone who breaks, or is perceived as breaking, that golden rule.

it's practically bloody victorian, if you ask me. i agree with the bloke who said it was obsolete, not because it is, but because it should be.

 

slut is just another dumb word people use ta try and demean another human being.but i can think of a few fitting names for the people that use it.

 

and it's usually used by the guy that she WON'T sleep with.

 

righton! mike

 

They don't exist.

My definition of slut is:

Everything a sex slave is forced to do, a slut does willingly without coercion and they love it. Basically there is no such thing.

 

who'd want ta lay anyone with an i.q. so low that they'd even say the word anyway ?

 

I know one when I see one, is the best I can say

 

That's certainly true of many, but the term is not "always" used and/or viewed in a derogatory mannor.

 

how dya mean ?

 

there are women trying to "own" the word thru claiming it as thier own similar to some blacks try to own the 'N' word by throwing it around among themselves.

 

Plus, there are girls (and guys) who consider the term/title slut to be rather cool and worthy of praise. I suppose “pervy” could be used as an example as there are people out there who like and are proud of displaying perviness.

 

got ya ranger.

i think maybe perve means a different thing in different places.i would'nt feel pround ta be a pervert. in my definition of the word perves just give me the creeps.

 

I have always supported the rights of women to be as sexually liberated as men - at least, while they are still free & single / unnatached. However, even I can see that there are some women who, despite falling into these categories, can clearly be seen to be 'sluts'. These generally tend to be the type who tart themselves up with layers of gaudy make-up, tattoos & enough piercings to start up a scap yard. These are the type who are also frequently found to be single mothers, leaving their offspring with some friend or family member while they go out to flaunt themselves at the local clubs, coming on to anyone who will stand them a few drinks and/or drugs in exchange for a quickie in the back alley (usually unprotected).

In short, I see the difference between a woman who is simply sexually liberated & one who is an outright slut is primarily down to what respect she has for herself, as well as the respect she affords those she comes into contact with.