The Great Big Anal Sex Thread!

I was reading the top or bottom thread and it made me wonder if you can get an orgasm from anal. my bf is real into wanting to, but it hurts so bad even with enough lube to cover the entire state of montana!

 

sounds to me like you're not relaxing enough or possibly that your partner isn't going slow enough. If it's a relaxation issue, I don't know what to tell you. I generally don't advocate drug usage, but poppers can help with this. Have you tried the lube called analease? It has a numbing agent added in for those who are new to anal. Now if you think the problem is your partner, then tell him to slow down. If he doesn't, then pull away from him. He'll get the hint real quick. Good luck....

 

I never tried anal, it isn't my thing. But I know that you CAN have an orgasm, because of this special spot, associated with (similarities of) the girls g-spot. I actually think it is part of it. But guys have it too. And yep. Read up on it.

 

Just as Disarray said some great orgasms come from anal. The spot is the prostate gland. Having that rubbed can cause you to ejaculate withut even getting an orgasm but also if it is stroked just right it gives a very special kind of orgasm that is nothing short of fantastic.

Good lube does make it much more enjoyable. As does doing things to stretch your sphincter muscles. Some wear but plugs but fingers or patient partners can accomplish the same thing.

 

oh yeah, I agree on the anal orgasms. They can be mind blowing!

 

is it ever,.... messy?? ,..........................*blushes*

 

Do you plan on getting an enema before-hand? Ha...

Sure it can, it's a dick going up your ass. The shit has to go somewhere, right? It'll probably be slightly noisey. Maybe...

 

As far as I am aware the prostate is a 'man' thing. Men are more likely to orgasm from anal, but women can to. On the whole though if you don't enjoy it much you should be getting something you do like from the boyfriend in return...

 

Maybe getting into too much information here but you did ask. Some lubes seem nearly impossible to get off after playing.

Actually lately that is the only thing that has been "messy" for me in a long time. I do have more gas typiclly the next day. I did have an incident long ago where I bled a little after but that only happened once to me. I hadn't really thought of it but it is interesting that back before everyone used condomes I never experienced an enema effect.

Maybe this is just my experience, as with everything, I'm sure individual mileage varies.

 

I'm so glad someone mentioned that. Start off slow and with something smaller. Circle the anus with your finger just to get used to being touched there. Your partner can do this or use his tongue, depending on how much you two trust each other and how clean everyone is. Try using one finger up to the first knuckle until you get used to it. Then try going a bit deeper. Once you've become comfortable with one finger, start the process over again, but with TWO fingers going up to the first knuckle and so forth. IF your partner is going to use the fingers, he can integrate the anal foreplay while paying attention to your happy places. You should try the anal foreplay for a day or so before going all the way. Some people are fine the first day, but some just have a hard time dealing with it. And also make sure you are completely relaxing those muscles or else it will hurt more. Unfortunately, our first instinct when being penetrated is to clench those muscles. Bad idea. You don't want to really push out, but just kinda give a slight push to try to allow for easier stretching of the sphincter. And there's no such thing as too much lube.

In regards to cleaning the lube off, I've never had that problem because I make sure I shower thoroughly after engaging in said activity.

 

good advice there monosphere... couldn't have said it better myself..

 

I can orgasm from anal without any help.Lol.It

depends on how sensual the guy is who's fucking you.
I like a guy to play with me while Im bieng fucked,fondle me(Nipples,ass,balls etc.)
Go to bed with somebody who's sensual,not just wham bam.

 

Actually, in the male it is the prostate, but the same spot as the male prostate in the female body is the every mythical "g-spot". There isn't anything special there, that I know of, but it is the same spot of the body that needs to be hit in a woman. Or so I have been told, at least.

Anal is different for every person. I myself am what I call a natural bottom. I have yet to find a man who doesn't go in without pain. Of course, it is important, no matter what, that the man take it a little slow in the beginning going in. I've actually found that different men react differently to going inside of me. One guy, who had never done anal before, said it was too tight, that it hurt. Other guys have wanted me to bear down on them while inside of me. As with all things, every one is different.

The most important thing, IMHO, is communication. If it hurts you, tell your partner. Its not about pain and any partner worth having will be patient and make it good for both of you. When they do, it is truly a mind blowing orgasm and well worth the wait, and work, involved.

 

when you get that orgasm, do you cum?

 

Guys cum, and (some) girls squirt.

 

hm.. I tried anal once myself.. it was completely unplanned during sex.. we were having regular sex when he accidentally pulled his penis all the way out.. instead of putting it back in my vagina I put it in anally.. completely on impulse. It didn't hurt at all, even though it was my very first time (didn't even try it with a dildo or something before). It probably helped though that I was on top, very horny and soaking wet. Because it wasn't planned I didn't go to the toilet before or had an enema.. but it wasn't messy at all.. so, good experience.. although the week after I bled a little from there and it kinda hurt (felt like a papercut or sth like that).. but I don't know if that's related, 'cause there were several days between that and the sex. I don't know if I would be into it again.. just doesn't do anything for me and the idea is still kinda weird.. kinda 'exit only'.


I've also used my finger on two different guys.. they both kinda liked it, but more like a one time experience. One of the two came but said it was a very different orgasm then normal and it wasn't as good.

Ah well.. don't deny before you try!

 

You probably stimulated his prostate, which caused him to ejaculate without reaching orgasm. It can be kind of fun under the right circumstances, but no, it wouldn't be nearly as good if he was hoping to really cum....

 

Again, I can only speak for myself. I have had those ejaculating without orgasm sometimes but more often I get these body shuttering, mind blowing events without ejaculation. I call them anal orgasms. It sounds like there are some here who know the body pretty well so maybe there is a better explaination. All I know is if these aren't some sort of orgasm they are such an amazing thing that I am sure glad that I experience them & tried anal sex the first time I did. I was hooked for sure, possibly to the point that if I weren't bi before my first one I would be after. I, so far, have only gotten them from the real thing, dildos or fingers just aren't the same.

 

I would have to agree with the previous post. Fingers and dildo's aren't the same thing, but then I don't use either of those very much myself. It may be all about the technique, as with everything else.

As to not enjoying the orgasm as much...the truth is, it is an amazing, mind blowing orgasm. But it is also as much a mental orgasm as a physical one, at least with my limited experience. Your guy may have been kind of "batteling" the sensation. Most straight guys are uncomfortable with recieving anal stimulation. The stimulation still works, but they don't let themselves enjoy it as much cause they think it means they are gay. Truth is, it is a simple, biological response. Just like a woman raping a guy. They physical body will always react to the stimulus, though sometimes the mind can over ride it.

Probably, the guy just didn't "want" to enjoy it, inspite of actually enjoying it. Does that mean you should do it again? Only if he wants to. I mean, really....if he doesn't want to enjoy it, he won't, so don't worry about it. Its all about making your partner feel wonderful. If he doesn't want to do it again, don't make him or bug him to try it again. Its really all about him. If he wanted to do anal on you, and you didn't want to do it, you'd probably be upset if he kept bothering you about as well, wouldn't you? So long as you honor his wishes and both have fun, its all good. Go with what works, try new things, but if your partner says he/she didn't like it.....don't do it again.

At least, that's my advice. Have fun

 

hey everyone so kno that i have relized i am gay i have been out looking for a boy and i found one and i have sucked his dick but i htink he is going to want to u kno fuck me and i dont mind this i am just a little nervouse about it liek if it will hurt schould i do nayhting before hafn {fingering buttplug}

i dont kno any advice wil be very help full thnax