Heya all Well as some of you might know this morning i visited the Abortion clinic. It wasnt a nice experiance at all. They talked me through the two different methods, one was a little bit like the herbal abortiants some of you told me about. They give you a pill which stops the hormone that protects the baby's growth. two days later you go back and the vaginally insert another pill... this one enduces labour so to speak. They send you home where they tell you to stop up on sanitry towels and sit on a toilet untill you pass the sac ..... oh god that sound so so horrible. The other is the sergical method. you go in for a few hours at the most. they put you under general anesthetic and remove the pregnancy then they pack you off home after making sure you have eaten propperly. ... still doesnt sound nice but i didnt expect anything better. Its quite horrible knowing what im doing... but ive always been pro-choice donw to the fact that i know the women have to live with what theyve done... and now here i am in that situation. I had a panick attack whilst i was there and past out. I awoke on the floor surrounded in what i'm guessing was my own urine. ... ive never had a panick attack so bad although i am prone to them. They booked a scan for me on tuesday... and the abbortion on thursday. Im still not sure if im going to go through with it, but now its arranged its like so much of my body and mind has relaxed. Like the stress of having to make a decision was so sooo much worse than the outcome of either. we tell my parents tonight.. i think? what do you think? as parents would you want to know if your daughter was in this position? .... even though im not keeping it? i dont want to dissapoint them. Thank you for all your help mama's Fleassy xox
Oh. honey. I am so sorry you are going through this. I would want to know if my dd was going through this. Every parent is different. I can't tell you what to do, you know your parents. Blessings for whatever you choose to do. Maggie
thank you.. i think i should tell them. they are loving and caring people, and im most worried about my dad. i need my step mummy to know... shes a true mummy and gives real good hugs that make eveerything feel good. just what i need.
I would absolutely want my daughter to tell me, and I would want to take care of her afterwards. Sounds like you really need your step mum's hugs right now.
I really think that you could use the support of another female right now. If it was me, I definitly would want to know if my baby was going through this, and be able to be there for her during this time. It would hurt me bad if I found out afterwards that she felt like she couldn't share something like this with me. You're so strong...and whatever you do, I know you'll pull through. Take care of yourself and rest a lot.
Oh Fleassy I am so sorry you have to deal with all this. I wish I was still over there so I could come give you a big hug. If you where my daughter I know I would want to know about it. You know your family better then any of us but most mothers would want to know I am sure. May sure you are not alone the night of it as you will need support and someone to keep an eye on you. I had one of my students talk to me about it and she couldn't tell her Mom so I suggested she stayed with a friend that first night as being alone isn't cool. Love & All my support EnonEmouse
I changed my mind when I turned up the day of the procedure starting...don't feel locked in yet and tell your loved ones, I dealt with all the decisions myself as my babies father was happy with what I chose...but he has been so happy with the way things worked out as imperfect as they are that I would definitely say drag whoever is important and is going to be there in your life, either way you are going, along for the ride..some of what they say may surprise you and it may help you get through it all whatever you choose. Good luck and happy health to you. Be as genki as you always seem to me when I read your posts here!
{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. Like others said, I too feel that if I had a daughter in the situation that you are in that I would want to know, so that I could be there for her if she needed me. It sounds as though you have a very loving family that will be supportive of you. Best of luck, well wishes, and lots of hugs...
Fleassy, this is going to be so hard. It sounds like you've made a decision. Don't second guess yourself, but don't be afraid to change your mind either! I just had to go through the same thing about 5 months ago. I went with my mate to the clinic and cried the whole time. We were sitting in the waiting room waiting to be called in to take the first set of pills and we just realized we couldn't do it. We looked in each others eyes and walked out the door. It's been hard, and I'm lucky to be in a position to take care of my baby. I know your situation is different. Please allow yourself to feel anything you need to feel and know that all of us, and it sounds like your family is too, are here to love you through this.
I'm so sorry. I wish I could hug you and make all the pain and stress go away. I wish I could have some magic answer that would make everyone happy. I wish I could make you go to sleep and wake up and realize it was all a bad dream. But I can't do any of those things, so all I can do is send you some good vibes and let you know you are in my thoughts. You and Jaycee. I can imagine this is weighing heavily on him too. Let him know we love and care about him and you both and I wish the best for your futures. Good luck, sweetie, in whatever decision you make.
How old was what? Me? i'm 18. the foetus.... at a guess comming up to 7 weeks AT MOST chances are its less. and the surgery is on thursday. (tomorrow) And thank you everyone.... seriously your support has really helped both of us. I told my parents and they've been wonderful. theyve had to go through loosing their doggie this week (big thing for them) on top of my news... so its a hard week for them... but i appreciate their love and support. Im going back to their house thursday night (they offered to come to the clinic with me ... but i just wanted it to be me and jaycee) im really really sick with morning sickness. the idea of getting out of bed is horrible and i constantly feel sick and woozy... leaving the house scared me incase i faint again. it feels as though my body agrees with my decision.. its not happy in the situation its in... and its telling me constantly.
Oooh Fleassy, you really do need pampering love and comfort right now - i wish i wasn't over the internet and then i'd give you the biggest of hugs! Who is around to support you with this at the moment? Just wanted to let you know that you truly are doing the best thing. If you feel it is right then that is definately 100% the right decision to make. You're a beautiful angel Fleassy and you deserve all the love and the comfort in the world - i just wish i was there! Take care and know that what your heart tells you is what is right. Big Love, Sunny xxx ps. What's your address? I have a card to send you!
ooooh sunny!! its been sooo long since i have seen you I must see you soonly. Ive had lots of people looking after me, mostly jaycee and then as of last weekend dandy helped loads and my parents have been wonderful. i will PM you my address, though you should still have it (the staines one) as i havent propperly moved.
