I've been seeing my OB-GYN once a year for awhile now and evertime I go the yearly exam hurts. When I first went he used a little rod but when I gained weight he claimed he had to use a bigger on and since then he's managed to hurt me everytime. (I've since lost the intial weight and now weigh a few punds less then when I first started going to him.) He always says to relax but it feels like he's ramming that prod up my bafront and it's very painful. I want to know if it's suppose to be so painful or should I try to find a new OB-GYN. Does it hurt when you go to your OB-GYN?
No, it does not hurt when I got to the gyno. Yeah, the swab of the pap smear is a bit uncomfortable, but putting the speculum in shouldn't hurt... Which is what I'm assuming you must be talking about, because gaining weight isn't going to make your vagina deeper... Actually, since you said "a little rod", I'm wondering if I interpreted that correctly... Could you clarify? If he hurts you at all while inserting the speculum, he needs to be more gentle with that. If it hurts (not just a bit uncomfortable) when he does the pap smear swab thing, then again he needs to be more gentle. Either way, it shouldn't hurt. As for whether to go back & be more explicit about his need to be gentle or whether to go to a new gyno, that depends on the rest of your relationship with him. Does he listen and take your concerns & questions seriously? Do you feel comfortable discussing anything related to sex and your body with him? If the answer to any of these is no, then definitely see someone else. If it's yes, then you'll have to make that call based on your own intuition. Tho, if he is concerned & caring in all other regards, I would be surprised that he is not more gentle with the equipment...
It shouldn't hurt everytime, all the time Does he use a lubrication to insert the speculum? Because he should! I know it sometimes hurts me a little, if my doc should turn away to reach for something while still holding onto the speculum with his other hand, just because the angle of pressure changes. But it only lasts for a second or two, and doesn't hurt afterwards Talk to your OBGYN first - let him know about your concerns. If he's belligerent about the issue, or doesn't change his methods, feel free to grab yourself a new doc.
Pretty obviously it's going to be less fun than Disney land, but it shouldn't hurt. Think of it feeling as uncomfortable as a very heavy cat standing on your ribs. It isn't painful, but you don'y enjoy it. It shouldn't make you feel PAIN. Personally, I prefer a wommon gyno just because she's probably more aware of how sensitive the organs are.
if its hurting he should be using a smaller size speculum and you have the right to demand one. it shouldn't be a ramming feeling it should at most be a tight glide in and maybe a bit of pinching as the speculum opens.
_____________________ I can't really see from my position on the chair but I think he uses a long medal rod along with some sissor looking thingy. I just know that I squeeze the daylights out of the lady's hand that assists the doctor. (It's more than uncomfortable it's painful.)
I agree with the ladies here. It may be uncomfortable, but it shouldn't HURT! If trying to relax (Try pushing, like you are pooping, when he is inserting the spec) doesn't help, see someone else. I have a male OBGYN and he is so gentle you wouldn't even know he was in there. It can be done gently. When I was a teen I used to really tense up, and almost squeeze the spec out. My OB used a child size Spec, he was able to see well enough with that until I got more comfortable with the procedure. I am not sure what you mean by a "rod" a speculum is like, dildo shaped, and it opens, scissor like, so the doc can see the vaginal wall and the cervix. They come in disposible plastic and autoclavable metal. I have found the metal ones actually more comfortable, but the plastic more emotionally comfortable (I mean, it wasn;t IN someone else before, autoclave or not.) A small rodlike object is used to take a sample of the cells of the cervix, but it is VERY small, like a mascara brush. After I had had a few, my doc asked if I wanted a birth mirror, so I could see what he was doing and what was going on. It is a good idea, to see you anatomy and also to take the mystery out of the whole thing. I wouldn't trust a doctor who wouldn't let me see with a mirror. I'd see someone else, if you are in pain.
