Okay so a while ago I was trying to leave a guy I had been dating. We were living together and I needed to get out. I worked with a girl that offered to let me stay with her and tried to get me to leave sooner, which I should have. I ended up leaving and having no where to go. This girl, living in an efficiency with one bed let me stay with her for three months without asking for anything in return besides help keeping the apartment clean. This girl had nothing and she was willing to share it all with me, no questions asked. I'd really like to do something for her to help her out and sow her how much I appreciate taking me in. She doesn't have a job now and may still be living in the same shit hole apartment. I don't want to just give her money because she is a crackhead, but I want to do something really super nice. Crackhead or not, that's one of the nicest things anyone has done. And I may not have been living in the best place, but who knows where I would've been if it hadn't been for her. When she had a job, she was one of the best employees they had. She was a hard worker and was always there to help anyone that needed it. She's been through a lot of rough shit in her life. Granted some of it was her own fault or because of her drug problem, but she really deserves something nice...at least this one time. I've been making decent money at my new job lately and still haven't got my tax return so I'm going to have enough money to do whatever I want for her...the question is, what? Basically I'm looking for suggestions that don't involve just giving her some money to spend. She rides the bus a lot and I don't have my own car yet so I was thinking of getting her a bus card or something, but I'd like to do better. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Negative comments are not welcome and will be ignored.
Um pay her rent? That seems like the obvious. Perhaps 1 1/2 months, so you're paid up. She didn't ask you any questions about what you were doing with your money at the time, perhaps you should show her the same courtesy and pay your dues.
Then she'll just use the money she would have spent on rent on crack. Has to be something she cant sell that would also be helpful. Jazz up her apartment with again stuff she cant sell, rugs, drapes, whatever....so at least her tiny apartment is nicer to be in
Is she her mother? No? Who cares. Maybe it will save herself from stealing, prostituting, etc to get the crack.
Sounded like thats why she didnt want to give her money, cos it will go to drugs, same diff if she just offsets her rent
I like the pay her rent suggestion.....as well as dressing up her apartment idea.....when you were staying with her was there ever anything she talked about wishing she had?? Perhaps getting her something to treat herself, something she would not spend on herself normally like a spa day?? Everyone deserves to feel pampered and those going through rough times may appreciate the thought and the break from the struggle. If you want to go more towards practical....gift cards for grocery stores, clothing stores etc.
There should be a way to find out who the landlord is and pay the rent directly. The bus card is also a good idea. The saddest part is that she used to be a good worker and is now a crackhead without a job. I would not know how to help her get back on her feet but maybe just being a friend would be a start.
Maybe help her stop smoking crack? While she is kicking it, You can keep the place up, Food in the house and be there for her.
I didn't have any money while I lived with her. When I did get money, I bought stuff we needed that I couldn't get with Link or from a food bank. I'm pretty sure I can pay her rent without her getting any cash.I'll have to do some looking to figure out who she rents from. She's not that bad, but I don't want her to get worse if she had a lot of money she could spend. She's the most functional crackhead I've ever met. Held a job she did well at, didn't get all weird if she didn't have it, never sold her stuff or her body for money to get it. She was more like a stoner about it...it she didn't have money, she didn't do it. And she only did it after getting home from work. I honestly think if she had more good people around her, she could quit. She's not as dependent upon it as most, which is surprising because she's been using it for a while. I like the idea of making her apartment a little nicer too. Thanks for the suggestions, guys. I'm gonna try and do a couple things for her. I think a little of everything ya'll have suggested and that I've already though of would help and make her happier than just one thing.
Thank you. I just want to make her feel appreciated and give her something to smile about, she deserves it even if it's just this once.
