Stud versus "slut"

I wonder why when guys are out sleeping around with a lot of different girls (which seems to be expected of them) yhey're considered "studs" or are "just being boys"

Yet when i girl does the same thing she's considered a "slut".

I mean if a girl really enjoys sex (and not just doing it to keep her guy happy), and has it whenever she can get it, why is it wrong for her but not for a guy?

I like sex, and I enjoy variety and I hear people whispering "slut" about me and nicnnaming me "Little Miss BJ". And I guess that it's true but just wondering why its a "bad" thing for girls and a "normal" thing for boys?

 

yeah, i know, i agree, it's a terrible double standard for a girl to be stigmatized in a way that guys aren't. however, in GENERAL many guys ARE looked down on for this same behavior, though usually not nearly to the same extent. it's unfortunate, but it's true. there's not really a way i can see to combat it except with getting a message of "its ok to sleep around!" out to the public, but it would of course be a bad message with many negative consequences. i have nothing against promiscuous girls who use protection. my first love had been with more people than i care to mention before me, but i never would call her a "slut." just because a girl knows what she likes and wants and goes after it doesn't mean she's bad or dirty, but it doesn't make it safe or a good idea or anything to be promoted, so i don't really see society's views on the matter changing anytime soon. if anything, men will simply be more stigmatized for the same behavior to the point that women are, which would also be negative in my opinion.

no clear answer to it, and the point has been brought up time and time again. no real value in discussing it, imho

 

Might have something to with the fact that girls can get pregnant, and guys obviously can't, so theoreticcally there aren't consequences for guys slutting it up.

 

Girls are known for not giving it up.
Guys are known for getting as much as possible.


If girls didn't pretend like they are in total control over the relationship, and that having sex was a privelage given to boyfriends. and that they...I dunno where I'm going with this, I'm so drunk sorry

 

because girls can only be pregnant once at a time, except in rare situations. guys can impregnate many girls at the same time. so girls with lots of partners show that they're willing to mate with weak genetic material and so she is weak genetic material, a weak person.

if a guy mates with a lot of girls, it doesn't matter since he can pass his genetics on constantly and that shows that he is stronger. on the flip side, guys that cant get laid are looked down at as genetically weak, and they probably are.

 

i think its bad for anyone to be like that. it means they have issues.

 

im a slut, but if i was a bloke i'd be a stud. but i know what you mean its total crap, but its the way our narrow minded world works - well some people

 

how tall are you? what's your weight? IQ? any health problems? im guessing you are pretty weak genetically.

i am. short. skinny. moderate asthma (pretty cured by now). some allergies. although my iq is pretty high.

and are you actually a slut or do people just think you are? a lot of hot girls have reputations as sluts just because other girls are jealous of them how many guys have you had sex with in the past month?

 

in the past month 1, isnt to bad, as for the rest, 5"9, slim to med build, long brown hair, hazel eyes, average looking, health probs yep, IQ dunno

 

aite my theory is whack then

 

I wouldnt want to slee with a guy who had been with lots of girls. I think its just as bad, its dangerous, and every fuck makes the next seem more and more worthless

 

A woman who likes sex and is accertive playing no mind fuck games about it is what we fondly with respect refered to as a Wild Woman in my neck o the woods. a slut was considered a girl who gave it up to any guy that made a move for the attention or because she didn't have what it takes to say no when she really wanted to....A 'WW' is my kind o gal and more than one of my ole ladies have fit that description. There's nothing better than to now your partner is as hot and heavy into it as you are.

 

Eh, people have been complaining about the 'double-standard' for decades now..

I don't care. I'm neutral in the battle of the sexes, for I dislike both men and women equally.

 

I think men CAN be sluts, as well. . .

Who really cares? That is the real question. If you want to slut it up, knock yourself out! If I wanted to, thats exactly what I'd do! Just be responsible. . .

 

Kind of my point. We got one guy who has fucked almost every girl in school, and it's like they are standing in line to be next.

Chele and I have both had sex with a lot of the guys, because we enjoy it and we chose them, not the other way around.

Now the guy is considered a "Stud", and Chele and I are both called sluts (but it doesn't seem to stop anyone from wanting to fuck us!)

 

"there aren't consequences for guys slutting it up."

STD's...

 

I prefer sluts to whores...sluts are simply women that know what they want from you (sex), whores are the ones who want something else from you (usually money), and use sex as a tool to get it. Bring on the sluts!

 

This is simple. It goes back to the days of the caveman.

Man (male) has traditionally been seen as the "conquerer" and so applying this historical tradition, this has evolved into every aspect of his existence. Sexual "conquests" are primitive ego boosts which give the male his self-gratification of his ego and creates the phenomena of the "man". As if it makes one more of a "man".

I, myself, have been referred to as a stud and a slut. So, the definitions are evolving. Although one assessment builds my ego and other doesn't, both assessments are wrong. I am neither. I just enjoy lots of sex. Period. And that's ok.

The slut is primarily because woman are seen as the "receiver", the "taken". Thus, people relate them with a negative connotation as "damaged", etc. because women could get "knocked up", etc. And many men take advantage because they see "damaged" as easy pickings. The self-esteem of a "slut" is usually pretty low.

However, many women want to be called "slut", because they see it as meaningless or a badge of pride like "stud".

I disregard both labels as ridiculous and look at both men and women as individuals free to love sex and have it on their own way without all the intolerant bullshit.

 

I don't recon most guys have a problem with girls that give out - as long as they don't give out to anyone and everyone. I would only think of someone as a slut if they just fucked anyone who tried.
Girls on the otherhand call girls who get it lots a slut for various reasons such as jealousy and bitchiness.

 

It's the old, patriarchal double-standard at work: It's OK for a guy to sleep around (unless he's gay), but very NOT OK for a gal to do the same.

FUCK THE DOUBLE-STANDARD!

-- Skeeter