(Tell me what you think?Also I put the messages in order, so you can read it normally, instead of backwards.) HER: Dont think me strange or anything. Kay? I could picture myself marrying you. Strange, huh? You're the only one. I do have some things id like to say to you but its weird. ---------------------------------- ME: I don't know what to really say. It just comes as a surprise to me. I mean you're going out with a guy, and all. It's very confusing. ---------------------------------- HER: ok there are reasons for this i swear. they are just really hard to explain. ---------------------------------- ME: Well I would call you to talk to you about it, but I wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable, and have to explain it without thinking it out. If you want to explain it, or try to you could in the next message. Yea --------------------------------- HER: Ok, this is going to sound terrible and make me seem like such a bad person. -siggh- Butttt i dont know if im ready to date anyone yet and i think i may be but im not completly sure. So i started dating my friend Vaughn and i didnt want to date you and not be ready because i like you and i dont want to hurt you but Vaughn im just experimenting on it isnt going to last long im just trying to see if im ready or not. and that sounds sooo bad. and i feel horrible i do. but i dont know what else to do. i mean he isnt attached to me or anything so if i break up with him its not going to hurt him. and im sorry if this seems like im leading you on or something im not. I promise. and im real sorry.
Ok she sounds like she realy likes you but as a girl I know we are complicated and the easier we try to make it sound the more complicated it sounds so. Ok she likes you alot but she is afraid if she starts dating you before she is has the complete closure she need to say I am ready to date again after the last break up. she could hurt you because she could be on the rebound and she doesn't want that to happen because she cares about you and wants to be with you. So she is dating a friend that there is no mutual chemistry style feelings for so she can get past the rebound phase with out hurting anyone. I've done the samething. Because if you truely like some one you don't want to ruin it by dating on the rebound. So you date around or date someone you are friend s with that you know won't get attached to you or you to them until the rebound phase is over and she is ready to get serious again about dating. Hope that helps.
yeah, she is leading you on. I've never had much respect for people who go and lead others on while datin gsomeone else ie "oh, as soon as I break up with person x I'll date you, I just need soem closure first, I just need to find the right time, I just need to wait til it's not the week their cat died"... most times that I've heard about sitauations like that, there's no follow through, it's all teasin gand leading on.
She has this on her myspace in an about me section. "I am taken. This guy is like no other. His name is Vaughn♥ And he knows how to make me smile. " Is this a front just to use this guy Vaughn, without him knowing, or does she really mean this, and is lying. This could go both ways. Even though she explains all in the messages it's not all really clear. Fuck. I want to mention that stuff. I've liked her for DAMN months (which she knows). I'd marry her. I think I love her. I dont know. I've known her for about two years. She's not the type to do this from all I know about her.
Ok you didn't mention the myspace thing until now. Change my original thought to leading you on and gaurd your heart. She could end up to be all talk.
Yea, but like I said i've known her for two damn years. I'm best friends with one of her relatives (how we met.) She's not the type to do that .-.
you wanted opinions, my opinion is that she's teasing you, playing with you. She may not even be aware she's doing it, but y'knokw what, lots of chicks feel torn between two guys and they make up teh decision themselves without torturing either of the guys about it.
Hey don't judge me. I've never really dealed with relationship type shit. Screw off if you're judging me.
If "she's not the type to do that" then what exactly is your question? If you believe her to be honest and her integrity above reproach why are you seeking advice? I tend to think that when someone says "I am not leading you on" that they are, and we both know it BUT if you think that she would never do that to you then keep trying. If I were in the same situation I would say "cut the bs and tell me what is going on!" and if I didn't like the answer I would move on. Harsh, but life is too short to wait around for someone to make up their mind.
So you have two options here, regardless of what you thought you knew about her. 1. She is being honest with you that she is using this other guy. Great for you, right? WRONG!!!! How do you know you're not just another step on some plan to get somewhere? What makes you think, "oh, she's a user, but she won't use ME"? That makes as much sense as "oh, he cheated on his last girlfriend with me, but he won't cheat on me" or "oh, he beat his ex into a coma, but he *swears* he'll never hit me". Those are, of course, on a very different scale of potential pain, but the same flawed reasoning. 2. She is NOT a user, and is just playing games with you, leading you on. Sucks to be you, but it's still early, just stop playing along and it will fade into distant memory quickly. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ You say you've known this girl for 2 year, that "she's not the type to do that"... But she admitted to using this guy. She's the type to be a user but not a player? What? And, people change. Maybe she was the sweetest person ever, but has lately started hanging out with a new friend, even chatting with new people on myspace, who has/have convinced her that she should be playing silly games like this. Or maybe you just didn't know her as well as you thought you did. I'm not judging you with that, I've had experiences myself (both at your age and fairly recently) where I realized that I totally misjudged my relationship with someone who turned out not to be the person or the friend I thought they were. It happens.
