I don't post very often, as you can see, but I've been on this site for a while. I love seeing people who enjoy being barefoot whenever they can. I now work at home, so it isn't an issue, but I used to be barefoot at work, and that was great! I had co-workers who didn't per say adapt the lifestyle, but would take their shoes off and be happy. My girlfriend of 9 months is really giving me a hard time about shoes. The thing is, I am not a full time barefooter. I now have my office at home, and really just go bare out to friends homes and local spots where they don't seem to mind. She says I need to grow up, and put my shoes on, but I don't see it this way. I love being barefoot, and want to continue to, but this issue continues to come up. I guess that's why forums like this were created. Even if I don't find a girl who wants to be barefoot, I hope there is a chance that perceptions will change, because it's hard, I guess, for many of us to try and be happy and free, while still having good relationships.
May I Suggest You Read The 59 Replies.....In The "My Girlfriend Hates My Feet"...What Do You Think?....Thread.............(similar situation).... Cheers Glen..
It seems to me that she's the one with some growing to do. If I had a potential mate that was that manipulative and judgmental, I'd be giving the relationship a very critical review. Your Significant Other need not share your interests, but should nonetheless support you in your choices. Mutual respect and acceptance of one another as you are, as well as understanding the inevitability of change in the other in ways one cannot expect are critical keys to a successful long-term relationship. If yours lacks these elements, you may wish to seek to either implement them through constructive discourse or seek a relationship wherein they can be realized. Remain firm in your convictions.
I agree, she is the one with the problem and needs to grow up, she should also support you or at least accept that going barefoot is part of who you are
My first thought on seeing this new thread was, "Oh no, not again." I'm about to turn 56 and I guess if I haven't "grown up" by now, it's too late. Yes, do as Glenglen says and read some of the 59 replies to another guy who had this problem. (Had.) I cannot understand this problem, (which I always blame on control freaks, and the more Puritanical part of our culture.) America needs to lighten up. All the ins and outs of bare footing are covered in this forum, including where respect is needed. No one who is 34 and working at home should need to worry about being shod, for pity sake.
how bizarre, I never used to be a barefooter until I went out with one who convinced me that shoes suck! The rest as they say.....
People who aren't into being barefoot just don't get it. Or they don't want to think of being bare in a different way. Most people grow up always having shoes on- in the house and out. Being bare has nothing to do with being dirty or poor or low class. It's a way of life; a way of acceptance with yourself; part of expressing a part of who you are. For me it is a sexual turn-on and a way of life because it feels good. Most of my family and friends just know I go bare because I like it. After a while it's no big deal to see me bare anywhere. it's more of a big deal when I do where shoes. Anyone who knows me or comes into my life has to get used to it and accept that it is a part of me.....
