My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years now and we have been in a sexual relationship for about a year. We are very happy and we love each other very much. We have sex about once a week but i have never cum. For some reason everytime im about to, i always tell him to stop. I dont know why but i have tried to not stop him and i have tried to masturbate but i just cant. I have never told my boyfriend this. i knew he would feel bad if he didnt think i was enjoying it so i fake it. Can anyone help me? I dont know whats wrong.
so you've never came before? or just not with him? why would you want to stop? fear of losing control? do you have an uncomfortable 'sexual history'? are you psychologically scarred?
what he needs to do is fuck the shit out of you with some headphones on. This way he dont hear you say anything......
ok, this sure does psychological in nature and, NOT one bit physical. i have several "hunches" as to what could be going down, and i have no doubt at all that, one or more of them is correct in your case. you are no doubt dealing with a lot of self-generated psychological stress, that interfers with you being unable to experence orgasm. you are on the wrong track to solving your problem. first off, quit asking "why?" no answers will be found by asking "why?" instead ask "what?" what are you going to do to change this situation? i most strongly advise you to seek out the help of a psychologist. i can't speak for your boyfriend since i'm not him however, i am a guy, and i have run into your type of situation in my own personal life, with a couple of past girlfriends. in both cases, i did not have my feelings hurt because they could not experence orgasms. my heart went out to them and i offered to help them work through "their problem." it took a good deal of time, and a good deal of work, and both of them had their lives improve and, our realtionships grew stronger also. this is a test of how strong the bond of love is between you two. if i were your boyfriend, you know how i would handle this situation between us. if your boyfriend is unwilling to stand by you, and work through this matter with you... you two may have to face the cruel hard fact that, you may love each other and, you two may not be good for each other. nateman, your post was not at all helpfull. in point of fact, it might make things worst for her. all i ask nateman, is that you please be more carefull in what you say in situations like this.
