So strange...

What is up with people that can't say no? I mean, I asked this one girl for her number after we've been talking for a while. It was nothing forced or anything but we were just really having a great conversation and things were going awesome. When I asked for her number, she gave it to me in a flash and then a few days go by so I text her. I didn't want to rush anything or make it seem like I was desperate. Anyway, I do that and not only does she not get back to me, but she always has some excuse not to hang out with me. I mean, why can't people just be honest? Playing these games can be annoying...If she got a vibe that I was into her, why would she give me her number?

Anyway, I compliment her and all that and she loves the compliments and of course now that I have a girlfriend, she is all up on my ass. Wow...

 

insecurity?

 

Yeah, to the extreme. When it comes to one stalking you and calling you over and over...I'd say insecurity is an understatement lol

 

The bait and switch. One of the most unbearable female traits.

Edit: Along with the little silent treatments and feigned disinterest.

 

It's possible she was playing hard to get, and when she realized you weren't a guy who plays games, she either is like OH SNAP and is trying to get with you, OR she still hasn't realized you aren't into games and thinks your current girlfriend is part of your move in an attempt to get her.

But you've got a girlfriend now so, just let the insecurity games come back to bite the other girl

 

I think a lot of behavior like that comes from those stupid books like "The Rules" that tell people to play manipulation games instead of just being honest.

I hate those books.

 

Aside from just about any women`s magazine on the market. And, of course, Hollywood!

 

Oh yeah, those. They also screw us all over with their fucked up ideas.

 

Those magazines and books that tell people to play games have ruined so many relationships...there just aren't words to describe how negative they are.

 

Because they want to keep everything convenient, and at arms reach, and feel wanted and popular, and soak up attention, but not give anything back.

 

It sounds like "pop culture" especially in the USA is to blame for those expectations women have though. Do you agree calgirl?

 

maybe after she thought about it she realize you're not someone she'd be into

 

I'm sorry, I'm of the firm belief that most girls and women pigeon hole boys/men into categories of datable and non-datable based on first impressions.

In general most people use emotions to rule their decision making process over logic. Its the dominant influence over logic in my view.

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Might I also suggest that she was genuinely busy the first time you tried to take her out? If she repeatedly stood you up that's something else, but you gotta give her some benefit of the doubt since she gave you her real #, as opposed to a fake one.

 

Fixed that for you.

 

Perhaps, genuine. That is rare though. Sincerity is not a valued character trait. For many, the risk is that they might not look saintly and desirable. So it's easier to just be misleading.

 

I'm not sure I follow. If she changed her mind about the pursuit to get to know him, and/or gave her number prematurely, she needs to be direct.

 

Hey, thanks for the tip man! Appreciate it. Yeah, well her loss.

 

i think she was playing hard to get probly.

OR there's the old saying and i know all of us guyz know this. why it's true is beyond me:
when you aint got a gf, no chicks want you
when you got a gf, all the chicks want you

 

nah, that one really is mostly a female thing. i don't think many guys do it unless she's downright hideous.

 

Guys are as evasive and chicken shit about being direct as females.