this thread might be just to get my thoughts in order, but i would also appreciate some advice. i've been pretty into this guy, who by the way, lives right next door to me. so, i've been diggin' him for a couple months now, and for a while i thought it was pretty mutual. (although he never actually said this.) but lately he's been talking about this other girl, and he really likes her. we went for a walk today, and he talked about it. he said how he tried to tell her, but he couldn't find the right moment. but i guess she knew, because she said something about only wanting to be friends. and the whole time he was talking about her, i wanted to say "yes! i know!" because the way he feels about her, is basically the way i feel about him. i was planning on telling him how i felt today, but then he started going off about this other girl, and i don't think it was the right time. he also asked me for my advice about what he should do. i told him "just live for the moment, go with the flow, do what you feel is right, blahblahblah." so what should i do? should i still tell him how i feel about him, or should i let him keep trying for the other girl?
If you were a guy, id say you are in the realms of friendship and saying anything would 'probably' not help, but guy's are a lot more open to change in the way that relationships are structured, so drop a few hints (along the lines of 'she's stupid not to want to go out with you' etc) and see what develops.
i had a simular situation. i was best friends with this guy from about 12-13. i had the biggest crush imaginable on him. to me, he could do NO wrong. but- he liked my other best friend. i was hurt so badly. we stopped being friends after i told him i liked him and was having a hard time seeing him so much but not being able to 'be with him.' years past, and im 16 now. we recrently started talking again and its like no time has passed at all- i fell right back into his spell. he liked me too this time, but for some reason i told him no. it seems to me like people either 1.) want what they cant have. he came back to me, but he was no longer desirable. 2.)telling a good friend that youd like more will make or break you. if you are willing to sacrifice your current relationship for either a better one or awkward one, go for it. i know how you feel, and something like this doesnt just go away. i say, go for it. you have a lot to loose but so much more to gain. good luck!
Based solely on what you wrote...How do you know he wasn't talking about you? Either way..Good luck with it.
gooood idea. i 've been thinking of doing that for a while i just have to gather the courage to do it.
so, pretty sure i all of a sudden lost interest in him. it might have been the fact that i had waited so long, and nothing happened. or maybe that he's not really doing his part, like he's not trying very hard. so oh well, but thanks for the advice anyways. peace&love
