So I had a.....eventful week...

Seriously, not to brag, just want to get feedback on this:

I met this girl at a party, we went clubbing that same night and "hit it off", I'm not a club person but she was already with me when we went, ended up sleeping over at her place ( just sleeping ). She came over to my place the next day and we fooled around.

Saw her a day later at her place and we got intimate.

We went on an actual date a day later and she came back to my place and we got intimate again, these were long sessions and she, with my experience, seemed to enjoy herself a lot, she was also to me overtly concerned on how I felt.

Saw her two days later at her place and we made dinner and got intimate again.

Two days later, the day she comes home for the winter break ( we're in college ) she calls me to say she doesn't see us working out together.

I asked her if she still wanted to hit the gym with me and she said she'd like that ( but take from that what you will ) when we get back.

Not sure what, but she did reveal to me how bad she's at relationships and I only talked how I learned from my past relationships, positively.

I more than once brought up going to the gym with me since I just got off an illness and want to get back in shape, she seems self conscience and was 50/50 on it.

I think she just used me for sex before the winter break, but what's your opinion?



P.S. We do have common interests and it is comfortable being together, I also wouldn't mind just having a casual relationship until school year ends since she gets her degree and moves on. I just feel weird being intimate with a woman for a week and then bamm it's just over....very weird.

 

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your story sounds made up, because women don't have sex with someone unless they need to find a new boyfriend so they can feel comfortable breaking up with their current boyfriend.

 

That's what I was thinking.

Could be made up, but then I know how there are women out there that will fuck anything that moves. And if it ain't moving, they'll kick it until it does.... :afro:

 

Yeah, met those. And there ARE women that just like sex.

Kinda sounds like she just wanted relationship and sex practice. Tell her that's cool, you can use practice too:afro:

Or maybe you just suck at sex....

 

It's hard to find a chick that will just let you off the hook like that. Enjoy it when you can. Sounds like booty call material, but let her make the phone call(s).

 

Update, she sent me a text yesterday, and I just read it today, replied and she replied quick back, just basic " how's your break going ".

I replied twice and she replied twice, she keeps sending open ended texts, I don't think I'll reply to her last one for a while.

Well it's the internet so think what you want but I'd look at my membership, my post history and then step back and realize of all the phony stories on this forum, mine isn't far-fetched, it's rare.

It's happened to others I know, just one of those " spur of the moment ".

I don't see how your notion is true at all, you imply all women cheat then as they have sex with men when in a relationship.

This girl could very well have wanted a relationship, largely built on sex, she was far more frisky than me ( I did keep up, just is rare to find a girl THAT horny ). She may have stepped back when she realized that I wasn't a washout ( I have hobbies, career drive, talents, etc ) and have a personality.

If I think back and analyze, she seemed to get upset over the minimalist things.

She told me she dated an older guy when she was in high school and that he physically assaulted her on a few occasions. Safe to say she's trying to make me feel sad for her or has low self esteem.

Like everything posted on here it's easy to make assumption based on a basic script, but there's more added detail to your thinking.

One dangerous tidbit is the fact the second time we were intimate because I had trouble climaxing she told me to go in bareback....I told her I wasn't comfortably and then she said she got tested just last month.......obvious red signals, but I don't have an itchy crotch..........yet? I was down there a lot and I didn't notice any obvious STD signs ( my father is a doctor ).

 

i dont see any problem here...maybe you bang her again,maybe you dont...you havnt got anything invested other than a couple hours and a few meals...she fucked you and still wants to hang out but not burden you with all the relationship bullshit....she is a god send and you should stop complaining and just keep a condom in yoiur pocket..:mickey:

 

hyperbole. i didn't actually doubt your story.

 

ummmmm lots of women like to do this kind of thing for many different reasons. anyone who says otherwise, probably isn't very experienced with women lol.

it's no big deal. she may change her mind, if for instance, her regular fuck doesnt come through. so maybe you'll get laid again. maybe not.

 

Wrong, That was most likely a test.

Go straight into empathytic boyfriend mode and she's going to assume thats what you want out of this

You should have come back with a playful "Oh, and did he give you a little spank now and then" or even better appeal to her feminine ego and come back with "Oh, he was just insecure cos you were to hot for him". But you didnt, you basically reacted like a girl would "Oh sweetie, give me a hug"

If she is the type as you describe, hornier than most, then before high school even finished, she's already sick of not being like every other girl, how submissive they are and all the putzes that cater for that, hence dating the older guy in the first place.

Being the type that would go to a nightclub and pick up a gym junkie type, she's hardly afraid of men, hardly has low self esteem

You were the girl this time around

 

Omgz.... People having casual sex.. Someone call the preachers.. yalz is possessed ..:willy_nilly:

 

for once, i kinda agree with you :grouphug:

 

She told me she was a karate black belt, so my response to her abusive boyfriend was " I hope you kicked his ass back ". To which she said she just broke up with him over the phone.

I'm not sure it would be very appropriate to respond like you said, I once dated a girl who had been abused as a child and for me to assume any girl is playful and to say " did he also give you a spanking ". That could come out good but be realistic and admit that could also make me seem like the most cold hearted bastard on the planet.

On your other points:

Older guys, 20+ who date High School girls are usually low intelligence or have low self esteem. High School girls who date these guys usually do so for transportation, alcohol/cigarettes, or because older guys have an easier time building muscle and have finished growing, have to shave, etc. It rarely makes the girl more mature, many of these girls end up train wrecks.

She may go to clubs to pick up guys, but here is what I have got to work on as of now:

I met her at a party and when we went to the club she stayed with me, this works opposite of what you say because she would be more inclined to look for guys at the club and leave me. She pushed me to dance with her and only her and we talked more than we danced there. The next week when I knew she went out with her friends to a club/bar and I didn't go, she texted me that night and again the next day.

I know posting the OP makes me look like I know nothing, but I've just not had this exact situation happen to me personally. I had a one night stand a year ago and it was straight forward, didn't talk to the girl much, made her breakfast the next morning and she left without giving me her number, I knew what had happened.

THIS particular outcome is new to me and even my player friends aren't certain of what to make of it. I have two "player" friends who I know get women, they both told me it looked like she just needed a fling for end of semester. Obviously as Rollingalong has said, I don't have much invested in this, I just have a good memory so I remember conversations I've had with random people months ago, but so far this is NSA.

More detail here is that she finishes her degree this year, she's done in 4 months while I'm staying on ( I'm in Masters ). I think when I get back I'll treat this as a possible fuckbuddy relationship, I certainly don't want to lose the sex as it was amazing.

 

Why don't you ask to hang out with her and do something that doesn't involve sex.

 

Thats more what you want to believe, than what is actually true

Wouldnt have taken her very long at all to scope the club

Sounds like your friends are right. I'm getting the impression you think your ranking is a little lower than it is. If they want the Trophy boyfriend then they'll go with the Calvin Klein Model, If they want a guy that looks like they can Springboard off his chest, then doesnt really matter how pretty your face is. Calvin Klein model type gets to hold her and and paraded around in front of her friends, doesnt get Olympic level horizontal gymnastics.

Still I wouldnt fuss, sounds like the type that moves on quick anyway. Good practice for the next contestant

 

It sounds to me like you're more into her than you're letting on. :2thumbsup:

I know I would be. Adventurous girl who wants you to go bareback? Pshhht. She's just my number! :biggrin: But, lawd! Save me from them STDs...

Edit: If you wouldn't mind advice, I would suggest she take the pill in front of me, go get a full profile test together and have fun!

 

I recall you giving good advice to others in the past, so I'm gonna weigh this fairly.

As far as how I'm seen, I've met the girls she lives with openly ( not just leaving the house in the morning ) and when I was hanging out with my friends and she had come over to her friends place next door, she came in and asked to talk to me and proceeded to makeout with me on the stairs.

One stupid thing I think I did was she was bugging me the whole week to shave my beard ( box beard ) and I told her I might consider it, I went in to have it shaved 2 days ago because my friends have been bugging me about it to and I thought for the new year why not. This was after everything had supposedly ended with her, I did it for myself but I'm certain she'll think I did it for her when she sees me......

She gives great head what can I say?

I saw her taking her pills every morning I was with her but I still don't want to chance anything.

 

wait till she is finished..and then dump'er

 

Just enjoy the sex and move on, man.

 

Either way, don't feel bad. Shit happens sometimes. Cheer up!