so i found out this girl likes me the other day and i've liked her since i first saw her about a 1 1/2 years ago. she's truly beatiful, i like her personality and she could be all i ever wanted but, when she was dating her last boyfriend she cheated on him with my friend , or at least that's what my friend said and on top of that she smokes a lot of pot and gets drunk every now and then I'm this guy who hates the idea of abusing drugs. I've decided i'm going to go ahead call her and make a date and just see what happens. i'd like to hear what everyone has to say about this
Go for it. You can't judge a person based on their drug or alchol use. Actually, in my opinion, you shouldn't judge a person at all. If you like her, if you think she is a good person, then it's at least worth a shot. Good luck
I wouldn't say it the same way juggla said it, but ... he's kind of right. You can't judge people because they smoke or drink. I smoke pretty often, though I don't usually drink. I know people who smoke and drink even more than I do. And I'm at a top college in the nation. Ben Franklin was an opium addict himself. Just because people smoke and drink doesn't mean that they are drug abusers. If the person you are worried about is a real junkie, then I doubt you'd see them in the same light; they wouldn't be able to give out that aura of perfection that you see. I don't judge people, or at least I try not to as often as possible. But I would sooner go out with someone who DOES smoke and drink, than someone who DOESN'T. A lot of the time, people who do smoke and drink are the "liberated," the people who can live while letting everything else that doesn't matter truly slide. The people who are usually screwed by society and don't fit in anymore, and the people who are worth fighting for. Now, that's not to say there aren't people like that who don't drink and smoke, but just because someone drinks and smokes, is no reason to discriminate, unless they're such a junkie that they're bumming money from other people and causing a great ruckus. If they aren't causing any harm, then don't worry about it, maybe even talk to them about it to find out why; most people will be completely honest. =)
You can't judge people, but if it really bothers you I would either find a way to accept it or back off. I wouldn't want a guy to come to me liking evreything about me but what I like to do for fun. Plus, the first time you bitch about it I would get pissed. I'm not saying she would, but I would. I just think you should let it go, or let her go because you can't hold people back or try to change them. If she really cheated on someone else, I would take that into account to. Don't get too attached too quick. Make a date if you really like her, but don't start a serious relationship unless you know you'll be happy with ALL of her.
