Small Penis.. Help me

Hey everyone.

I found this site awhile ago and have been browsing through it quite a bit lately and figured it would be a good place to ask for some help. My problem is that im 16 years old, and physically developing pretty well for my age but i have a small package. I measure up to 5 inches while erect and i have a nice set of small balls to go with that. This is super embarrasing for me and it has bugged me every day for the last 4 years, when i pretty much guessed i was smaller than normal and would be stuck with this forever.

This really depresses the hell out of me and i have even considered killing myself over this. Its hard being a teenager and having lots of girls interested in me but always turning down sex and staying away from relationships knowing that one day i will have to whip it out and risk getting laughed at or even worse, not pleasing the girl. Its getting harder and harder to cope with this as i get increasingly interested in sex and im finding myself in more and more situations where sex is involved, and all my friends are starting to lose their virginity and im stuck here in this hell hole.

Im sorting my shit out now and trying to deal with this and i figured its not going to get much bigger so i might as well learn how to use it. I dont want this controlling my life and making me feel like shit all the time. So i have a few questions:

1) First of all i wanted to know if theres any smaller sized condoms because i have tried on the normal sized ones and obviously im too small for them.. and if there are any, could they be bought at a normal store?

2) What are some tips for having sex with a small penis and making it work.. My biggest fear is not being able to please the girl im with...

3) Does the size of the girl matter at all? I always figured having sex with a smaller girl would make it easier for me to give her some pleasure.

4) And the last question i can think of is for the girls mainly. Does size really matter? Obviously most people are going to say no it doesnt but i want to hear if any of you have ever been with small penises before and how it worked out.


Please dont post if your going to make fun of me or flame me, this is something very serious to me that nags at me every single day of my life and i need to work this out if im ever going to move on with my life and be happy. Thanks if any of you read that and took the time to listen to me. I appreciate any help or advice you can give me.

 

Don't worry about her pleasure so much dude, you can still get just as much pleasure for yourself as a guy with a big one.

 

5 inches erect isn't overly small, the average penis is only 6 inches erect. Don't believe what you see on this forum or any others, where all male members claim to be 8-9 inches...some might be...be very few actually are.

I'm 6 inches long, 5.5 girth. I was a little worried about my size too when I was your age. My worries faded away once I had sex with numerous girls who struggled to take it all in. Really, it's alot of work for some girls who are smaller, and haven't had alot of sex.

So I guess to answer your question about whether or not you'd be better suited for a smaller girl, I'd say yeah...you probably are. I can't gaurantee this 100%, I'm just going by past experiences. Maybe a girl could comment on this?

 

You're about average, pal, so count your blessings. there are plenty of women out there who don't think size is a factor, so take what you've been given and learn to use it well. Sex begins between a woman's ears, not between her legs; plus, you've got a tongue and fingers, right? These are important 'tools' to use when pleasing a woman as well.

As far as condoms, search the web for those, I'm sure there available somewhere among the plethora of prophylactic products. I imagine that would be more discreet, and save you any awkwardness while shopping.

The reason that I am even responding to your post (and not to steal your thunder at all) is that I have the opposite problem. It's not all it's cracked up be to have a large penis.

 

Would also like to point out that at 16 your penis probably isn't finished growing. The penis ususally isn't done growing until a man is in his mid 20s.

My husband is 5 inches... I wouldn't want him to be bigger. Girth is often more important than length.

 

Honestly, size really doesn't matter to most chicks.
Like someone else said, you don't stop growing until your early/mid-20's. You might have long periods of time (a few months, a couple years...) where you stop growing, but you'll start again. And if you know what you're doing, size doesn't matter at all. Practice makes perfect, and girls your age are usually pretty understanding if you're shy at first.

As for condoms - I know a lot of guys, some of them on the bigger side of "average", who say that standard Durex condoms are a tight fit for them, and they have problems. Most of the more "average" guys I've known have no issue with them at all.

 

i'm not positive, but i think snugger fit condoms are designed for men who don't fit the other ones. They can be bought at almost any store that sells condoms. However, I'm not positive if that's what snugger fit means.

Coming from a gay male perspective, size doesn't matter. It's what you do with it.

 

The average sized penis for a white guy is 5.9 inches and about 5 inches for an Asian. Yours is close to average, and you probably have not stopped growing. How big is your father's (if you know) - heredity has something to do with it, just like the size of your nose.

For smaller penises, woman on top is good for this size, as is the missionary position with a pillow under a woman's butt. Some say doggy style is good too, but I can't say for sure, as I never liked this style for my 7 incher.

Some guys shave their pubes to make it look longer, and skinny guys look bigger because they have less bulk around the middle. what is your body type? Also, uncut guys sometimes look longer when soft, but the foreskin does not really count for size, as it melts away when erect.

Don't fret this! At 16 you have a lot of growing to do, and a lot to learn about good sex. I bet that some of the world's best lovers have 5 inch penises. It is what you do with what you have that matters.

 

i think the only girls who care about size are the ones looking for 1 night stands but when u get a gf who generally likes you its not a problem forthem atall, i stopped growing at 18 so early days yet. ive heard 'penis exercise' methods work to increase size, its not alot (about 0.5 - 1 inches) and takes a bit of time and dedication but its worth it.

 

She's right, there's a high probability that at 16 you are not finish growing yet. Second, she's also right that girth is more important than length.

Third, every woman's vagina is unique, just as penises are.

Fourth, some women prefer more friction, pressure, stretching, and some prefer less. Don't let men or women bull shit you. Every woman has an opinion or preference. Not all prefer lots of friction or pressure, but some do like to feel full, at least once in a while. Don't be afraid to use thicker toys with your woman if that is pleasurable for her. Don't be intimidated by toys as some men are, use them to the benefit of your relationship. Exploring can be very fun.

Last, take a look at the men's forum called "thundersplace". I would post a direct link to it, but then again NO. Google it, you will not regret it. It is a free forum that could be considered an encyclopedia on the issue of penis size. Wikipedia even mentions forums for these issues.

One more thing, the correct method of measuring the penis when comparing to surveys (most) is "bone-pressed". Hold the ruler perpendicular to your body (straight out), stand straight/don't tilt your pelvis forward and cheat, and press the base of the ruler fimly into your pubic fat pad till it presses solid against the pubic bone. Yes, most people will judge the size of a penis by what is visible, but this is how measurements for statistical comparisons are taken.

Oh, and the exact bone-pressed average for caucasian males is somewhere between 5.9", and 6.25". The range for what is considered average is 5" to 7.5".....anything longer or shorter is not in the average range. Most all men, upwards of 80% are average. Just take a look at thundersplace. I can't do justice on this topic compared to the 70,000 members of thunders.

 

Thanks to everyone who replied, I'm gonna go take a look at that site. What exactly is it? I dont want my parents finding it on the computer if its anything too extreme.

And someone else asked about my body type. Im a bit taller than most of my friends and fairly skinny. Sort of a medium build. And i am also uncircumsized which im not too happy with because the foreskin doesnt completely get out of the way when i have an erection. I have what they call a "turtle neck" and its kind of noticable because the skin in that area is slightly redder than the rest of the skin. Also, im not sure how to measure the girth of my penis. Its not that fat but it looks like the right width to go with the length of my penis.

I dont care so much as to my own pleasure but its the issue of pleasing a girl that im worried about.

 

I wouldnt worry about it. I have a smaller than average penis and once I figured out what I was doing, I've never had trouble giving girls pleasure/orgasms, mulitple orgasms, etc. There are a lot of other things that go into pleasure from sex.

 

actually your penis size peaks at 17 years old. not mid 20s, at least thats what books tell me.

 

the turtle neck is a good thing. you actually give a girl LESS pleasure when you get circumsized. why do you think they make ribbeed condoms? also, My guy is 22 and he's grown about half an inch in the last year. if you are 5 inches at 16 then I'd say you are in good shape.

 

Doors - each guy matures at his own pace, and many do not reach their full body size (including penis size) until their 20s or later. At 20, I was 6'2", 125 lbs - very skinny, and I have put on 60 lbs of mostly muscle since. I don't think I ever measured my penis at your age, but it seems bigger now after many years of having sex.

Regarding your "turtle neck" - if it is due to a short frenulum preventing complete retraction, so that the head is not fully exposed when you are erect, that can affect your enjoyment of sex, and can be corrected with a minor operation. If the problem is a tight foreskin, so when fully erect the foreskin squeezes the shaft in an uncomfortable manner, you might need exercises to stretch the foreskin, or a circumcision. Mine is a "loose cut", retaining much of my foreskin and leaving some extra skin to tickle her vagina when I am erect.

But again, don't fret size at your age.

 

No i dont think it has anything to do with that, when i pull it back i can fully expose the whole head of my penis its just that all the skin doesnt have anywhere to go so it sits just underneath the head.

 

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Doors of Perception - That is one of the problems with an uncircumcised penis - the foreskin wants to sneak back up when you are hard, and it often does do this on the outthrust in the vagina, lessening your sensitivity during intercourse, as the coronal ridge is covered on the outthrust. But the head is slightly more sensitive for uncut guys, I am told, so maybe it is a tradeoff. The foreskin also has to be stretched down and held there when you are getting a blowjob.

Try stretching your foreskin a little (gently) to see if that helps. Put hydrocortizone cream or olive oil on it when you do this. If not, and you are still bothered by it, get a circumcision (a "loose cut"like mine), so that the remaining foreskin stays down easily when you are erect.

Do you have an overly long foreskin when it is soft? This may be one reason why you have the "turtle neck", and may be able to be corrected surgically without circumcision.

Let us know how it goes, or PM me.

 

oh man

did you know that only about 30% of women can orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone? that means that there's a whole hell of a lot more to it. i know that, for me, penetration has just recently become something that turns me on very much at all and is still a very minor part of having a booming, mind-blasting sexual experience. and, if we took a survey here i'd be willing to bet that most women would not say it's the big hard cock that gets them off.

i am very sorry that you've been so severely affected by the bullshit ideas about female sexuality that permeate and pollute our minds. women are not the same as men. shit, if you want to treat any part of the female sexual system like a miniature penis then do it with the clitoris. as for that kind of stimulation, you don't even need a penis, so you're already ahead of the game!

If you're worried about pleasing a woman, you're looking in the wrong places, both literally and figuratively. i'd suggest that instead of researching how to "compensate" for a "small penis" you educate yourself about female sexuality. there are a ton of great resources out there that make hella fun reads. plus, i know that when i was 16 if i had had a lover who had even halway taken the time to learn what they were doing (a rarity in the extreme) i woulda been shot to the moon.

you are young and it takes work to get past all the unhealthy ideas that have been pounded into you from an early age, but you can do it and you can start now! it's a wonderful journey that i am taking, as are so many others who are older than you. that's when it gets good--when those tapes stop playing and you can enjoy and appreciate the bodies you are loving. just being in the moment is what it's about, though it's hard to do that if you have all kinds of bullshit in your head telling you that your body is wrong. it's not true!! it's horse shit!! i promise!

so, anyway, working on that, too, might really help you resolve the emotional turmoil you're experiencing.
good luck.
your penis is great, fine, and beautiful. stop telling him otherwise.

 

Don't fuss about dick size, it matters not.

Your hands and tongue are much more important in sex then your dick