Sleeping With a Man Who Has A Girlfriend, Is It Wrong?

I am sleeping with this guy, and he has a girlfriend, and also has a baby with him( the baby is now 5). He says that if they didnt have the child, he would be with me. I am kind of falling for him, but in all actuallity, I know that he will never be able to commit. The thing that gets me though, is that I had slept with another guy this past week, and I told him about it, like he tells me that he slept with someone else, and he was completely Jealous, to me it doesnt make any sense. What do I need to do, because when we first started this thing, it was a no strings attached kind of thing, and now he is getting jealous, I just dont understand

 

Sounds like trouble to me. Find someone else who is single and actually trustworthy.

 

Is it wrong?
Yeah, if she doesn't know it's going on and isn't ok with it, it's wrong.
Not to mention there's a child here who could be really hurt. You can't stop him from cheating but you can make it not be you who's involved in the affair.

 

Seriously, I just got out of a long engagement and I was on the receiving end of this kind of deception and pain. Just remember, how bad you make someone feel because you cant control your sad little sexual desires will be returned to you tenfold. And I think when you are involved with the ruin of a childs perception of comfort and family stability, the fines are usually doubled at the gate Thank Allah my son is too young to really understand what his mom did, I cant imagine the pain and confusion a 5 year old must feel knowing his parent act like a child.

 

Why would you want to be with a man who can't be faithful? Even without a child involved, he is sleeping with another woman and he expects you to just deal with that.

Do you think he hates fucking her? I doubt that...he is loving every minute of this...

She's going to find out sooner or later, and kick his ass to the curb. Then you can have him until he finds someone to cheat on you with, but I don't know why you'd want someone else's garbage...

 

see even if I would break it off, he would still call and come by and stuff like that. I dont know I guess u just have to know him. But his girlfriend, saw me in his hometown, and gave him the whole 20 questions bit, but even when he was just with her, she still accused him of cheating. So I guess if she is gonna accuse, he might just as well be doing it. But the whole part where she would be kicking him to the curb, it would be like him kicking her to the curb, because she lives off of him, and doesnt work, and is really is just a sponge.

 

Wait she acusses him of cheating, while hes cheating and that somehow makes it ok for him to continue?

Thats like the cops catching a bank rober in the act in time to drive him across town to rob another bank. your logic is way off, probobly the reason for you to ask such a stupid question in the first place.

Is it ok for some random girl to bang your sons father who you are in a realtionship with?

Dur Da fucking durrr

 

no she accuses him of cheating, when he isnt cheating, that is what I meant to say.

 

"So I guess if she is gonna accuse, he might just as well be doing it." Here is a thought, she knows he is a cheating bastard so she has reason to accuse. Was she wrong? Maybe at that exact moment she was.....but most women know when thier man is unfaithful. Interesting that she accused him when she saw you and now you are screwing....maybe she is pyschic.

Should you end it? That is up to you, but be ready to accept the consequences which can range from an angry girlfriend on your doorstep to him doing the same to you.

If it were me I would walk away and never look back. And if he came over I would tell him to go home! However you ask for opinions yet defend him, so you are not ready to make a decision.

 

Look, you're only hearing one side of the story. Have you heard how she feels about the relationship? From her lips, not some assumption from the guy you're fucking?

Like I said, you can't change whether he chooses to cheat or not, but you can choose to not be the skank who fucks him while he's supposed to be with someone else

 

YES, IT'S WRONG.

He has a girlfriend and has a 5-year old child. If you were on her girlfriend's place, how would you feel? You say you are starting to fall for him? You better stop what you have with him as early as possible before things get worse. His jealousy doesn't really makes sense. He can sleep with others aside from his girlfriend while you cannot and you said it started with a no-strings-attached thing.

Please find a guy that truly deserve you. Who knows if he is just using you. You see, you're not the only one he's sleeping with aside from his girlfriend, so there is nothing special between you. you better not expect something from him.


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Right and wrong is relative to different individuals. Personally, I try to live by the golden rule.
Do you find any satisfaction in knowing that you could hurt innocent people by doing this?
Just because this guy gets *jealous* does not mean he is in love with you nor does it necessarily mean he wants to be with you exclusively. From what I have seen in other similar situations is it means this: he wants his cake and eat it too. He can't be truthful to his gf or you but he expects such behaviour from the women he is sleeping with.
I would move on. What does he have to offer but lies, deceit and meaningless sex?

 

No, not really. I've had the misfortune of having met far too many little puny boys like him (no real man would cheat -- a real man is true to his word). So what if he would keep coming around -- after all, you've already shown yourself to be nothing more than an easy hole for him to stick his dick into, so he won't exactly expect you to have the strength of character to hold out for very long.

Wait -- you actually believe him that if he wasn't with you he wasn't cheating? He's lying through his teeth to his baby's mama, but somehow he's not going to lie to you??? He's proven himself completely untrustworthy, you can't know that he wasn't cheating on her then, you just don't know WHO he was cheating on her with then.

As has been said, that is logically invalid. Sure, it works if you're 5 years old, but most of us grow out of that mentality...

 

What goes around comes around.
Next time it will be you who will be on the other end.
Run and don't look back.

 

you know I want to thank EVERYONE that commented on this thread. I have taken the necessary steps, to end this thing. I havent called, I havent went to see him when he has called, and after I totally break this thing off I hope and pray to god that I never see him again. Again thank you to everyone.

 

well done!! you'll save yourself a lot of heartbreak.
Good luck!!!

 

good luck with it, i really hope you can get away from that situation : )

 

I wouldn't worry about whether it was right or wrong but rather ask yourself why you feel the need to be with a man who is not 100 percent availible to you when there are millions who can be.
I never got the whole liking an attached guy thing. I don't want to be anyone's sloppy seconds no matter how much I get along with, admire, am attracted to the guy.

 

The man you are sleeping with is lying to the mother of his child. Why do you think he is (or will) tell you the truth? Do you want him to treat you and your future children the way he is treating her and his existing child? Or is your love for him so strong and special that he will treat you differently?

You know what you need to do. Be smart, don't prove that all women can be treated like dirt.

 

I agree, not that he shouldn't get blame but you're enabeling men to think it is okay to act this way and when they wind up with one of us who doesn't put up with shit and expects chivialry they're fucking shocked and don't know how to dish it out. Last weekend i actually grabbed the guy's wrist and walked him to the passenger door to open it for me and told him that if he wants to see me not to rely on th technology of his car remote.