skype relationship help

I have a cousin who is so in love with a guy from Nigeria, and the idiot is saving all her money to bring him to NZ so they can get married :\ She has told me her plans to get him here and is telling me she is ass over heels in love with him...Our family is really concerned because there is a lot of scams and he says he is a student in medicine but just recently got a job in Nigeria...i spoke to him on skype (not trying2be mean but it looked rundown and a lot of guys stay with him), i didn't like him and warned him not to hurt her, we ended up fighting when he said i was jealous, so i told him the men in my family will cut his balls off and beat the shit out of him if he's all bullshit.
I have seen scams on youtube by Nigerian men but when i try to show her we end up fighting because she say's he is not like that, and they are soul mates...Im not that familiar with my countries laws for foreigners working here or marrying a foreigner marrying a citizen. i am just really worried about my cousin, she is young,beautiful and smart(until it comes to this). She's 19 and could have any guy she wanted...or am i just being paranoid? should i interfere with soul-mates?...or so she says.

 

sounds like a scam to me, try to persuade her to see sense if you can,
at the end of the day it's her money she's going to lose, as well as a broken heart

 

believe me it's harder then just marriage and he gets to stay. They well have to prove so much.

been there done that

 

I dunno, did she meet him in person, or online? It sounds like they met online, and I have a prince to introduce her to. Women are notoriously bad at choosing men. I wonder if tricking women is the oldest reproductive strategy?

 

Nigerians are infamous for scamming people.


My grandmother is the nicest lady in the world, but she's told me several times "DreadlocksFTW, remember to never trust a Nigerian. Ever."


I wouldn't trust them if someone said "send me money so I can visit you." However, it could be legit. You never know.


Just remember that the amount of money that a plane ticket would cost is a lot of cash in Nigeria.

 

I looked into emigrating to NZ a few years back---it is NOT easy. SHE is saving money? Why wouldn't he,if he was legit?

 

I can recall tricking numerous Canadian chicks into thinking I was cool.

so to the point... yes

 

tell your cousin that I own the moon and im willing to sell her 50% of it for the mere sum of 500,000 dollars due to a family emergency

 

I've got a share in the Brooklyn Bridge if she's interested.

 

I know what you mean but she is adamant it is true love, we have a lot of fights and she won't listen to anyone in the family, she thinks we all are against her and him because he is black :\ Our family are brown smh

 

thank you. yeah if i think they plan to lie why he is coming to nz or something, she has her plan for him to be here by the end of the year :\ thank you

 

No they met on facebook and then went on to skype. she does not want anyone else. There other guys that like her here and they are good guys but she firmly believes this guy from NIgeria is 'the one' for her. Thank you for this comment.

 

Yeah, its not really because hes Nigerian, but because he is wanting her to pay...but he is sneaky! when she rambles to me about him she says he doesn't want her to pay...but then he keeps telling her he doesn't have money some days and can't help feed his younger siblings also his sick mother, so she sends money but i find out when she has already done it! Pisses me off. if its true his family are struggling then my heart does go out for them but! this is not her responsibility

 

I met my now hubby online 10 years ago now and 6 years ago I moved from Canada to here.

Now yes Canada isn't Nigeria but I had to prove our relationship was genuine there was heaps to do, and given where he's from would only be a lot stricter.

Plus when I did we had a kid together...... and we still had to jump through hoops.

 

I ask the same thing but she says he doesn't want her to pay, and then he just tells her about all his problems in his family and it makes her feel guilty, she is student and only child, her parents are not rich but they live comfortably. she trully believes love is about making sacrifices so shes doing this for him...ive tried to make her see sense but shes a fucking stubborn bitch that you just want to hit her :\ but i honestly love her to death.

 

ill send the message to her now, on a duck

 

so it is possible? did you have to send him money or anything like that? but were you investigated as well? :\ sheez it sounds a lot. She thinks once they are married it should be smooth rolling

 

:iagree:

 

because he lives in nigeria and it isn't as easy to save up money as someone in NZ.

that said, this reeks of scam to me.

 

Chances are the more negative it appears you are the more she will defend, happens all the time.

Instead try to not repeat the same thing to her about him all the time.

Sometimes things just end, especially when people are so geographically far apart.

As far as he is concerned it might be better to get to know him a little more as if he is not what he is representing himself to be it will come out sooner or later. Remember the old saying keep your friends close but your enemies closer.