Silent Sex

I admit it, I'm a silent lover. For some reason I don't make noise, except for soft little happy keenings, during sex.

I don't even make noise when I masturbate ... so I know it's just because I don't WANT to.

But that throws some ... okay, most ... guys off, even if I warn them that I'm not the moaning thrashing screaming type. So ... much as I would hate to ... should I fake it? Or say something (my favorite is, "You're pretty" because it usually earns a surprised laugh)? Or ... what?

Just curious ... thanks

 

I'm in the same boat, and yeah it's thrown the people I've been with off too. But I don't think you should fake it. I never bothered. As long as you're not acting like your dead and they can tell you're into it, then it's all good!

 

Are you very self-conscious, or worried about sounding weird/fake?

 

woot me too har... girls are thrown off by it as well

 

Both, but like I said, I'm also silent in private -- I'm not surpressing any noise (consciously at least - it's entirely possible that I'm surpressing it so well I don't even know I'm surpressing it!)

 

My boyfriend is not a talker until he's at the peak, but I love it when he talks dirty. So sometimes I'll ask him to, but usually I just let him be. Doesn't matter either way, we're always both happy in the end.

 

I'm silent as well... which usually makes the girl think "do I suck or something?" which is totally not the case (usually).
Anyway, I prefer quiet women as well.

 

A girl being silent during sex or masturbation doesnt turn me off, you dont have to make noise to enjoy yourself, it still remains a huge turn on noise or not.

 

the sound of moaning is what turns me on!

 

Oh yea, me too. I'm really loud, especially when I come. If I don't scream at that point I think the top of my head would come off. My ex used to scream real loud every time she came, and the look on her face as she was doing that, plus that rhythmic scream of hers sent me over the edge every time. Damn, I loved it.

 

Me too!!!! Moaning, even quietly is a turn-on.

Citygirl......what r u refering to? The sound of a guy moaning turns u on or another girl or does the sound of u moaning add pleasure to ur experience?? Just curous
Paul

 

My own experience (for what its worth is if I am with a girl and she truly had an orgasm.......not kinda had one or it felt good......but really an orgasm.......I have found there would be at least some sign that would make it pretty obvious. Whether it be soft moaning, or a change in her breathing or perhaps a sudden jerk or thrust or some change in movement........maybe she was moving a bit and then totally stopped moving etc etc. If there was no sign whatsoever, none, I would assume she probably did not have an orgasm. If she told me she did have one i would believe her but think she must for some reason consciously or subconciously be suppressing it......perhaps too embarassed to show herself out of control...........perhaps she feels its too intimate to show a guy unless she was deeply in love with him, she even could feel some anger toward the guy or men in general and simply refuses to give a guy the satisfaction of knowing he pleased her. etc etc. Whatever the reason my experience is if she truly had a real orgasm there would be some pretty obvious sign or she would be stopping herself from showing those emotions.

I'm glad to hear from the women on this subject either here or pm me if u prefer.
thanx
Paul

 

lovetouch, you would know if I had an orgasm!

 

hmmmmm

 

Oh,,,,,wow........I would LOVE to witness u having an orgasm!!!!! What a thrill it would be!!!!!

Paul

 

*sigh*

So should I just ask first? ("Hey, do you care if I'm quiet, or should I try to make it noisy?")

 

As long as you don't exceed OSHA noise level standards
to the point ear plugs are required
(yeah that's a story in itself)
go for it.

Best guess is whatever you find comfortable
would be received wonderfully by your partner... *s*

 

no, I don't scream, that would be scary!

 

If I had a girlfriend like you that was that quiet, then i'd be grateful - I'd say that it's a good quality that you have.

 

Sweet ... I guess a lot of guys just think they aren't doing anything for me, which is not true. I just internalize most of it.