I am infatuated with my best friends boy toy. I say infatuated rather than like or even love, because I don't love him. At least not in a deep spiritual soul mate sort of way. He is her boy toy, because they dated (not exclusively) for a few weeks before he broke up with her for a women far far away that he claims he loves. They still remain good friends and sometimes act as though they are still dating (i.e. flirting, hugging, etc) and hook-up while under the influences of alcohol. I am infatuated with him because he is a "nice guy". I myself have had a string of losers in my past. He is cute, funny, and hard working. I didn't even consider that more could become of our relationship than he being my friends bf, until she told me that if I had only showed up at dinner one night I would probably be the one that he went after and started dating. But instead I ignored her phone call to spend time with my current ex ( a loser who I recently found out cheated on me for almost our entire 6 month relationship). I also am aware of my own feelings enough to know that if I did date him, I would soon lose interest. I love my best friend and would never want to hurt her and therefor I would never never allow myself to do anything immoral with this boy. Maybe its the "I can't have him" factor that makes me want to be around him. I think that I am doomed to be the enternal "friend". The girl all the guys want to hang out with but not date. Thankyou for reading my rantings. -CB
Aw, cheer up. You said yourself you don't really love him, you're just infatuated. If i were you, I'd strt looking for that person I did love in that soul-mate kinda way.
oh god...i completely feel your pain...i am in a similar boat...only my really good friend and her boy toy are still kind of dating(ish) and me and this guy have actually done stuff...in a way it hurts even more cuz whenever he is with her i get jealous but our little thing has to be a secret...it sucks being the "mistress"...so yeah...hang in there...
OK, so you say this guy is a "nice guy"... Is he supposedly now exclusively dating this woman he "is in love with" (which I'm assuming since he dumped your friend for her)? Would the woman he is "in love with" consider him a "nice guy" if she knew that he hooks up with other women whenever he has a few drinks? I know, that seems a bit irrelevant to your situation, since you're not looking for love anyway... But if you are attracted to him because he is a "nice guy", maybe him being not such a nice guy after all will make it easier for you to get past him... No man is worth screwing up a good friendship over, especially not some boy toy that neither of you care about.
I wasn't clear on that part because it is a long story sorry. He loved this woman who lives far away, they went on a break. He started dating my friend. He then decided that he still loves this far away woman even though she doesn't want to be with him anymore. So he broke up with my friend to spare her feelings since shens more than what he is willing to give. And I am looking for love. I figure that since I am now 21 and I will be leaving college soon (hopefully) I should start looking for the type of guy I would marry and not one that will just fullfill short term needs and goals. I just don't love m friends boy. I'm horribly shy around guys and normally can not talk to the nice guys that I like. -CB
