So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years but I've never orgasmed and I don't just mean during sex I mean during sex and foreplay. I can give myself one but I only do that in private although he knows I can. Is it something to do with me? Or something to do with him? Is it normal for women to be in a relationship but not orgasm in the bedroom? U already brought it up with him a while ago but nothing changed. Any thoughts?
It could be any number of things. Maybe he just doesn't know how to "touch" you right. It could be a mental thing with you. Maybe you should talk to a doctor.
...does he turn you on? does he go down on you? maybe you need oral sex or maybe since you can get yourself off, you can stimulate yourself (your clit) while he's inside of you
Take your time. Raise your pelvis while he is in you. Or sit on him and adjust your pelvis to different positions. I actually get off the best with finger fucking. It's no ones fault. Sex is enjoyable without orgasms.
IMO the first thing you need to learn how to do is make yourself cum. Once you know what does it for you, you can communicate that to whoever you are with. To me, it has never been about who you are with being "good in bed" it has everything to do with how well you know your own body.
I have asked my wife a few times to touch her genitals instead of me doing it but she just doesn't like self stimulation. I thought it wasn't that much of a request to get her to do but obviously it was.
I was opposed to this at first but I do it if it seems to help.. I've found that sometimes it turns the guy on and in turn he performs better.
So you sort of give in to him at times & do what you don't like doing just to keep him - (dare I say it) - quite / happy ?
Only about 35% of women can orgasm from intercourse alone, and another 25% only from intercourse and manual stimulation together, like with a vibrator on the clitoris as you have intercourse. Another 20% can get an orgasm only from manual stimulation, and the rest seldom or never get an orgasm.
Well, I would say that it seems like it has something to do with lack of stimulation to your clitoris. I'm guessing that the way that you give yourself an orgasm (masturbate) is to rub your clitoris with your fingers and/or a vibrator. It's not unusual at all for a woman to rub her clit during sex, use a vibrator during sex, or ask her partner to do any or all of the above. It's also true that you may be able to orgasm from oral (which feels absolutely wonderful, if you've not had the pleasure). Mostly, I'd just recommend experimenting with your boyfriend to see what you both can do to give you an orgasm. Having an orgasm as a result of someone else, rather than from masturbation is truly special. Best of luck!
