I can't go in to details with this because people would get hurt and mad, but basicly... Sara, I love her more than anything... I've spent a long time, working on her selfesteem trying to make her feel good about herself... Now, just today I said something stupid, like really stupid... I tried to be funny in a pathetic way, by saying I hated something. But Sara, transfered it to herself, and now she trusts me only a very little... Now here's the thing, I wouldn't forgive myself for this... In my mind I don't deserve her at all, never have... But I love her so much, and I really wanna stay with her... She says she doesn't wanna break up, but maybe take a break... Wich to me, is a death warrant in a relationsship... But yet, I'm trying to get her to forgive me... Cause it was really just out of stupidity, and I do love her more than anything, she showed me a kind of love I would've never thought could exist... Now it is I ask you people, if you had lost all trust in a guy... And even if his thoughts, why he did it couldn't convince you... Is it dead? Do we need a break? or should I (and this is my personal favorite) should I try to fix the mess I made myself and we should stay together... I'd do anything to make her feel better, it's killing me... I'm crying for the first time in many many years, I've never felt this low before... She lost trust in me I don't know if I wrote everything I wanted to, I can't think straight right now... I'm totally dissolved... I love her so much I really had to overcome my pride to make this topic, but it is worth it all if this will just get her to trust me a little, just a tiny little bit more I didn't make this in to a poll, because they suck
how is this a pm, when it's a question? besides, you have to know what to answer, to say anything we can just mildly use
babies, Sara needs some real help with her self-esteem, like counseling help. no shame in it. More shame in wasting the freest years of your life to self loathing. Chances are there's an underlying reason/cause for such a strong lack of self worth. and lakshen, treading gently will eventually harm a relationship. be there. be suportive but please encourage her to seek her healing so that you two can go forward.
