Sex without Condoms

Let's be real. How many people will admit they have sex without condoms? I'm not talking about with your spouse or long term boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm talking about with people you meet online, pick up at a bar, or haven't known that long - one night stands, etc. I hear people get on a soap box about condoms on forums, but in real life my experience has been they always go without. I know it's risky, but I think that might be part of the thrill. What do you think? Now, before people get their panties in a wad, I'm no condoning it or asking for arguments on how wrong or right it is. I'm just curious about the reality of it all. Have fun!

 

nope not a big fan of it...

I will go without one with my wife of girlfriend as long as we are both tested before hand...

Its only far if i ask her to be tested that i am tested for her too.

 

Id be lying if I said ti had never happened.

One girl snatched one away from me when I was about to roll it on, and tossed it across the room. I just went with it.

 

I haven't done that in years. It isn't worth the risk.

 

All I can say from this females point of view is there is more feeling without a condom, more satisfaction too because its a scientific fact that sperm and semen have calming hormones in them!

And I won't do it with anyone strange to me, only old lovers who I know are tested.

Lois

 

I've been a long time AIDS/Safer Sex instructor and a big part of that is advocating condom use.

I even did a 3-fold brochure of very graphic drawings in 1991 showing every step of condom use:
http://home.earthlink.net/~shalestone/id11.html

So, why am I waiting another week for my final 3-month HIV test? (I was negative 1 month after possible exposure). Well, I got carried away in the heat of the moment and couldn't take the time to get up, go to the dresser and get a damn rubber. :banghead:

Normally I just do oral and "outercourse" but this was a rare moment of a good boner and my fuckbuddy was insisting I do his ass.

I'm hoping my fuckbuddy is negative, but he did let me bareback him so there may have been others. And while the recipient is the highest at risk, I got abrasions on my penis from his tight ass, which puts me right up there.

So, I still advocate using rubbers for high risk stuff, but do know that ppl do stupid things.

BTW, ppl talking about getting tested. You do know that a test result is only good until the next sexual encounter. That you will not know your HIV status for several weeks to 3 months. So a recently HIV infected person could test safe while still transmitting the virus. Just sayin'

 

I must say I was guilty in my teens of incidents of unprotected sex. Luckily for me nothing bad eventuated from my recklessness.

However, I've spent the last 20 years in 2 monogamous relationships (obv not using condoms) with a brief fwb thing between them, but coz I am older and wiser, the fwb was definately a 'party hat on' scene.

Frankly it scares the shit out of me the nasty stuff you can catch for the sake of a bit of pleasure - as Karen said, it is just not worth it. I hope I am never in the situation again of vetting a new lover, but if so, as much as I hate them myself, if theres no glove theres no love!

 

Did it a few times when I was 19 or so.

That was 15 years go...the height of AIDS paranoia.

Since then, no dice. Rubbers or no go.

 

Both my wife and I have done it with others without a condom at times.. not something that we do often.

 

I had a one night fling without a condom once, the girl was kinda a slut around town and I got tested 2 days after and was all good but that was the first and last time.

 

ive only done this once with a girl i was with for a while and we both got tested. but i would never just have sex without a condom with random people prob next time i do have sex without a condom will be with my wife afet we both got tested. theres just to much shit going around now even tho it feels so much better raw lol but its not worth the risk

 

Hey Mate,

In order to get a conclusive result an ELISA test must be done 13 weeks after the potential exposure.

Two days after the incident fall within "Window Period" and nothing would show in the test, since seroconversion hasn't taken place yet, and subsequently anti-bodies are not produced yet.

Repeat the HIV ab test after 13 weeks (- 2 days), given that you hadn't had another unprotected encounter in the middle, since the 13 weeks are estimated since the LAST encounter.

Anyway everything will hopefully be ok. HIV is a very weak, fragile virus. Hard to transmit, especially from a woman to a man, and practically speaking the odds of getting it transmitted as a man in a heterosexual relationship are very, very slim.

 

I have done it with a few girls, when i was younger.

I always felt stupid after I did it but in the moment u arent thinking straight. The scary thing is when you think if you both were willing to do it, you both have probably been willing to at other times with other people so you basically times the amount of people u have both slept with and who those ppl have slept with etc etc and you have basically slept with all of them. Def not worth it.

I have rarely been pressured to wear one, in all of my time. Very few girls ive been with insisted on being careful. Good on the ones that did i say. I guess some might feel the pressure of being rejected? Some might just be too caught up in the moment. And some just don't understand the risks. Then I guess some don't even care or maybe like being reckless. Mind you a few of them we didn't know each other well, or at least not sexual history or anything.

I think the hype of the safe sex message has slowed somewhat now that it is considered "common knowledge". But I don't think the message is being drilled home enough with young people today.

 

Not going to lie, I prefer it without.
I have without...and the entire time was amazing.
Especially the added risk.
But after it's all said and done...you're laying there thinking
wow wtf WHY didnt he wear a bag like why did we not have some sort of protection
especially since i'm not on the pill. I got all freaked out took a pregnancy test....negative..had my period. it was all good.

But the whole time not knowing was kind of scary.
Pregnancy scares, are not fun.
And the sex even if it is good....just isn't worth it.

 

Well, like everyone I have done it before, but I regret it and wouldn't recommend it. I do prefer sex without condoms but only with people i know and can trust


life is too short not to have fun!

 

I've only had sex with one person, who was a virgin as well. But we never used condoms. I'm on the pill. But I would never have sex without a condom unless I was positive they wouldn't give me a disease

 

I agree with the OP. I mean to be safe, but most of the time (80%) it doesn't happen, especially when I have sex with the person more than once. And skin on skin does feel out of this world.

I've been pretty lucky, maybe because I've dealt mainly with a low-risk population (Midwest college town, younger women). All I ever caught was a wart from my ex-wife, who was only my 4th lover, and that is now long gone. After 30+ (exciting) partners I must be a lucky SOB, but I do worry... and so I get tested often.

Kudos to everyone else for being safer than me. I really appreciate it. I'll try and be better for your sake. And if I ever catch something, I'll try not to pass it along.

In my defense, I will say safer sex is about much more than using condoms. Be especially careful about high-risk people (e.g. IV drug users, prostitutes, not-so-discriminating promiscuous people -- all otherwise potentially wonderful people), be picky/limit your partners, and get tested very, very often. Yes, all of that and a condom, remember... but do have lots and lots of great, intimate sex.

As with travel and other great exploits, minimize the risks but have adventures. Abstinence is the worst kind of safer sex.

 

you should rename this thread, 'sex without common sense'.

 

I didn't know you could buy common sense in little plastic packets...... WHY DID NO ONE TELL ME!?!?!
What have I been going to school for?

 

Shale...I am so glad you posted this because really it only takes one encounter with somebody that is infected. And no matter how clean and safe we are we cant account for where they have been (no matter how much we think we already know).

I have had sex without a condom many times but only in longterm relatkionships where the person has been tested for HIV and had a negative result. I get tested for them too. I lost a relative to AIDS when I was a kid so I have always known just how real and how serious the disease is. Getting HIV is a huge fear of mine so I am really careful. To be honest, I wouldnt be able to hook up with somebody for a one night stand even if they did use a condom. The anxiety that I would feel probably would prevent me from doing anything. I'd probably have a friggin panic attack..........