Sex with Friends

I believe that friends of the opposite gender should help each other out when they have sex problems, such as not being able to get laid. At this particular point, one friend should ask the friend with the problem if they want to talk about their problems. Then the latter friend should say, "I can't get laid." The former friend is required to say "Can I help you with your diliemma?" In other words, can I have sex with you, purely as one friend helping out another friend. And the latter friend should answer "yes" because it is rude to turn down a gift, especially the gift of sex. Then, when the time is right, they should copulate and if that experence is a good one, continue. This should be the code of male and female friends. At least, this is the code that I live by. Too bad none of the guys in my life are able to consumate this code. Which is why...

I don't believe in relationships. How can you only have sex with one person for fifty years? That seems like my version of Dante's Hell. Only having sex with one person for about 7 months made me go insane with thoughts of sexual relations with other men, even some that I wasn't attracted to. I just had this everlasting itch that needed to be scratched, and I couldn't reach it. It got really bad when I couldn't have sex for a month at a time. I NEED sex like I need water. If you haven't been able to tell by now, I am a nympho, although I never have cheated on a partner, mainly because I believe in total honesty with people you care about (assuming that one cares about their partner).

So why do people have closed relationships? I can't quite figure it out. I think many people fear that if their partner had sex with other people, their partner would leave them for those other folks. It is based upon insecurity and a confusion about sex and love. I will address the first issue in this paragraph. People, especially women, are insecure. I have normal insecurity issues, but I don't let them interfere with my thinking. Some people let insecurity take over their lives. Insecure people often feel unworthy and believe their partner will find someone better than them and leave them. This poison of insecurity will rot anyone's mind, if they let it. I believe that relationships are based on the feeling of security by having a partner to rely on. That security is very comforting, but it is false. In the end, you can only rely on yourself. No one can do it for you, especially a partner. This is a trap that fuels many relationships, especially codependent relationships. People want someone to be there for them, through the good and the bad, which is why they need to be in a relationship to begin with. NO ONE NEEDS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP!

And on to the sex and love confussion. One particular boy told me that he had sex with my after he knew that he loved me. Yeah right, we had only known each other for two weeks and had just started dating. He made a common mistake, confusing good sex for love. They are not the same thing, not even the same sport. Sex is completely physical. Some sex is good and some is bad, whether it is due to the size of genitalia or experence of the participents. If the sex is bad, stop having sex with that person and find someone else. If the sex is good, keep on keepin' on!

Love is supposed to be about caring, about trust, about helping. I guess I can't really expand love more than that. Romantic love is bullshit. I love everyone on here who is tagged and many more who aren't. I would give my right arm for you guys. That is true love. Romantic love is based on demands and expectations for their partners in order to be "loved." This is bullshit. If you really love someone, you will accept them for who they are and forgive them for the mistakes they might make. Instead, most romantic relationships end when one person doesn't live up to the expectations of their partner. This is not real love at all, but people being selfish, thinking only of themselves.

I hate relationships because they are based upon unreasonable expectations (usually). I hate relationships because romantic love is confused for real love. Relationships can create enemies out of friends. They are so draining and take up too much energy.

What do I want, if I don't want a relationship? I want friendships with men, something that can last even when the sex is gone.

Anyone agree, disagree, or don't give a shit?

Peace and love

 

i dont think taht friends have any sort of obligation to relieve one another sxually. i mean, its great if theyre both open enough, comfortable enough with teh fuckbuddies thing fo rit to work for them. me, i very very much prefer sex in a relationship, with someone i love in a romantic way not just in a friendship kind of way. dont get me wrong, i love my friends dearly, but i have zero sexual attraction to them and i wouldnt nwant to screw up very good friendships should we not work out sexualyl, even if i were ok with non-relationship sex for me

 

I guess we differ on that point.

Peace and love

 

Why can't I have girl(friends) like you.. damn.. lol

 

best sex with a friend

 

WOW, such maturity from someone only 22. I am impressed.

It took me until 35 to come to the same conclusion. I still find people who refused to understand my open marriage, and just think my wife is crazy to "put up" with me. Few people see the honesty of the relationship and how it frees the mind from unrealistic expectations. And my wife sees it as a gift of love that she gives me that expresses her unconditional love of the person I am.

We should be friends. Where do you live? oh, wait.. do you have age limits on friendships?

Cool Post
James

 

Mature?
My opinion is no!
I think your post reflects that your mental age differs from the age of your body!
I'm sorry but i cannot understand nor can i concieve of this idea!
I think we are just different people!

 

Too bad you aren't open to the great connection that sex provides between friends. It really deepens friendships.

Peace and love

 

Yea i've done this with a couple close friends. And yea, they still very close to me.

 

I love sex and yearn for sex with multiple people, but being in a relationship there is a trust factor that is stronger than the need for crazy wild sex. Also I am scared of diseases and am a numbers person.

 

Hippie chick, I can understand why some people would want to lead their life that way, and you should have no shortage of male friends. however, have you considered your future. At some point you may want to have a child. By nature a women always knows who their offspring are: yet, a male cannot be so sure (DNA testing changes that today) If you wanted a child and found the perfect partner could he be certain that the child was his? what if you had several friends and were not sure who the father was? For this reason a monogamous relationship works best. You are young and may change your view in a few years--until then go have some fun!

 

One option opened to you would be to visit a swingers club.
Single females are always welcome.

 

Cool! I am open to settling down with my best friend, once I get my "playing days" out of the way (once I'm done with college). But once again, I will have kids with my best friend.

Peace and love

 

i think its cool to just get laid by your friend, i like open relationships, it doesnt put stress and regrets on the line. and your friend is there when you need him or her. my problem is, having sex with a whole bunch od people, leads to diseases. so i try and keep my limit low or just have sex with the same people but i had sex with one of my friends nt too long ago and it was a little weird but when we met we wanted to hop in bed lol so it was amazing too...

 

excatly its better with friends that you know who they r,i have 2 girlfriends that we just fucking and masturbate together and making each other horney,smoking together,except my gf,friends r good when u have a healthy open relationship with them ...

 

Right on Nude sun!

Peace and love

 

I don't know...I don't have sex outside of relationships, but don't have relationships with people I am not friends with first...so I don't know if my answer is yes or no. One of my good guy friends who I don't find attractive enough personality wise to be in a relationship with says that I owe him conselation sex...uhmmm nope.

 

Yeah, I think this is good like if someone is having trouble then why not lets do it lol

 

Yeah I'm the same. I have been 100% faithful to my present GF and always intend to be.............but by golly, she has some friends that I would have to be dug out of if I got into them!

 

well an open relationship has nothing to do with faithfulness though. If you and your partner agree its ok, then you are being faithful to the agreement because there is no agreement not to have sex there. On the other hand if you have a monogamous relationship you should never have sex with someone else because thats a special "deal" you've made and you'd be breaking it to have sex with someone else. It's all about the way you and you significant other operate.