sex =/= intercourse

Most every time people talk about sex, they seem so focused on intercourse. Being a freak that wants to do everything all the time, this really puzzles me.

Are these people as intercourse focused in bed?
What's the fun in that?

What's the whole obsession with how long guy's last about?
I typically cum within 5 minutes (though for a while I got better ), and I'm damn sure trying to work on it, but we typically spend at least an hour being naughty..
That sure has nothing to do with how long I last, but a lot to do with how awesome the experience is.

How come people only consider intercourse when they are talking about virginity? I certainly don't get any images of oral sex that are all innocent and childish.

It seems to me that these intercourse focused types are typically less sexual overall. But I'm sorta anti-social and am with my one and only still, so that's a rather untested theory. Your thoughts?

 

Part of the reason people only consider intercourse when losing their virginity has to do with its when Many women's hymen break. Even if did it already it tends to hurt alot of women to a degree the first time, and its the ultimate consumation of love and/or sex.

Sex is definitely beyond strictly intercourse though...

You don't get innocently lustful images/thoughts when you see your girl licking an ice cream or lolli pop?

 

My girlfriend never even used tampons at the time when I um.. bedded her, and her hymen was already broken somehow. There's so many other ways that a girl can pop it.

Not ice cream. It looks like that nasty fake cum they use in mainstream porn.

 

that's why I said many women.

 

But I mean, many isn't a very specific amount. Unless it's the majority (and I'd say by large); it's a rather shitty measure for virginity.

But virginity is a sorta silly concept anyways; so maybe I should've just skipped that part in OP =P

 

Well unfortunately its not my job to go measure if virgin women's hymens are still intact so exact numbers don't really work here.

 

If there's ever an opening, you can use me as a reference :biggrin:

 

When I was 21, 5 minites was about it from the point of penetration. I was just so sensitive then (and I'm cut) that the slightest movement after a few minutes, no matter if it was slowed. brought me. And afterward, it was too sensitive to start up again quickly. Needed half an hour.

But by the age of 24 I found that the restart time was down to about 15 minutes or less, so this led to my most satisfying period of partner sexuality.

It was simple - come once, and fuck all night. Or as long as she wants.

 

Thanks for the assurance. I actually have trouble feeling through condoms, is the really strange part, that leads me to believe it's mostly psychological (or maybe the warmth could be enough sensation to make me sensitive?).

But through Kegel's and mental training I was getting really good, and my time was up to about 10 minutes, but after she had to get surgery and we had some time off, I lost all progress.

And then there are rare times when intercourse just doesn't get me off (again, I suspect the condom's fault)


The main reason I want to get my time up is because I have some interest in swinging and she isn't so sure about that (yet?), but has some interest in other girls; and that sounds pretty interesting to me to; and it's not even a possibility in my mind until after I work this out (which is fine, because we don't know any girls =P)

 

Well some people are just naturally better than others at some things. Im the opposite of you I've always been really good at intercourse but not the best with foreplay. I dunno I just bring it in regards to intercourse and watching her go nuts from it gets me off.

 

But this exactly my point -- how come you barely hear people talk about foreplay in public settings -- when there's gotta be people there that prefer it, are better at it, or have partners' that are way better at it -- why does intercourse seem so dominant in the common mind?

Private conversations don't seem nearly as dominated by intercourse-centric thinking (except for when it comes to virginity)

 

Well for me intercourse is just so much more physical and primal and I really see the true soul of a person shine through. With foreplay I still feel there can be somewhat of a faccade put up by the person, like stuff that happened earlier in the date or some of the fronts and insecurities or whatever still carries on through foreplay.

 

my gf and I had some awesome sex today, I didnt bust a nut cause thats not the only reason I put my dick in her..

 

Of course not.

The only reason I bother with intercourse is because of the extreme intimacy and emotion it arises; but somewhere along the first page I realized this thread is silly because I've not gotten to try it without a condom, yet.

 

intercourse is the desert.

 

I can't speak for everyone, but personally I'm very efficiency vs. results-driven. Foreplay (for me) doesn't produce results (orgasm). Getting right down to bid'ness (intercourse) does. That's how I see it anyway. Does that make any sense?

 

from a female perspective, i just love intercourse. Throughout foreplay all I can usually think is "damn, i just want you inside of me." I just like the feeling of connectedness that comes with intercourse. Of course, the two really go hand in hand. I like to be teased for hours before intercourse actually takes place, this makes sex absolutely mind blowing. But overall I view foreplay as a means to an end; it just warms me up for the actual intercourse.

 

But this implies that intecourse comes last. IMHO other forms of sex such as partner (and/or mutual) masturbation and oral are a heluva lot of fun in and of themselves. I love bringing my man to orgasm in one of these ways and then play with the cum.

For instance the other week my boyfriend stripped down to his briefs, in anticipation of intercourse I guess, while I was in bed waiting for him in my altogether. In a playful mood I sat on the edge of the bed and started playing with him through his briefs before he could strip them off, straightening him up and teasing him with little bites along the cottony length of it and other stuff like that.

Knowing that the longer I teased the greater his ejaculation, I kept on at this while nipping and licking his belly until his erection, straining from the inside, had his briefs gaping open at both legs and the waist. I had already decided I wanted to finish him off like this so I put one of my hands through one leg opening to cup his testicles and the other hand through the other leg opening to stroke him to completion.

At the end of it I pushed him up through the waist and took him in my mouth. I don't think I have ever heard him bellow so loudly as when he cut loose, nor could I contain all of his cum, so the major part of it splattered on my face and body. We both had fun playing with that until he recovered enough to return the favor.

I like intercourse as much as the next girl, but you can probably tell I like other stuff equally as well.

Is it alright to post stuff like this in here?

 

^ I certainly enjoyed reading it

 

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