Sex in your relationship.

My girlfriend and I love each other very much, but there is one thing that is constantly an issue in our relationship.

I want to have sex nearly constantly, every day and if I could more then once a day. She typically wants to have sex more infrequently, and often finds sex to be something that happens at certain times, and for certain reasons, not just to have sex.

She tries very hard to please me, but it just feels like I am never satisfied, that never actually get it as much as I want it, and it feels like I never will. This puts constant strain on this relationship and to me it is getting very tiresome. Especially because most of the time she has sex with me for ME, it seems like rarely ever its for her. That starts to make me feel like I am using her and I hate it.

My main question is, of all the couples out there, how often do you have sex? daily? weekly? every chance you get? Am I just a sex addicted madman who could never be satisfied or am I not alone. Girls, how often do you usually want it in a relationship? Is it usually just the guys who want it all the time?

I am going crazy here and I just want to know if this is all just in me, or if others have this issue too.

Frustrated.

 

i can see how your pissed.
thats just sucks. In my opinion it should be at least once a day or so.

I dont see how ppl see sex as something they have to do

 

^ Me either.

This is the same problem I had with my ex. And it was one of the factors that ended up driving us apart. He wanted to have sex a lot (and would never tell me) and I never really wanted to. It largely had to do wityh the fact that I wasn't very sexually attracted to him, but I would have sex with him out of love most of the time. He said it felt like he had to force me to have sex. In the end we couldn't fix it no matter what we did. I loved him to death but we ended up breaking up...

 

I like it everyday

 

Is your girlfriend on birth control? Sometimes certain types of birth control weaken your sex drive. I was on a birth control that weakened my sex drive and ruined a past relationship. Now I am with a different guy and am on a different birth control. I only see him on the weekends because we live an hour away from each other. We have sex about 3 or 4 times each day we're together. I kind of like it this way. I feel like we enjoy everything a lot more. Maybe you see each other too much?

 

The pill completely killed my sex drive, I didn't even realize how much it actually affected my body until I stopped taking it. So yeah, it's a possibility. But it's also important for you to understand that not everyone has a high sex drive to begin with, people are different.. and not everyone is sexually compatible..

Generally, my partner and I have sex everyday. Sometimes, several times a day, sometimes we go a few days without having any.. We're very much in tune when it comes to our moods so it works perfectly.

 

Pretty jealous Kozmic.

She doesn't take birth control for other reasons. It makes her gain weight and stuff.

I totally understand that everyone is different, I just hate that me and her are. I would be totally happy with needing sex less, I couldn't care less, but the fact is that I get stressed out and frustrated when I don't get it enough.

It totally sucks, I wish there was something I could do to fix this because it is really the only problem we have in this relationship.

Oh well. I guess we'll just have to see if it works itself out.

 

Can you talk to your girlfriend about this? I know it's a cliche but communication really is the key..

 

in my relationships, i've always had a far greater sex drive than my partner. all i can say is, in my experience there's not too much you can do about it but accept it or move on.

 

Maybe it's just completely boring. Do you try the same old thing every single time or do you try to spice it up every now and then? That's been my case lately, I've been SO bored with sex because it's the same thing and I always get my jollies, but damn...you have to make it interesting every now and then, or it does become "just a chore".

 

true enough!!

 

In the past I have been with people who pressured me and it made me want sex even less. In fact, it made me leave two of the people I was with. I've also been with people who had a lower sex drive than me and after having those relationships I have learned it's imperative not to pressure them for sex. I am on anti-depressants now, so it's easy to not rape my husband when he doesn't feel like it.
My adivce? Stop asking or insinuating sex and she'll start wanting it.
I have sex with my husband once, maybe twice a month, but it's the best relationship ever. We're intimate, we just don't have sex a lot, but when we have it, it's the best sex ever.

 

some people just don't like to have sex as often as other people do. there doesn't have to be anybody to blame. humans just have differences, that's all.

last time i was married, i wanted to have sex daily but he only liked having sex about twice a week. we both enjoyed it immensely, that wasn't the issue.

 

I want it when I want it, that is, when I'm in the mood. But that isn't very often, once a week. Still I pleasure my man three or four times a week. Even though the sex is for him and not for me, I like to make him happy and sex does that. And when he is happy, it makes me happy, so really I do get something out of it.

You shouldn't feel bad, instead find ways to thank her that you know will please her. Don't only do things you like to do as well, as she does far more than that for you. Her seeing how grateful you are, and the fact that you're willing to do something you don't like for her will make her feel even better about having sex with you. Jey, she may even want to thank you with some nice lovin'.

 

If you're together then you should be having it everyday. My ex gf counted that we had sex 45 times in our first 2 weeks together.

 

In almost all the relationships I've been in, I've wanted to have sex more often than the sister involved. I long to meet a sister that wants to have sex like, every day, or several times a day like I'd like to, because otherwise I end up feeling like I'm always wanting it, and bothering her. I don't like that feeling.

 

Hey When I was with my Ex We still lived with our parents so It was kind of hard to sneck around.. We would do it everytime we got a chance... Hey we even did it at a park.. You name any public place and we did it.. But I guess it kinda does depends on the girl and what her standards are... Some times it the thrill that excits one.. I just think she is boring....

 

maybe you should try doing things differently, to spice up the relationship..?

*cough* sex in public FTW *cough*

 

i usually have sex two or three times a day. i think i actually want sex more often than my boyfriend. probably because i think sex is a perfectly good pastime. if we're not doing anything else, isn't sex a better option than watching tv or something? might as well have sex, right? or if we're just sitting around sometimes we'll start making out and he'll get a boner and we'll be like, "what the hell" and have a quickie. sometimes we don't even cum, we're just like, "okay, got that outta my system!"

 

There is nothing wrong with you. She doesn't like sex as often as you do. The bad news is that it may not change. One thing i can tell you though, when this happened to me with my first girlfriend... it was a pleasant surprise to find out via the following one that there were attractive females that wanted sex as much or more than me. That really changed the picture.

The girls who want sex more than your girlfriend, the ones who want it a lot, they are just as human, just as interesting, just as much potentially people with whom you could fall in love. So it's a great discovery.