Self-conscious about my body

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You could always throw up a picture and we could all tell ya.

 

You put way too much importance in looks. Looks are a very small part of a relationship. Just because tou are thin doesn't mean you look gay. I know alot of gay men and most of them aren't thin or small. One of best friends Henry is a tall big guy you would never know by looking at him that he is gay... Looks don't say much about a person.

 

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Sorry to break it to you Chris, but if you plan on getting married and having children - your wife's body is going to be like a big bear eventually in some point in her life. Get used to it.

The only reason you don't like thicker women or taller women is because of your own insecurities and issues you have in comparison to them. In other words, it's not them - it's YOU - who has the problem.

That makes you pathetic because you refuse to deal with them, own up to them and face them.

If you can't accept the female body and unconventional figures of beauty, then how do you expect a woman to ever love you in return?

You need to do some serious soul searching, some reaching out, some broadening of your horizons. Make haste, and get out there.

 

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Hi again It's normal for guys to want to be bigger than their girlfriends, but if you place importance on girl's looks you also should place the same importance on your own and be proactive in obtaining the body you want.
I'm going to try to put this in a positive light. If you're naturally light and skinny why not use that to your advantage and start running? Just make tiny goals and reward yourself when you achieve them. This is going to sound immature but when I gained weight from having a cast on I took the reinforcement cards I used for the kids and kept one in my car to monitor my progress. Every aerobics class I went to i put a sticker over the day and I felt really good doing that. Now I reward myself with things like manicures, a cd I want etc. I bought myself a pair of sunglasses last week that I had wanted for months. Just silly things like that, that I don't need but really want.

 

I wish Fitzy was here. I am sure he could give you some great advice on how to make you feel better about yourself and start exercising.

 

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why don't you self-indulge yourself? Be honest with yourself (you don't have to type back an answer or be honest with me). Is it because you do not feel like you deserve to indulge yourself, is it because you have a hard time feeling joy in anything or is it because you like to lead a minimalist lifestyle? If it's the later that's great but if it's the first two ask yourself why you feel that way and be honest with yourself.

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If you want others to accept you the way you are then you need to accept others the way they are. Does that make sense? Accepting people attract accepting friends.

 

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everything means something, nothing means nothing. if you don't give yourself credit you won't do them. If you're not going to give yourself credit who the hell will?

It's not patronizing it's valueing yourself and believing that you are important enough to deserve good things-not just material things, but a better body, a healthier mind. You deserve that, we all deserve that.

 

Chris - you are only 17, and probably a very young looking 17, so don't sweat what your body looks like. When I was your age, I was 6'2" and maybe 125 lbs, terribly skinny and looked 15. I remember, because I worked in a mountain hut for the summer, and I could pack my weight.

Now I am 6'2", 190 lbs, mostly muscle, and the girls say I am a hunk for my age. So what goes around, comes around. Many of the guys your age who are now good-looking hunks will be fat and bald in 20 years.

 

I feel very similar. I have a masculine body. I feel sometimes that without my breasts and vagina- I was meant to be a guy. Its a terrible feeling, that you are not in the right place/body. Please- do not be discouraged.