Basically, my best friend has been really annoying to me lately. He seems to be transforming into the complete opposite of what he used to be and he has become arrogant. He always tells me that I need to try and fit in more by cutting my hair as short as his is, and to start wearing Hollister clothes and find a job, girlfriend, etc. I personally don't feel that any of these things are important for I'm only 16 (turning 17 tommorow by the way) and I'm still a kid. I just try to be myself whenever possible and when I tell him that, he chastises me for it. He tries to change me a lot and I hate it, but I don't really want to abandon a friendship for something as small as him trying to make me into something that "the ladies will love." Does anyone please have some advice for how I can handle this situation it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Cody
When someone tries to change another into something that they are, what they're generally looking for is confirmation and support for the choices they have made. Be supportive of your friend but remind him that you are you. You could no more be him than he could be you. Hopefully, there will still be room for friendship between you, but at your age, both you and he will be going through even more changes in the years to come.
:iagree:Couldn't have said it better. Unfortunately, friends do grow apart. Hope your friendship lasts or even adjusts into some new level that will last but your instincts are good not to attempt to remold yourself to your friends expectations. I have followed that belief for a long time and am comfortable with myself. Even in marriage two ppl are not the same. If the differences are tolerable it works but it takes both ppl seeing the other as an individual. So, to quote a philosopher more ancient than me, "To thine own self be true." OH, yeah, HAPPY BIRTHDAY CODY!! (A fellow Scorpio)
