save my relationship

hello everyone i really need some help im very depressed. Me and my boyfriend were engaged to be married on july 30th. but i had called off the wedding because all he wanted to do is party and get drunk. wich is normally ok with me but we just had a baby and i dont think its right to be partying around the baby. and i dont think he should go out without me . anyways we got into a big fight over him partying so he left and dident come home till 3 in the morning.then the next day he got up at 10 in the morning and left again without saying anything to me and dident come home till 10 o clock that night.i asked him if he was with other girls at all and he said no. but today my mom had called him and asked if he still loved me and wanted to be with me and he said yes. but when i called him back he dident even want to talk to me so i asked him again if he wanted to be with me and all he said was that he dont give a fuck what i do.so i said ok and told him that i loved him and he said it back and then hung up.

so do any of u know what the deal is? is he just throwing a fit because i called of the wedding or does he just not want to be with me. i mean he still said that he loved me but he is acting so strange somone please help i need some advice my heart is breaking thanx a bunch.

 

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Seriously princess, that blue on blue font is kind of hard on the eyes.


You might get more responses if you make it a little easier to read.

 

is that better

 

Only a little. Black print's still the easiest.

 

dont get married to that fool. im sure you can do better than his ass, he isnt even trying to do better for the kid

 

im not one to judge or say jack about relationships or love any thing involving anything involing any thing along those lines. but if he wants to party instead than be by his fionce, and by his child i dont think he deserves some as you taht cares so much.

 

You called off the wedding, and your pregnant, and you don't want him to party? Those things together could be bugging him. Maybe hes a moron, I don't know.

 

I agree, sorta.

 

I don't know. If I were you, I'd try to just think for my child.

 

he is a moron if he doesnt realize that partying around a baby is bad. So many bad things could happen. I would try to talk to him in person not on the phone because you really cant see his expression or reactions on the phone. Mayeb he is just havin a fit but whatever it is you need to tell him to grow if he has a baby.

 

sounds to me as if he isn't ready to be a father. Likes making babies, but different story about taking care of em.

I'd concentrate on the baby and forget him.

 

i agree with that. You have a priority now. Not him but the baby. Whatever you do just make sure that you are happy with it

 

The way I see it, he isn't ready to be a husband yet. He seems to still be in the fase of his life where he cares most about himself, and let's his responsibility to his wife and child come second. When you get married you can occasionally go out and have fun, but to go out early and come back 'after dark' without your spouse knowing anything day in day out is silly. Is your husband still a teenager? Doesn't he have a job?

 

well it seems like everyone has the same opinon and that is to forget about him but that is really hard for me to do we have been together for 3 years and i love him soooo much. but he is acting so wiered like usually everytime we get off the phone he tells me he loves me and now he dont. maybe he is really stressed and thats y he is doing all this. he just lost his job today. do u think thats y he is doing all this???

 

only u know that...we cant tell u that from this information. u know what kind of person he is

 

Dump Him

 

aw, you love him SOOO much.


How about this? LOVE YOUR CHILD!!

Give your baby every chance s/he deserves and get out of this relationship.

Having a baby means making sacrifices for your child. This one will hurt but you have to do it. If you don't, it's only being selfish and putting your childish "I need a man to love me" needs over your child's safety.

 

I agree with HeadyMoeChick. You have a child now-what's in their best interest comes first.

 

when i first read this and you said that he's been acting soooo different, well he's probably hurt and confused. you guys were supposed to be getting married in a month and you called it off. i think that would really mess with his head in itself... plus all the other things everybody else mentioned...