ok, i hate to talk about this, even thinking gets me upset but it's just holding on and i have to say something. when i was 8 or 9 years old my uncle started to uh um "sexually assualt me".it wasn't until i was 12 that i told a friend who told her mom who of course told my parents. i took him to court and got him in jail for 16 months (i think he gets out this month). after this i was basically driven insane. i tried to kill myself, i was always depressed and i can no longer stand older men (they frighten the hell out of me). now about 3 months have passed since my last attempt and im on the path to no longer being suicidle however i do still have a problem. recently, iv'e been having dreams about him. sometimes he kills my family,once my family said they had forgiven him and were going to allow him back into the house and another time he killed my dog. i told my therapist about these freaky slide shows as i sleep but i was wondering if anybody else has an opinion, has gone through this or knows somebody else who has....please help!
let me guess...your uncle threatened things that were dear to you to keep you quiet, right? Thats an abusers way to keep you quiet, they like to get under your skin...don't let him do it to you. You were young and its not your fault hes in trouble now so tell yourself its ok and you don't need to punish yourself by thinking now hes going to do something to you. Did you tell your parents all this? Maybe they can do something to make you feel safer. Do you have a house alarm? I hope things get better for you.
I know how you feel. The same thing happened to me when I was a little girl. The man who did it was my stepfather. He was sent to jail and my mother divorced him. I struggled with it for years. I was afraid of men, had horrible nightmares, etc. And just when I finally felt like I was getting over it...my mom got back together with him. That was 4 years ago and she's still with him. He's brainwashed her into thinking that it never happened. And I can't even express how difficult its been to deal with that. But finally I realized something...the past is the past. And what's in the past doesn't have to affect you today. That's good that you're going to therapy...keep going. And you will get through it. If I could get through it then so can you. It happens to too many girls. I think you'd be surprised how many it happens to. Don't let that jerk affect you for the rest of your life! Just hang in there and know that you're not alone.
i'm so sorry to hear about that, it's horrible. anyone who does that kind of thing desrves to be shot. i'm fucking serious.
man that must of seriously screwed up ur life, one thing i find funny however is that people that actually have problems(like you) hate to talk about them while other people have no problem bitching and complainging about their so called problems. Advice well even if he does get out of jail i don't think u'll ever see him again i dought ur family would forgive him for that. Try not to worry about it(though it must be hard not too) peace
I'm sorry to hear that a person like your uncle will ever be allowed on the street again. Have you thought about finding a support group? I bet that would really help you. If you found support from others that have been in similar situations you might feel safer. I'm sure you parents will protect you from your uncle. I'm sure you will protect yourself! Bless you....sending lots of positive peaceful energy your way.
I was raped when I was 15 and I totally understand what you are going through...like even when it seems like you are dealing with it well on the out side at night thoughts surface. It does get easier, but it wont ever go away completely even now sometimes a certain phrase or look or touch will make me gasp. But it never lasts long and I can move past it...and in time the dreams will subside and you be on the path to recovery. If you need someone to talk to, drop me a line. Im here for you sister. Sasha
i know how you feel, 2 years ago i had the same problem.. and it still haunts me, and now i dont trust people as much... i dont know really how to put it in words because ive kept quiet since the whole event
My uncle didnt do that to me but my ex-boyfreind did when i was 15, he said the same things and of course me being stupid i didnt tell b/c he treaten to kill my grandma know i wish i told b/c i have a hard times with things, but i honsetly couldn't tell you what to do b/c i didnt do nothing you did more than me.......
Well, not that it's my business, but I think that if you're struggling with it then bringing it out into the open, hard as it may be, might end up helping you feel alot better about it and yourself.
Hon you got to let your fear go. Your Uncle is NOT going to come back to kill you all for putting him in jail. He understands what he did and he knows he was punished for just cause. Sure he was upset and mad at getting caught but he wont blame you cause he knows he did wrong. But your having this rough time not just because of what he did but because your scared. its ok. thats normal. But you need to understand its normal and reconise it as just a fear and try not to be afraid of fear itself. Its eating you up inside. Let it go, Move on in your life and know that even if you stand befor your uncle again some day that nothing shall come of it. Look him in the eyes and acknowlage to him that he's not ever to touch you again and he needs to move on and you are putting him behind you. He's been punished and you need to accept that. Just let the fears go . Just let the fears go. its hard, yes.. but you have to let it go or you will die for sure. I truely hope you overcome your fears. Lust started you on this horrid path in life but to turn your own self away from the joys of lust is the worst crime of all. I would offer you a hug but I fear you would be frightened of even that. My heart goes out to you. good luck on finding the path to happiness.
