i was thinking about this earlier today, and i was wondering (comparing the situation to a potential guy) if there is such thing as the right person, but the wrong time. yesterday, me and my friend went out to eat and were talking about relationships, and she said the 'right person wrong time' thing. thats when i realized that its either i dont understand exactly what that means, or i just dont believe in it. i mean, i honestly believe (and hope i can one day prove) that when theres the right person, their the right person period - despite the condition your heart is in or relationship status; when you meet the right person they will always be right for you no matter if your ready to dive into a relationship or not, because he/she is also your greatest friend and something like that is unconditional and wont be influenced by outter forces. what do you think??
I had to face it that I could date the right person but I was in a wrong time. because I had no car and she is far away. so we wait and both of us now have a car.
I believe in the "right place, wrong time" thing. I've been in that situation already, and it wasnt fun. My dad died 2 weeks before she told me she was interested, and I was messed up beyond belief. Needless to say I wasn't ready to see anyone. Now's the right time, and she isnt here anymore.
may i say that i believe u're both missin out Adgreyga's point... i may be wrong, but the things u said dont mean the person wasnt right for u. the fact that life isnt makin things easy for u to date someone doesnt make the person not right for u. and if they're not here for u when u're finally able to date them then they probably just werent the right person. so yea, i do agree with Adgreyga, if someone is right for u, they're right for u period.
Well, there are circumstances in someone's lives that make being in a relationship hard, just like the examples above. And they have nothing to do with being the right person or not. It's a personal choice, to still try for realtionship or not. I met the man I am with about 6 years ago, and we lived 500 km appart. And we were close, but only saw each other once a year, and so we kept dating other people, I even had another relationship, and totally lost the other guy. I moved, and my other realtionship broke, now we still live far from each other, but only 200 km, but now, that we're both older, have more experience, and know what we want, it'S working out despite the distance! So there is something like the wrong time, but right person thing.
yeah, exactly. thanks for the responces but it wasnt what i meant. maybe its me who wasnt clear, but what crayola said also sums what i mean; that the person that is right is right no matter the condition, and in the worst case you'll have/need time apart but will come back to each other, but not in an ike and tina way, though.
i completely believe in the "right person wrong time" deal. even though it may seem like its not true, trust me it is. it all depends how we grow and change. as we grow our ideal, beliefs, behaviour, thinking, etc... changes. our feelings switch around according to our reaction to our lives. sometimes other people will end up switching around to match us. others may end up matching who we may have been in the past. it is those people who we have missed out on that seem right to us, but in fact are completely different than what we are at the time. i know this may sound confusing but i dont know any other way to word it. i hope it helps.
I believe in the right person, wrong time thing as well. I am kind of in a situation like it right now...
I believe in the right person wrong time deal....I'm going through it right now as we speak. I met the man of my dreams a little over a month ago...and for that whole month we spent just about everyday together....and it was insane...b/c we had talked online once...and decided hey, why not meet up...it can just be a good date, good friends thing....and it ended up being MORE....once we laid eyes on each other we knew that we belonged together no matter what....and we still feel the same way.... Only thing is...we met on April 18th...exactly a month later...May 18th he was taken away from me due to deployment to Afghanistan for a whole freaking year. He's in the 82nd Airborne, a paratrooper in the army.....and he's gone until next May. Talk about the wrong damn time????? But the thing is I'd wait for him 5 years if I had to. I've dated so many people in my life...and NONE, not even one compares to this guy. I love him with all of my heart and I know it will work out. I just pray for him all of the time for his safety and that he will return to me. And something else about the wrong time.... before I met him...i moved home from college b/c i'm joining the air force...well I'm not leaving until the end of the summer or in the Fall for basic training out in Texas and then I gotta go through tech school which will either be a few months to almost a year either in California or Texas...and when Brandon comes home...he's getting out of the army and going to college either in NC or SC....so still the timing will totally suck....but all I want to do now is wait for him and marry this guy and have so many kids with him I never thought I'd ever say that but I just did and it feels great! As long as something is meant to be...IT WILL HAPPEN....and i pray everyday that this will happen for me and my love!
