Questioning Sexuality and... where are pretty bi or gay girls hiding?

OP is questioning her sexuality.

I like guys, but for some reason, I only orgasm when I think of girls. I only feel truly turned on by the thought of a passionate emotional connection with a feminine girl. It takes a rare guy for me to fall in love with him, but it happens every once in a blue moon.

Question: Where the hell are pretty lesbians? Are pretty girls that like girls hidden, because straight guys hound after them anyway, so they're able to cover it up and have no need to delve into the social stigma while pretending to be straight?

I'm tired of getting crushes on straight, pretty girls, but I don't want to go for an ugly girl, either. (I know inner beauty is skin deep, but I have to discriminate when it comes to who I hook up with.)

Sincerely,
Every pretty girl I meet is "straight" even if she gives off bi or gay vibes.

 

Well I'm not really sure about the luck you've had, but the few lesbian/bisexual friends that I do have are most certainly pretty. ^_^
I think maybe you need to keep looking, and not to expect things to fall in your lap that easily, but I do understand where you're coming from and I know its tough to wait out for things sometimes. =(
And hey, I don't deserve to be put on a pedestal anywhere, but I don't think I'm appaling-looking either, and I swing both ways, lol. ^_^

 

I guess I'm a pretty lesbian, although I'm short and have small breasts. I'm in a relationship with a pretty attractive woman who does not have gay vibes.

My advice is to go to a gay bar and check out the women there.

Good luck.

 

I'm guessing OP can't get into bars.
Stop looking, they'll find you. If you're looking for attractive people, you're not gonna find any. don't even look for gay/bi people. Just talk to people, and you'll make a connection with one of them.

 

I have a similar thing. Allthough i am bi if i'm masturbating i'm only thinking about girls

 

The thing is...your heart chooses who it loves....not your eyes. I feel the same way as you..... as i am 35 years old and can count on 1 hand how many women i can say that i was actually sexually attracted to in my life and i was born gay. And..man are there lots of women out there who think they are the shit...and aint worth stepping in it for? I learned that the attraction of the woman isn't all it's cracked up to be as it is her aura (i can't spell) and the chemicals she gives you by simply walking in the room. I pined for years to be with the sexiest..classiest..high-heel..lipstick..blonde..tall..long beautiful legs...my wish came true...she "LOVED" me.....and then she broke me. Clearly...a pretty head doesn't make a pretty heart. I would die for this same woman...yet she could care less really whether i'm alive now. Be careful just looking for those pretty heads...make sure her heart is just as beautiful. Good luck to ya.

 

That's very true lost1975 and well put. Sorry to hear about what happened to you..

 

Thanks..dark. I am not sorry...i still got to be with the woman of my dreams..even if it was short lived...was the happiest time of my life...no matter how heartbroken ...i know someday i'll have to move on. If OP is looking for beauty...she has to take chances..if you question a moment...seize it! The best things in life..never come easy....and you have to get while the gettin is good. Attitude is everything...confidence is always sexy to any woman...gay or straight.

 

I am feminine and also attracted to feminine girls and not butch girls, and I have always had lots of trouble finding other femme girls who liked femme girls. It seems like all the pretty girly ones were only into butch girls. Is that your problem? I feel like it's hard to be a "lipstick" lesbian, because it's not completely obvious that you're gay like it is for butch women. I have pretty much never been hit on by a woman. I am always the pursuer. I guess people not knowing instantly that I'm gay probably has it's perks too, but not when trying to meet girls!

 

@lost1975: the best thing about love is....it happened.irrespective of the pain it causes..it rocks :2thumbsup:

 

I am Bi and also only Orgasm when I think of women. I knew I liked women a long time ago, but ended up marrying a man. Now I am in a happy relationship with a woman. There was this longing for her for a year when I was still married but she is the best thing that has EVER happened to me!
I wouldn't say that I am pretty, but she does and I find her attractive. Everything about her is attractive.

 

i know one pretty lesbian. the rest look like men.

 

Whatever you do don't hook up with someone you met online...it never works out.