Question

I didn't have a girlfriend or any real kind of female contact till i was about 19. I looked at pornography from about the age of 13 non stop.

Sometimes, being in a relationship, I feel more comftorble with Porn, and say, watching a girl masturbate in porn, i enjoy. But if i'm watching my girlfriend masturbate I get kind of uncomftorble. Is this normal?

Sometimes I find it hard to get turned on when another person is there because i've been so used to getting "in the mood" on my own.

 

Yeah, I'd say that's pretty normal, but keep going and you'll get more comfortable as time goes by.

I remember feeling pretty weird the first time I tried a few things, like going down on my girl, but over time it got better and better.

 

It's the same way you get to Carnegie Hall... practice, practice, practice!

It's all a learned embarassment response. For years you did it and tried to not be seen. Now you need to understand that you're there for your girlfriend as well as for yourself. She sounds comfortable with herself and you... try to follow her lead. She's not embarassed by it, so just remember that she's in the same spot as you. If she's not worried, why should you be? She wants you to enjoy yourself... you want her to enjoy herself. Try concentrating on giving her pleasure... listen to her, both what she may say and the non-verbal responses like moans and purrs, and use them as your guide. If you are focused on her, it should make you less worried about the focus being on you. And it will make you a more attentive partner at the same time, which is the name of the game in the long run.

Hope this works well for you.

 

Thanks for the responses!