Question for the Men

I was wondering if men don't mind a woman with not too many
sexual partners? I have only been with 2 people. usually by my
age women have had a lot more.

 

Are you kidding? That's a good thing!

 

As long as you make the effort to be good in bed.

Don't forget there are a lot of men who have only had a couple partners too.

 

Ummm, are you serious? Haha, thats what we WANT. Yes, by all means its fine!

 

I am happy to hear that men don't mind. I wouldn't want a man that had

many many partners either, that's just the way I feel.

 

Your question got me thinking. Every so often, someone starts a thread asking "Do men (or women) want a woman (or man) like me?", ususaly about something that can't be changed.

Which is a little weird, because I can't see anyone posting an answer, "no, all men hate women like you. Get thee to a nunnery!"

From which I conclude that the question is not from curiosity, but a way to get people to reafirm that the questioner is a good person. Kind of the opposite of the "collective chritisism" sessions during the Chinese Cultural Revolution.

What about our culture pushes people to go to the internet for affirmation that they are OK?

 

thats alright. but it is about a tenth as important as say your weight.

 

This is probably one of the most sane, provocative and thoughtful posts I've read on Hip.

 

No, I don't need affirmation that I am a good person from people, I know that I

am a good person! I was just asking a question. lol

 

I think most men would prefer their girlfriends to have had very few partners, BUT you still need to be adventurous in bed. I guess you could say I like my girls kinky but inexperienced (madonna and whore in one).

 

Yes, you are entitled to ask a question. And my answer is pretty much the same with the rest; it doesn't matter at all. Keep your chin up!

 

Have you been living under a rock? It's the general sentiment that women who have NOT had many sexual partners are the kind of woman a man takes home to see Mama, spawns with, marries etc etc.

If anything, if a woman has too many partners, she's even degraded and thought of as something negative.

 

Hi Mike, I'm wondering why you limited this statement to the internet. People do this in real life all the time. Haven't you seen it? People, in general, are always looking for positive affirmations from others. It makes them feel good. That is, of course, for people who care what other people think.

 

thanks, you are smart!

 

Haha, I don't think repeating what everyone else has said can be considered as "smart"... But hey, thanks!

 

Perhaps its a generational thing, but I find getting emotional support from a computer screen very odd.

People getting emotional validation from other people is different from getting it from anonomous strangers at the other end of a web forum. (IMO) It may be that younger people would be less willing to call other forumers "anonomous".

 

maybe we should contact Dr. Phil and see what he thinks? lol

 

I kind of see what you're saying. But I will say that most people get emotional validation from their friends. And most times, their friends are just saying things to make the person feel better. In a way, getting the emotional support from the computer screen is almost a little more gratifying. These aren't your friends. And they still are validating you. But again, I see what you're saying. (like the validation?)

 

I guess my point was that people seeking emotional affermation from the internet are lacking it from their friends. This is from my point of view that the internet is very very far from in-person interatction. I suspect that there are people who see the difference between internet and in-person as smaller than I see it. It also might be an age thing. People who text messaged in algebra class probably have a different attitude towards the internet and personal relationships through it than people my age.

 

I think it also has to do with what kind of life situations they have to live in as well. I myself have been away from my offline friends for years now, and I have yet to meet a new one offline with whom I can really connect. And then there are my net-friends whom I've been friends with for years. Not to mention pretty much the only way I can contact my OFFline friends without having to pay long-distance charges all the time is via the internet as well. I used to be a little unsure about the whole internet thing, but I no longer really think anything unnatural of it.