ok so me and my girl have been going for a few weeks now, and when she strokes me i get hard as a rock, but then when it finally comes to putting it in, i completely loose it... im talking a massive uturn. i am a virgin, so im guessing its the anxiety of it all.. but i really wanna fuck her, and shes turns me on like crazy.. but he keeps letting me down. twice its happened now.. arghh!
it's all in the mental pressure--i had the same problem my first time. it's performance anxiety. you gotta relax and tell yourself that it doesn't matter whether you get hard or not. if you learn to not attach something to the outcome, then you'll get hard and it will work. it's only temporary. i imagine this happens to lots of guys especially the first time.
Dude, it's just nervousness and anxiety. It's happened to me before. I once was going with this girl and she would do all kinds of sex stuff, but she had this thing about intercourse. She had told me about her great sex experiences with other guys before meeting me, but somewhere along the line she had got into Jesus and got some kind of religion. So when I met her, her being into this Jesus thing caused her to think that now intercourse was some kind of sin or something, yet she didn’t have a problem having sex in other ways. Really stupid, imo, but anyway, one evening she must have been pretty horny and we decided to meet in the office where I worked, but after hours when nobody was there. She got on top of my desk where I ate her out, then she wanted to suck me off. She did it for a while, but before I was ready to cum, she decided that it would be OK to have intercourse. We were going to do it right there on my desk. I was so excited that finally she was going to let me do it. But as soon as we got into position, I lost my erection. I tried and tried but couldn’t get it back. In fact, our intercourse that I’d wanted so long and that she’d held out on so long never happened that night – or ever. We broke up not long after that.
Holy de ja vu Batman! The exact samething happened to me about a month ago, I'm talking to a T. Happened to me twice as well. She'd touch me and massive hardage but when I got the condom and went to stick it in, it was as limp as a noodle. Could never figure out why either, even after several attempts to get it back up. Glad to see I'm not the only one this has happened to. Never had this issue with my previous girlfriends though. Anyway to cut a long story short I only got 2 chances and now the girl doesn't even talk to me not because of me not being able to get it up but due to other shit going down and her being a **** about it all.
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Silly christian, religion is for kids! God I love christians, love to mess with them, really fun too since they are so closed minded about well everything really.
my boyfriend was like that at a point. He was just so excited it all got ontop of him and he lost it. Those were the days when we were using condoms and it took him quite along time to get it on,lol. but yeah. just keep your cool, try not to lose concentraition!
i was with a girl once.. and that happened to me a few times.. she was all upset like "its my fault" yadda yadda... and i was like "no its mine" and well she was just layin around like a beached seal waitin for me to get her off... fuck that it goes both way... so what i said was one thing... what i thought was "well bitch... if you'd actually do something as well... i might stay excited"... since then.. meaning... not with her anymore... i havent had this problem
yeah thats true aswell. when my boyfriend used to lose it i would just think it was my fault. but most of the time what it happends its not.
