Pregnant and Happy but having some issues... help?

Ok. I'm 7 weeks (and 1 day) pregnant and I'm very ready for what's happening to me and my body. I believe more women need to learn how to understand their bodies and I'm planning on having a natural birth with a midwife and am very interested in attachment parenting and breastfeeding. I can't wait to embark on this journey...

My problem is that my boyfriend and I have only been together a short amount of time... technically given the way pregnancy weeks are counted from the first day of your last period, I've been pregnant since the day we started spending time together!
I didn't plan on getting pregnant so soon but I'm glad it's his. I love him to bits, I've never met anyone like him. the way he thinks and the way he talks about things is beautiful... he wants to live simply, like i do. farming vegetables, living out in the woods somewhere with chickens and goats and living off the land and our own resources (though that's something we'd really have to work on)

HOWEVER... ever since finding out I'm pregnant he's been so insensitive to my feelings. he doesn't ask me how i feel, he doesn't seem to care about what I'm going through. He gets upset with me when I have mood swings or when I miss class because I can't get out of bed(i barely could before i was pregnant, now I'm tired all the time and can't sleep well at all)

Also, I'm on the other side of the province, 9 hours away from my family (mom, sister and aunt) my mom is very important to me and I really want to be near her... Also, the town we're in (I came here to go to school, and he's from here) has very little in the way of resources, whereas I'm from the city and I would hve access to a midwife, prenatal yoga, etc etc and would feel far more confident and better about the pregnancy if I could go home...

I can't go home because my boyfriend has until april left to his program and I don't want to be away from him. I want him involved in the pregnancy and I want to bouild on our relationship because I know we would make aa wonderful family if he would just smarten up and be mature more than 25% of the time. he's goofy sometimes, and that's fun, but not when you're waalking past mcdonalds gagging and trying not to throw up...

I know he's trying to be supportive by going to help me buy prenatal vitamins and telling me i should walk to keep my legs strong etc etc. but he's not supportive when i need him to be, he thinks that because both of his sisters have both had babies, he knows EVERYTHING about being pregnant, and it's extremely irritating because he said himself that his sisters were a certain way because they're from the ghetto and he even told me his middle sister smoked while pregnant... and he thinks she's the best mom in the world...

I love him so much and i want him to be in the baby's life, but I can't help but feel like I'd be able to handle this pregnancy so much better without him holding me back telling me once in a while how i should and should not do things. I know what to do. it comes naturally....

if you read all that... thank you so much I really need some advice...
I'm going to talk to his mom later today because a good friend of ours said i should because she's an awesome lady and she might put him in his place... or at least offer me some advice... she raised 3 kids on her own AND both her daughters have no man in their baby's lives.

part of the problem is i don't want to tell my mom over the phone and have to wait until i go home for christmas so i can tell her in person... and without her knowing and being able to give me support and advice, it's very hard being here in this situation...

thanks for any advice

 

Sorry I dont have advice and it wont let me rep but you're username is badass. :2thumbsup:

I read it though, just stay strong.

 

So you have only been together for 7 weeks? How old are you both?

That is an awful lot to expect from a guy who you hardly know. He is probably terrified. That baby isn't just happening to you, you need to be supportive of him as well. Why does he need to ask how you are feeling all the time? Do you ask how he is feeling?

And if your family is far away, he may be concerned that you will decide to "go home" and he'll never see his child, but be paying for it for the next 18 years.

You need to sit and talk about this, but don't make it all about you or you may find yourself alone.

 

Sorry, I haven't been on here in a while... since i wrote this, i had to move back home to be with my family and friends... I tried and tried to get through to the father of my baby but he doesn't want to grow up and take this seriously...
He's an alcoholic and My stepfather was an alcoholic and i watched what he put my mother through for years and i learned from her to know better than to spend my life wishing it would change.
There was too much hurt involved so I decided that the best thing I can do for myself and my child is to get away from the pain and stress and make a life for me and my child.

I know I'm better off raising this baby on my own.

 

I'm glad you realize that. It's easier to raise a child alone when you are strong and happy then to depend on someone else. Now that you are pregnant you have to move on for yourself. I was worried that you had put your life on hold for him. That would have put you in the situation to be isolated and possibly get depressed, or even abused. Really you didnt know that much about him. It sounded sketchy. But I know the first few months of a relationship can be pretty intense.

 

I think that is the best for you and the child, take care of your self