ladies, if your significant other had some porn mags, how would it make you feel? would you be against it or would you buy them for him/her? do you feel like these magazines are acceptable, or detrimental to how society views women? please discuss.
well in the past i would have been upset and threw a big fit. Now i would just ask him about it then leave it at that. not a big deal its just visual stimulation.
My boyfriend doesn't like porn, so I really don't worry about it. But, no, I wouldn't buy it for him if he liked it, but I wouldn't get pissed if he had it. He still comes home to me every night.
I would be pissed off my my husband was hiding it, but I know its normal for a man to want to look at it, so it'd be my problem.
Not sure where we get the notion that 'It's normal' and 'It's what men do' from exactly. It's only acceptable if you can tolerate it.
Normal is a relative word. What is normal anyways.... Anywho back on subject, I don't think it's a terrible thing for guys or gals to look at porno mags. But would I buy them for a s/o? Well maybe....I don't know if I would make a ritual out of it, but it could be fun to look at it together once in awhile, you know?
But by being intolerant of it, you're only going to alienate some damned good men, men that don't objectify women. Men that truly cherish women for all of their natural beauty. My husband looks at other women (and men, as well). He also looks at porn. Porn's not my thing, but then, I'm also a more emotional and verbal person. He's more visual-stimuli-based. He looks at both sexes, and admires their many forms. He doesn't hold sexually hurtful thoughts towards women. He doesn't call women abusive names. He hardly even raises his voice to me (and never to another woman). He just likes the visual stimuli that porn offers. I think that in many ways, women in their fight for equality, have made men into monsters for things that come natural to them, but that some men have taken to hurtful and abusive extremes. MOST men are visual, and like pictures of sexual activity. But some men victimise women to get those pictures. And then all men are punished because a few men got some sick notion. Watching porn, or any other form of visual sexual stimulation is NORMAL in men (and some women).
I wouldn't mind if my s/o had porn mags, but would I buy them for him? Probably not...LOL I think that would be a weird thing to just go and buy someone LOL.
You know what? Yes, porn makes some super-sensitive-to-magazines-and-not-taught-very-well guys expect real women in real life to look like they do in the magazines, but I've not yet encountered one who won't sleep with a woman with a hairy downstairs, a tummy, or any of that. I think it makes some guys think everyday women look like that, but they quickly realize the truth when they actually start having sex. Like any movie I'd rent, I know it's not real but it provides me with a bit of entertainment! I have a bit of an issue with it when they use the words "whores" and "bitches" in the title, but whatever, I'll deal because it's just another word they use to make it sound more exciting and taboo.
This is a great point, Holly. I've never quite been able to define why porn isn't a big deal to me, but what you said here hits it right on the head. Porno mags don't bother me a bit. In general, they're a lot more tame than porn on the net. I'd buy my s/o a dirty mag if he asked me to, although I don't see why I'd be in that situation when he's perfectly capable of buying it himself. I bought my friend a porno mag and sent it to him in a care-package (which included lots of candy) when he was in the army and he loved me for it.
Yeah exactly, the internet would worry me because the stuff can be everso dodgy, but stuff in magazines wouldnt. My boyfriend doesnt like porn, but if he did, a few magazines would be ok. He just doesnt really feel the need though when he has me, and hes also more an emotional person i think, a few sweaty boobies doesnt compare to a warm cuddle and a romantic night and, well, real boobies. Aah
I don't intend to tell other people what is right or wrong and I'm glad that most people who have responded seem comfortable with it... but I am way more glad that I am with somebody who doesn't want anything to do with that stuff... it really makes me feel good to know that the only stimulation my man needs or wants is me. porn or no porn I hope everybody finds happiness
Just for the sake of argument, are either of you implying that a man wouldn't feel the need to look at porn if he were sexually satisfied in the relationship?
I really don't care. Cody hid a HUGE stack of them from me when I first moved in with him under his bed. I was cleaning the house one day and came across them while he was at work. So, I took them all out, organized them, put some of them away again, but left a few out and was looking at one when he got home. The look on his face was hilarious! I just made it known that it wasn't a big deal. I look at it, he looks at it, we look at it together...we're fine with it. Actually, I think I do more than he does. He's got a few things that he likes to watch, but he never really does.
Truthfully, it really makes me feel like crap when my boy looks at porn. True or not it makes me feel like i'm not good enough. There he is looking at all these perfect women and then he expects me to feel comfortable naked? No way. I'm really a big hyprocrit because I love looking at porn, but my mind is dirty and you will all hate me, but I love watching whores being whores, it's not their body that turns me on it's the acts they preform... but in my mind when my man is watching it, it's because they have everything I don't, that he wants.. make any sense?
