what do you do with them? especially if their nude. do they go into the trash or stay in the wallet/purse/frame ect. and how do you move on? do you get rid of everything that reminds you of them or not?
you post em all over the net for ppl to ridicule just kiddin but it really depends onthe situation but if your really not moving on, \ take every lil thing & burry it once & for all...have your tearfull goodbyree or your "dance on his/her grave" whichever feels right & move on changing your hair or something silly like that too can help u seperate yourself from who u were when u ewere with them
I throw away 99% of them but hold on to 1 or 2. regardless of how messy the break up was, they did provide for good times. for memories sake and as a reference point, I hold on to those few packed away. I don't want to erase part of my life, no portion!! my gf has a few pictures herself. its okay as long as it is a few.
my boyfriends got a folder of pics of his ex's (nudes) on his computer. needless to say he doesn't know i know...and for some reason it doesn't bug me too much so i find no need to mention them
Good question and always a little uncomfortable dealing with it after a breakup. I know it was still painful to deal with even with a mutual-decision breakup that I had with a recent ex. Most of what he gave me I could use and still is useful today. When it comes to jewelery I keep it. Call it crazy but it's still a pearl necklace or gold ring (not wedding band), and as uncomfortable as it does seem, even if I don't wear those nor wear them in the same way, I still remember with fondness the memories we had (especially memories worth remembering ). I've also felt very uncomfortable with certain gifts from other relationships that found no other place but in the garbage after years had passed. You will know what to do, and it will feel right. Life goes on. I may keep one or two pictures of them if we're still close friends, if not, they go in the trash. I personally keep no pictures of myself with an ex (hugging/kissing/whatever) together under any circumstances. For me, it does not feel right or fair to the partner I'm with right now. One thing I did learn is that no matter how negative and/or painful a break up, we can never erase memories. We can only replace them with new ones.
I keep momentos that are important to me. Because I have a son with my ex husband I have a lot of his pictures and things and when my son is older I will let him have them. I keep them in a shoebox on a shelf that I have not opened in years. My current husband knows they are there and doesn't care. He also has pictures of his ex wife...... I am secure enough in myself and my spouse so these things don't bug us. We both figure the other has a past, and there is no point in denying it.
i still have my pictures of exes, but none are nudes. i think id delete the nudes or crop out the nudity and keep the rest. mind you oim only really bitter about one ex, i like all my other exes soooo
keep it . i keep all his pics i dont know why . maybe he s so important to me . i still miss him a lot . but i cant . and i shouldnt .
I would pitch them, they could come back to haunt you later. Plus, whats the point they will probably never be looked at again if you are over it.
Personally, I would store them in a place where you would never have to look at them again. That way you would know that you had neither ditched them nor remained attached to them.
I think its important to consider how you might feel about your partner having pictures of their ex Personally i feel that having maybe one pic of your ex is okay, but then again I'm not that sentimental. If you have moved on into another relationhsip since then I think its best to purge yourself of exes stuff to keep the negativity of past relationships having an affect on your present one. Personally, I would prefer my boyfriends exes all vanished... oh, nah some of them are okay.. I guess.... But yeah when we live together, I guess I have this hope that he wont feel a need to keep stuff from past relationships.
I usually keep a few just for the memories. But I normally take them out of frames, etc. and put them away in a box. I try to have the pictures I keep on display represent my current life and who's in it.
I think i've got rid of all my exes' pictures. I have no reason to hold on to them, I've never felt as good as I do with my boyfriend. The past is just that, the past and I just don't care about any of them now.
I guess I'm sentimental. I don't keep nudie pics, though. That would be awkward if I got married one day and my husband/wife found nudie pics of an ex. uh, yeah. I usually just keep one or two pics from each one. Although my last ex and I are still really good friends, so I have kept more of him. Of course me and him made a pact that the past is the past and we don't talk about those times anymore. It's been almost 2 years since we broke up, so we have plenty of memories to talk over that don't involve our old relationship...that is a rare case, though, as he's one of only two exes I've remained friends with. The others I don't talk to anymore.
it depends on if you can handle to have them around. For me, I lock them away for a while and if there is any urge going back and looking at them knowing that they are locked away breaks that urge. and after enough time, it goes all away and the next time i get across them they just stay as a memory, no good or bad feelings. Then you know that enough time has passed and can easily decide what you want to do with them.
Keep a few pics in case your ex goes nuts over the break-up, breaks into your house and steals your dog....that way you'll have last-seen-with photos of them to tack up on the missing dog flyers.
I tend to keep all ex-related memories in a box hidden in a sae place. Then I can always go back to it, but it's out of mind until you do.
